So....she has a number of things wrong, primarily the Iran school thing - that wasn't us or Israel, that was Iran's screw up. Next up....what did she think being in the military (aka armed forces) meant? Just like...money for nothing? Third, while it's tragic when we lose any of our military men and women, it really doesn't happen that often. Her husband likely won't even see combat because only 10-20% of enlisted people are in combat MOS.
So, you know, good for her that she got the attention she was so desperate for. She may have harmed her husband's career, and perhaps irreparably damaged her marriage, but....eh...choices.