Discussing Marriage

[forever jewel]

A friend of mine has been dating her bf for little over a year. They've been joking about marriage for a while now, but haven't really discussed it seriously. He seems to think discussing the possibility of marriage is equivalent to proposing.

I think you should at least discuss it to determine if the relationship is right for you. What do you all think?

 

[Vince]

Marriage??!! No!! Don't do it!!

 

[Bronwyn]

No way! He needs to do it right!

 

[Chasey_Lane]

No way! He needs to do it right!

And what is the "right" way?

 

[Bronwyn]

And what is the "right" way?

I myself, like the romantic way. Something creative would be better too. Someone I know wrote it in the sand on the beach by their house and then asked his g/f to go for a walk with him.

But I guess there is no "one" right way.

 

[Larry Gude]

I think...

A friend of mine has been dating her bf for little over a year. They've been joking about marriage for a while now, but haven't really discussed it seriously. He seems to think discussing the possibility of marriage is equivalent to proposing.

I think you should at least discuss it to determine if the relationship is right for you. What do you all think?

...your friend and her BF should be in this thread.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

I myself, like the romantic way. Something creative would be better too. Someone I know wrote it in the sand on the beach by their house and then asked his g/f to go for a walk with him.

But I guess there is no "one" right way.

Do you think discussing marriage is the same as proposing? Personally, I don't think they're the same.

 

[Bronwyn]

Do you think discussing marriage is the same as proposing? Personally, I don't think they're the same.

No, if I was engaged to every bf that talked about marriage ...

I think couples should discuss marriage to see if they have the same ideas and goals in life. They may find that they don't and that's good so they can move on. Talking about it doesn't make it written in stone!

 

[Nickel]

They're obviously not the same thing, but from what you say, it sounds like he's not comfortable discussing marriage at this point. :shrug: Maybe he's afraid that if he tells her he doesn't want to get married any time soon, she'll bail. Either way, no good can come from her forcing him to talk about something he doesn't want to talk about.

 

[mAlice]

I don't think men should propose in public. Don't make us wimmens humiliate you if we don't want to get married.

 

[forever jewel]

They're obviously not the same thing, but from what you say, it sounds like he's not comfortable discussing marriage at this point. :shrug: Maybe he's afraid that if he tells her he doesn't want to get married any time soon, she'll bail. Either way, no good can come from her forcing him to talk about something he doesn't want to talk about.

Well I think he is thinking more seriously about marriage than she is. She isn't ready for that commitment yet and is worried that discussing it with him will set it in stone (after what he told her before).

 

[Bronwyn]

What timing!

Creative Marriage Proposal

 

[pixiegirl]

I don't think men should propose in public. Don't make us wimmens humiliate you if we don't want to get married.

I agree 3000%! Thank God I've never had that happen but I have been put in very awkward situations in front of family and friends by overly anxious boyfriends. I don't want to have to make you look like a donkey in front of your friends and family but I will if I have to.

 

[Nickel]

Well I think he is thinking more seriously about marriage than she is. She isn't ready for that commitment yet and is worried that discussing it with him will set it in stone (after what he told her before).

Oh, well I didn't get any of that from your first post. My opinion still stands though, if someone doesn't want to talk about marriage then they shouldn't have to. It's then the other person's responsibility to decide if they're okay with that.

 

[camily]

And what is the "right" way?

:shrug: Honey, the stick turned blue?

 

[Vince]

:shrug: Honey, the stick turned blue?

 

[mainman]

I agree 3000%! Thank God I've never had that happen but I have been put in very awkward situations in front of family and friends by overly anxious boyfriends. I don't want to have to make you look like a donkey in front of your friends and family but I will if I have to.

 

[pixiegirl]

I think you should come make me dinner tonight.

 

[camily]

I don't want to have to make you look like a donkey in front of your friends and family but I will if I have to.

That's a siggy line if I ever heard one!

 

[camily]

I think you should come make me dinner tonight.

:danglin'diner: