kom526 said:
My FIL calls it house rich, mortgage poor. When my wife and I were looking to buy our 1st place (1995) we were approved for a $252,000 mortgage. Well she was a 2nd year teacher and I was still a couple of years from journeyman. There was no way in two hells we could have afforded that and do things like have electricity and eat. These folks who believe everything that mortgage companies tell them about what they qualify for really need a dose of reality.
This is a chronic problem with the lending industry. They allow people to clearly get in over their heads. When I bought my house I made a spreadsheet and calculated everything down to the penny. The mortgage I could comfortably afford was $189,000. I ended up having to go $199,000 but I had to cut back on savings. The bank came back with an approval of $260,000. No frickin way I could pay that mortgage and eat. Luckily the interest rate dropped half point and it ended up costing me less.
This problem with lending culminated with bankruptcy reform act last year. Lending and credit institutions lobbied hard and got it passed. Now I am a firm proponent of personal responsibility but it was

The lending industry bombards people everyday with bazillions of credit offers willy nilly. They have access to all your data, they know that you have a mortgage, $1400, car payment $500, credit card $100, consumer loan $140, insurance, utilities, ect. all on a monthly income of $40K? And they think you are a worthy risk?

They get people in trouble peddling credit like crack.
Now people have to be responsible and they are free to jam themselves up if they want to but the lending industry has to have some ethics as well. So what did they do, they got BRA passed so now people who are stupid enough to find themselves crushed under a mountain of debt can't even go bankrupt and start over, hopefully wiser. Now they have to sit through 7 or more years of structured payment plans and emerge no better off than they were before they went into it.