ask.fm?

[Misfit]

This site is becoming really popular with teens; you can set up an account with a dummy e-mail and then respond to people anonymously.


http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-leicestershire-23584769#TWEET847023

A 14-year-old Leicestershire girl killed herself after being bullied on a social networking site, her father has claimed.

Hannah Smith, from Lutterworth, was found hanged on Friday.

Mr Smith has called for tighter controls to be applied to social networking sites such as ask.fm.

He wrote: "I have just seen the abuse my daughter got from people on ask fm and the fact that these people can be annoymous is wrong [sic]."

On a Facebook page set up in memory of his daughter, he asked people to sign an e-petition to introduce safeguarding measures on sites used by children.

 

[ZARA]

And this is why parents must monitor their children's internet activity and pay attention to their mood swings! If something is wrong, badger the lil chit until they tell you!

 

[Misfit]

And this is why parents must monitor their children's internet activity and pay attention to their mood swings! If something is wrong, badger the lil chit until they tell you!

We are on a wi-fi ban in our house because of this site.

 

[Toxick]

Mr Smith has called for tighter controls to be applied to social networking sites such as ask.fm.

He wrote: "I have just seen the abuse my daughter got from people on ask fm and the fact that these people can be annoymous is wrong [sic]."

While this is horrifically tragic and I can't even begin to imagine his pain, maybe Mr Smith should have paid closer attention to what his fragile 14 year old daughter was doing online, rather than blaming the fact that anonymous people are inherently douchewads and sites like that exist.

It's not the anonymity that's the problem. The problem comes from a person's inability to handle the rough and tumble of a anonymous hostile online environment, yet deliberately subject themselves to it beyond the point of sanity.



If you're sitting at a computer keyboard, any bullying that comes through the monitor is voluntary accepted. There's a power button RIGHT THERE. There's the address bar RIGHT THERE. Unless you're chained to the desk, walk away.

Nobody should be subjected to that kind of behavior, but nobody had a gun to her head to remain at this website.




So sad, and such a waste.

 

[ZARA]

I have the passwords to all my son's internet accounts. And when he changes them, he gives me the passwords. I haven't used them unless I need too (Him asking me to get something from his email or what not) but I have them.

I also monitor all cookies after he runs the cleaners. He knows the three wipers clean out cookies, but two of them keep logs of every action performed. I no longer use keylogger, he doesn't know that. Yet. lol But I use to have keylogger on all of my computers so I could monitor the kids and I made sure they knew it was there. I didn't want to catch them doing something wrong, I wanted to prevent them from doing it in the first place. Showing them screenshots and everything they typed on the PC is an excellent deterrent.

 

[Misfit]

While this is horrifically tragic and I can't even begin to imagine his pain, maybe Mr Smith should have paid closer attention to what his fragile 14 year old daughter was doing online, rather than blaming the fact that anonymous people are inherently douchewads and sites like that exist.

It's not the anonymity that's the problem. The problem comes from a person's inability to handle the rough and tumble of a anonymous hostile online environment, yet deliberately subject themselves to it beyond the point of sanity.



If you're sitting at a computer keyboard, any bullying that comes through the monitor is voluntary accepted. There's a power button RIGHT THERE. There's the address bar RIGHT THERE. Unless you're chained to the desk, walk away.

Nobody should be subjected to that kind of behavior, but nobody had a gun to her head to remain at this website.




So sad, and such a waste.

I agree...to a point. Unfortunately teenage girls (and some boys) aren’t known for being rational and will participate in sites like this as bullies and victims while keeping the entire thing secret. They can access this stuff so many different ways, phone, lap top, kindle, home computer, friends phone, i pad and these are just the ways I've caught. It doesn’t happen as easily on FB because you have a person attached to the profile, but with these sites just letting you anonymously comment makes for a dangerous environment.

 

[Misfit]

I have the passwords to all my son's internet accounts. And when he changes them, he gives me the passwords. I haven't used them unless I need too (Him asking me to get something from his email or what not) but I have them.

I also monitor all cookies after he runs the cleaners. He knows the three wipers clean out cookies, but two of them keep logs of every action performed. I no longer use keylogger, he doesn't know that. Yet. lol But I use to have keylogger on all of my computers so I could monitor the kids and I made sure they knew it was there. I didn't want to catch them doing something wrong, I wanted to prevent them from doing it in the first place. Showing them screenshots and everything they typed on the PC is an excellent deterrent.

I've done all this too, but because my kids think I'm stalking them (which I am), they network with their friends and open these accounts on their friends mobile devices. It's exhausting. Whatever happened to going outside and playing?

 

[Cheeky1]

I have the passwords to all my son's internet accounts. And when he changes them, he gives me the passwords. I haven't used them unless I need too (Him asking me to get something from his email or what not) but I have them.

I also monitor all cookies after he runs the cleaners. He knows the three wipers clean out cookies, but two of them keep logs of every action performed. I no longer use keylogger, he doesn't know that. Yet. lol But I use to have keylogger on all of my computers so I could monitor the kids and I made sure they knew it was there. I didn't want to catch them doing something wrong, I wanted to prevent them from doing it in the first place. Showing them screenshots and everything they typed on the PC is an excellent deterrent.

Have you thought about setting up a second profile with no admin rights?

You set all the internet settings up front and your kids can't change them unless they supply your admin password. Going about it this way you can still monitor their keystrokes if you wish, but can also exert a lot of control if need be. You can always lock this profile (so your kids can't access it at all) if you find that online-rules have been broken.

 

[vraiblonde]

It's not the anonymity that's the problem. The problem comes from a person's inability to handle the rough and tumble of a anonymous hostile online environment, yet deliberately subject themselves to it beyond the point of sanity.



If you're sitting at a computer keyboard, any bullying that comes through the monitor is voluntary accepted. There's a power button RIGHT THERE. There's the address bar RIGHT THERE. Unless you're chained to the desk, walk away.

I have nothing to add to this.

 

[ZARA]

I've done all this too, but because my kids think I'm stalking them (which I am), they network with their friends and open these accounts on their friends mobile devices. It's exhausting. Whatever happened to going outside and playing?

I know. It makes me glad I put the Fear of Mom into my son a long time ago. He doesn't have a smart phone, he doesn't have internet on his phone. He has a cheap phone that he can text on but has to use the number pad to do it. Poor thing...I remember txting without a keyboard...it sucked! But I don't feel he needs all the bells and whistles. He (MIGHT) get a smart phone for his 18th (Nov). Maybe.

It's our job to stalk them. How the hell else are we suppose to protect them against dangers we can't see, especially when the stupid, sneaky, know-it-all lil chits hides things from the parents?

 

[ZARA]

Have you thought about setting up a second profile with no admin rights?

You set all the internet settings up front and your kids can't change them unless they supply your admin password. Going about it this way you can still monitor their keystrokes if you wish, but can also exert a lot of control if need be. You can always lock this profile (so your kids can't access it at all) if you find that online-rules have been broken.

They have never broken any of the rules. My youngest will be 18 in Nov. It's time for me to loosen the apron string...lmao

 

[itsbob]

This site is becoming really popular with teens; you can set up an account with a dummy e-mail and then respond to people anonymously.


http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-leicestershire-23584769#TWEET847023

A 14-year-old Leicestershire girl killed herself after being bullied on a social networking site, her father has claimed.

Hannah Smith, from Lutterworth, was found hanged on Friday.

Mr Smith has called for tighter controls to be applied to social networking sites such as ask.fm.

He wrote: "I have just seen the abuse my daughter got from people on ask fm and the fact that these people can be annoymous is wrong [sic]."

On a Facebook page set up in memory of his daughter, he asked people to sign an e-petition to introduce safeguarding measures on sites used by children.

Couldn't she have just stopped going to the site??

 

[pelers]

Couldn't she have just stopped going to the site??

...and now we circle back around to that old personal responsibility argument.

 

[Cheeky1]

...and now we circle back around to that old personal responsibility argument.

It's the sites fault. Of course, it should be banned and taken down!




























Seriously, though, there is some real trash out there on the net. Pay attention to your kids, what they are looking at, and who they talk/interact with. The internet makes this easier than ever! The internet is easily trackable.