annemayer
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I am particular about time. I try to always be prompt and when I am not going to be,I call. If for some reason I cannot call,I apologize immediately and feel bad about it. My husband makes deliveries and if he is late,he is to apologize,and always call as well - the business he works for would be pi$$ed if he showed up late because it is unprofessional. But today I found myself in a situation where I am questioning my upbringing and thoughts as to what is considered courtesy.
We had no heat,so our landlord hired someone to come out,and they were to be here between 12 and 2. It was painfully cold and a few times I felt like leaving for a while and just going to the store to get warm,but couldn't since I didn't want to be gone when they arrived. 2 comes around,no one here. I call the office of the company,no answer. Now,I'm freezing,so are my kids,and I think,ok,now what...I really want to get out of here and get warm,but I stay. At 2:45,they arrive,and I say I called your office a few times,I wasn't sure if you were coming or not,and the guy says "Be grateful I showed up at all". Not sorry we were late,nothing.. I was shocked. I tell him that is pretty unprofessional,and rude. He then informs me he is actually a relative of our landlord and that he was squeezing us into the schedule. So I say ok,I didn't realize that,I would have appreciated a phone call even still.After all,even though to him I am just some renter,I am paying to be here,it isn't as if I am being done a favor by having the service provided. Both of us acknowledged the disagreement,and were very cordial after that,or so I thought, and that is how it was left. Within minutes of him leaving,I get a call from the landlord he is related to,who is clearly angry I said anything at all-apparently the guy contacted him immediately after leaving. My landlord seems to be not only angry with me for saying anything but also feels I was unreasonable to even have wanted a call.
I know I can be a brusque personality,and I rub some of you the wrong way,but in this situation,when I don't know that this guy is a family member squeezing us in,was I wrong to have mentioned being late at all? I mean,if I were the owner of the home and this was just some company I hired,I would have just said forget it,leave. So,when my landlord knows I had no idea they were related or that this was a favor,should he be so angry with me? If I was wrong,I would like to know. I would change the way I am about being on time if I had a reason to think it was wrong,but I have never in my life felt it was not common courtesy to be prompt or at least call if you weren't going to be. I would have not said anything had i known the circumstances,but since I didn't,I was holding them to the same standard I myself,my husband,and any professional are held to. Let me have it-if you feel I am a jerk IN THIS SITUATION please tell me so. I genuinely don't think I am wrong here,but we all have things that we need to improve,so maybe I am.
We had no heat,so our landlord hired someone to come out,and they were to be here between 12 and 2. It was painfully cold and a few times I felt like leaving for a while and just going to the store to get warm,but couldn't since I didn't want to be gone when they arrived. 2 comes around,no one here. I call the office of the company,no answer. Now,I'm freezing,so are my kids,and I think,ok,now what...I really want to get out of here and get warm,but I stay. At 2:45,they arrive,and I say I called your office a few times,I wasn't sure if you were coming or not,and the guy says "Be grateful I showed up at all". Not sorry we were late,nothing.. I was shocked. I tell him that is pretty unprofessional,and rude. He then informs me he is actually a relative of our landlord and that he was squeezing us into the schedule. So I say ok,I didn't realize that,I would have appreciated a phone call even still.After all,even though to him I am just some renter,I am paying to be here,it isn't as if I am being done a favor by having the service provided. Both of us acknowledged the disagreement,and were very cordial after that,or so I thought, and that is how it was left. Within minutes of him leaving,I get a call from the landlord he is related to,who is clearly angry I said anything at all-apparently the guy contacted him immediately after leaving. My landlord seems to be not only angry with me for saying anything but also feels I was unreasonable to even have wanted a call.
I know I can be a brusque personality,and I rub some of you the wrong way,but in this situation,when I don't know that this guy is a family member squeezing us in,was I wrong to have mentioned being late at all? I mean,if I were the owner of the home and this was just some company I hired,I would have just said forget it,leave. So,when my landlord knows I had no idea they were related or that this was a favor,should he be so angry with me? If I was wrong,I would like to know. I would change the way I am about being on time if I had a reason to think it was wrong,but I have never in my life felt it was not common courtesy to be prompt or at least call if you weren't going to be. I would have not said anything had i known the circumstances,but since I didn't,I was holding them to the same standard I myself,my husband,and any professional are held to. Let me have it-if you feel I am a jerk IN THIS SITUATION please tell me so. I genuinely don't think I am wrong here,but we all have things that we need to improve,so maybe I am.