Ken,
I hear what you are saying. I didn't mean it to be the way it came off. You are correct...a couple does grow individually and together.
However, it seems to me...that the first time a guy finds himself in a serious relationship...the woman he is with has to teach him a few things. It's not so much that he isn't wanting to change...or that the woman is trying to change him...or that the woman wants to teach... just that he doesn't know certain things and it naturally happens so that the woman teaches him. Some men were lucky enough to have been taught while they were young. Unfortuanately, some men have to be taught by the first woman. It's not a bad thing. I've just noticed a difference in men in their first serious relationship...and thereafter...in the little things.
Ofcourse, in any relationship....the male and the female learn from each other and help each other grow...
Sharon,
My perspective is that...woman get more frustrated as they progress into relationships
...so that last guy will end up experiencing all of her frustrations. The first guy gets to experience the sweet and innocent woman.