Cats STILL not getting along

[UNA]

Anyone have any advice? I have a 9 year old and a 3 year old cat, both female. They don't exactly get along but I don't expect them to be cuddling up at night (though it would be cute ) I'd love it if they stopped fighting and keeping each other from the cat litter!

We have 3 floors so plenty of places to hide form each other but they don't. We have 3 litters (one on each floor) but they mainly use the one. I've heard I should get second food and water dishes. Will that help? We con't even let them in out bedroom anymore because they end up fighting over who gets to sleep in the bed (apparently two cats can't share a queen sized bed!)

Also, the 3 year old has asthma so we don't want to give her any of those supplements that are supposed to settle her down as she is often the one who starts things.

We're at a total loss here, we'll never get rid of either but we just don't know what to do anymore! You can imagine how two female cats display their displeasure with each other ... the 9 year old has gotten a little 'territorial' if you know what I mean...

 

[Mdbtyhtr]

untie their tails!

 

[hvp05]

I have two girls who are separated [in age] by 1 year. Got the older one first and the kitten shortly after. The kitten was dominant right away. Seven years later, they have calmed down for the most part, but the younger one still has dominance issues with the food bowl and litter boxes. I've tried numerous tactics, but I think she is hardwired that way. :shrug:

 

[Roman]

Cats

Anyone have any advice? I have a 9 year old and a 3 year old cat, both female. They don't exactly get along but I don't expect them to be cuddling up at night (though it would be cute ) I'd love it if they stopped fighting and keeping each other from the cat litter!

We have 3 floors so plenty of places to hide form each other but they don't. We have 3 litters (one on each floor) but they mainly use the one. I've heard I should get second food and water dishes. Will that help? We con't even let them in out bedroom anymore because they end up fighting over who gets to sleep in the bed (apparently two cats can't share a queen sized bed!)

Also, the 3 year old has asthma so we don't want to give her any of those supplements that are supposed to settle her down as she is often the one who starts things.

We're at a total loss here, we'll never get rid of either but we just don't know what to do anymore! You can imagine how two female cats display their displeasure with each other ... the 9 year old has gotten a little 'territorial' if you know what I mean...

I have the same problem. Two female cats that don't care for each other. I think the multiple Litter Box is the thing, along with having dishes of food set in different parts of the house. It works for me, but they still don't really get along. I think this is something we just have to deal with on a day, by day basis.

 

[UNA]

I have the same problem. Two female cats that don't care for each other. I think the multiple Litter Box is the thing, along with having dishes of food set in different parts of the house. It works for me, but they still don't really get along. I think this is something we just have to deal with on a day, by day basis.

Thanks, I'm holding out hope for a magic cure

I'll try the food dished thing though!

What a pain!! But we love them anyways

 

[Katelin]

Thanks, I'm holding out hope for a magic cure

I'll try the food dished thing though!

What a pain!! But we love them anyways

May not be the magic cure..but thry this:

It is not a territorial issue...too big a space..but it is a territorial on a smaller point.
Go ahead and do as suggested, second box, second food and water dish set up in a different area.

When the trouble maker starts making trouble, smack her gently on the butt and say "NO!!" This breaks her aggression an redirects it to you..the Momma.

Give them both time alone with you let one sleep with you and switch off every night.

If one cat has asthma, treat her as directed by her vet. Perhaps she does not feel well and that triggers the aggression.

Cats are like kids and get into fights, and you, the mom, need to step in, gently smack on on the butt and say NO. In time they will get the idea.

Dont give up on them.!!!!

 

[RedBaron]

Thanks, I'm holding out hope for a magic cure

I'll try the food dished thing though!

What a pain!! But we love them anyways

Turn one of them into kitten chow mein

 

[Roman]

cats

May not be the magic cure..but thry this:

It is not a territorial issue...too big a space..but it is a territorial on a smaller point.
Go ahead and do as suggested, second box, second food and water dish set up in a different area.

When the trouble maker starts making trouble, smack her gently on the butt and say "NO!!" This breaks her aggression an redirects it to you..the Momma.

Give them both time alone with you let one sleep with you and switch off every night.

If one cat has asthma, treat her as directed by her vet. Perhaps she does not feel well and that triggers the aggression.

Cats are like kids and get into fights, and you, the mom, need to step in, gently smack on on the butt and say NO. In time they will get the idea.

Dont give up on them.!!!!

Maybe use a squirt bottle if you don't want to tap her on the butt. That cured my Sister's cat's problem. You made some VERY good points!

 

[Katelin]

Maybe use a squirt bottle if you don't want to tap her on the butt. That cured my Sister's cat's problem. You made some VERY good points!

I have a lot of small plastic bottles with a few pieces of gravel in each one..when kitties start fighting, I shake one and then toss it in their general direction..breaks up the hissing and it gets to a point where all I need to do is just shake it...they look at me and stop fighting!!!

 

[UNA]

May not be the magic cure..but thry this:

It is not a territorial issue...too big a space..but it is a territorial on a smaller point.
Go ahead and do as suggested, second box, second food and water dish set up in a different area.

When the trouble maker starts making trouble, smack her gently on the butt and say "NO!!" This breaks her aggression an redirects it to you..the Momma.

Give them both time alone with you let one sleep with you and switch off every night.

If one cat has asthma, treat her as directed by her vet. Perhaps she does not feel well and that triggers the aggression.

Cats are like kids and get into fights, and you, the mom, need to step in, gently smack on on the butt and say NO. In time they will get the idea.

Dont give up on them.!!!!

We already have the "one box per cat plus one" so I'll try the separate food. I never thought of letting them switch off at night though! We just shut them both out completely so I'll give that a try too!

Thanks!!!

 

[UNA]

Maybe use a squirt bottle if you don't want to tap her on the butt. That cured my Sister's cat's problem. You made some VERY good points!

I used to do that with our old cats but the cat with asthma has "asthma triggered by stress and allergies" so I'm afraid it will stress her out if she gets sprayed and trigger an attack (she is on meds and we have a rescue inhaler, but I don't want to cause her undue stress) ...I know, I'm spoiling them

Thanks though!

 

[UNA]

I have a lot of small plastic bottles with a few pieces of gravel in each one..when kitties start fighting, I shake one and then toss it in their general direction..breaks up the hissing and it gets to a point where all I need to do is just shake it...they look at me and stop fighting!!!

Also a good idea, doesn't seem like would stress out our little asthma kitty as much as water or smacking her butt!

To Wal Mart!

 

[residualvisuals]

Also a good idea, doesn't seem like would stress out our little asthma kitty as much as water or smacking her butt!

To Wal Mart!

If you ever have to intervene and aren't comfortable smacking their butts (too hard, too soft, whatever), there's always getting a firm grip on their scruff. Mama cat used to grab it when they were babies to make a point, get their attention, or whatever the case may be, and it's another good tool for redirection and showing assertion. You're the boss.

 

[UNA]

If you ever have to intervene and aren't comfortable smacking their butts (too hard, too soft, whatever), there's always getting a firm grip on their scruff. Mama cat used to grab it when they were babies to make a point, get their attention, or whatever the case may be, and it's another good tool for redirection and showing assertion. You're the boss.

Good idea, I'll have to work on my speed though

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

If you ever have to intervene and aren't comfortable smacking their butts (too hard, too soft, whatever), there's always getting a firm grip on their scruff. Mama cat used to grab it when they were babies to make a point, get their attention, or whatever the case may be, and it's another good tool for redirection and showing assertion. You're the boss.

Just try not to look at their faces when you do that.
The wide-eyed "HOLY ***T!" look they get when you do that is HILARIOUS!

 

[residualvisuals]

Just try not to look at their faces when you do that.
The wide-eyed "HOLY ***T!" look they get when you do that is HILARIOUS!

Hah, and their ears all cocked back like, "WTF lady?"

 

[residualvisuals]

Good idea, I'll have to work on my speed though

Usually when my boys are in a tangle, they're more concerned with the other cat than me. They'll chase each other a bit, but most of the time they're just balls of fur that I can reach into and grab a cat out of.

 

[UNA]

Usually when my boys are in a tangle, they're more concerned with the other cat than me. They'll chase each other a bit, but most of the time they're just balls of fur that I can reach into and grab a cat out of.

That's the weird thing, they don't really right they stalk each other, stare each other down and bat at each other. The younger one guards me, keeps the older one from the main litter box...but then she chases her and wants to play (I guess). Pain in the butt

 

[Dakota]

My 2 conspire against me...