Choosing Godparents
- Thread starter Speedy70
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You can have as many godparents as you like. Then you should appoint me Godparent Wrangler in case they get out of line 
Nickel
curiouser and curiouser
It's your kid, you can do whatever you want. :shrug: My son has a godmother, no godfather.Speedy70 said:I plan on checking with our church, but has anyone here ever heard of having two godmothers and one godfather for their child? Does it make a difference these days?
Hubby and I each have a choice for a godmother.
CableChick
Loved
In the Catholic Church our boys were baptized in we were only allowed to pick one godmother and one godfather.
Speedy70 said:I plan on checking with our church, but has anyone here ever heard of having two godmothers and one godfather for their child? Does it make a difference these days?
Hubby and I each have a choice for a godmother.
I think it may depend on the priest at each church, but when my sister asked she was told that they must have at least one of each, you couldn't have two godmothers and no godfather, but you could have two godmothers as long as you also had a godfather.
I am one of my nephew's two godmothers.
Dymphna
Loyalty, Friendship, Love
My godchild has multiple godparents. I kinda felt that it was the parent's way of including someone to represent both sides, his and hers, and to appease any grumbling...("would you look at that, those are all HER friends...it's HIS child too. You'd think she'd let him have a say.") Personally, I feel like a consolation to appease the grumblers, rather than a real godparent.
(Honey, if we pick only MY friends, your mother will have a fit. We need someone... who in your family still goes to church? anyone?)
And so I got appointed.
Although it's do-able, may I suggest you each pick one godparent.
When we first started talking about godparents for our children, my husband and I disagreed so strongly, it took almost four years to settle the issue.
Part of our problem was his misconception that a godparent needed to act as some sort of alternate parent in the event of the parents' death. (um, no dear that's what a will is for) In some cultures that IS an expectation, but not here. Because of this, he felt we needed to pick a couple, ideally a married couple. He wanted his best friend (I had no issue there) and the friend's wife (who I barely knew) The alternate in his mind would be to pick one of our married siblings with their spouse. There were issues with that as well, mostly in that few of them still went to church. Then there was the issue of...ok, they go to A church, but NOT the denomination we'd (really I, since it mattered more to me than him) chosen. This limited our options to...well, almost no one.
In the end, we moved and I told him I was going to the local church baptism class and finding out what THEY said on the subject, because we now had TWO, soon to be three children. This was a Catholic Church, and the rules for godparents were as follows...
You could pick however many you wanted, but ONE of them had to meet all the criteria. Any who didn't meet the rules would be labeled officially as a "Christian Witness." (Rules for Christian Witness are to be a Christian regularly attending some church somewhere)
Godparents by their rules are:
1. Confirmed in the Catholic Church.
2. 16+ years old
3. Regular attendee at a Catholic Church.
Well that settled our arguments right there. We knew two people who fit all the rules... My 80+ yo grandmother and his 60+ yo aunt in Alabama.
So in the end, technically, all three of my children have only one godparent total...Grandma. We did check into having the aunt come for a visit, but it didn't work out. We picked a male "Christian Witness" from among his friends.
(Honey, if we pick only MY friends, your mother will have a fit. We need someone... who in your family still goes to church? anyone?)
And so I got appointed.
Although it's do-able, may I suggest you each pick one godparent.
When we first started talking about godparents for our children, my husband and I disagreed so strongly, it took almost four years to settle the issue.
Part of our problem was his misconception that a godparent needed to act as some sort of alternate parent in the event of the parents' death. (um, no dear that's what a will is for) In some cultures that IS an expectation, but not here. Because of this, he felt we needed to pick a couple, ideally a married couple. He wanted his best friend (I had no issue there) and the friend's wife (who I barely knew) The alternate in his mind would be to pick one of our married siblings with their spouse. There were issues with that as well, mostly in that few of them still went to church. Then there was the issue of...ok, they go to A church, but NOT the denomination we'd (really I, since it mattered more to me than him) chosen. This limited our options to...well, almost no one.
In the end, we moved and I told him I was going to the local church baptism class and finding out what THEY said on the subject, because we now had TWO, soon to be three children. This was a Catholic Church, and the rules for godparents were as follows...
You could pick however many you wanted, but ONE of them had to meet all the criteria. Any who didn't meet the rules would be labeled officially as a "Christian Witness." (Rules for Christian Witness are to be a Christian regularly attending some church somewhere)
Godparents by their rules are:
1. Confirmed in the Catholic Church.
2. 16+ years old
3. Regular attendee at a Catholic Church.
Well that settled our arguments right there. We knew two people who fit all the rules... My 80+ yo grandmother and his 60+ yo aunt in Alabama.
So in the end, technically, all three of my children have only one godparent total...Grandma. We did check into having the aunt come for a visit, but it didn't work out. We picked a male "Christian Witness" from among his friends.
puffball
New Member
My daughter has a Godmother and a Godfather. My son has a Godfather and 2 Godmothers :shrug:Speedy70 said:I plan on checking with our church, but has anyone here ever heard of having two godmothers and one godfather for their child? Does it make a difference these days?
Hubby and I each have a choice for a godmother.