Families and death
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Larry Gude
Strung Out
I know...
...it's like, "look grandma, we all agreed that we need some money and you have the biggest inheritance. We even voted on it, as a family, and it was nearly unanimous. You lost. Sorry. Get over it. So, just eat your mushrooms and it'll all be over soon enough. I don't see why it's such a big deal for you to pay for your own funeral first and what do you care if your sister sits on front or back? Plus, we'll just dig you up, get a refund and cremate you anyway. It'd be easier if you'd just sign off on it now..."
People can be so selfish about these things.
What is it about the death of a family member that turns many families into raging #######s to each other? I see it so often these days.
Fighting over funeral arrangements, wills, who should attend, who shouldn't, buried or cremated?
I just don't get it.
...it's like, "look grandma, we all agreed that we need some money and you have the biggest inheritance. We even voted on it, as a family, and it was nearly unanimous. You lost. Sorry. Get over it. So, just eat your mushrooms and it'll all be over soon enough. I don't see why it's such a big deal for you to pay for your own funeral first and what do you care if your sister sits on front or back? Plus, we'll just dig you up, get a refund and cremate you anyway. It'd be easier if you'd just sign off on it now..."
People can be so selfish about these things.
BadGirl
I am so very blessed
I think our family was the most rational group of people in handling our loved one's death.
All of my sisters were totally agreeable in what to do, how to do it, and when to do it.
I do know that other families are not always so lucky, but we were blessed by having a common goal that we all agreed with.
All of my sisters were totally agreeable in what to do, how to do it, and when to do it.
I do know that other families are not always so lucky, but we were blessed by having a common goal that we all agreed with.
Christy
b*tch rocket
Now that you've hijacked my completely serious thread 
I'll have to respond in kind....<CENTER>When Grandfather dies
Life will be strange
When Grandfather dies
My whole world will change
When Grandfather dies
I'll scream and I'll yell
'Cause I'll be ####in' rich as hell
So Grandfather, die
Don't keep me in suspense
Oh Grandfather, cough
Up that inheritance
Oh Grandfather, don't
Hold on another day
I love you to death
But I've gots bills to pay
A stroke would be nice
Disease would be cool
I'll scatter his ashes
In my new swimming pool
I'll party with Hef
I'll dine with the Queen
So what say we unplug that machine?
Oh Grandfather, die
Before the fiscal year
Oh Grandfather, I
Wish Kevorkian were here
Oh Grandfather, die
Just take your final bow
Oh Grandfather, die
Family hates you anyhow
For God's sakes, you must be as old as the sun
Your Social Security Number is 1
You're deaf, dumb, and blind, and an amputee
You donate your blood every time that you pee
Your arthritis acts up whenever it rains
You're so old your penis has varicose veins
Oh, why don't you die, Grandpa?
Why must you fight?
You old mother####er
Just walk toward the goddamn light
Walk toward the light, old man
Walk toward the light, old man
It's all over now
My granddad is dead
A mysterious blow
To his wrinkled old head
Before I collect
A small oversight
But everything should work out all right
I'll start working on my grandma tonight </CENTER>
Larry Gude
Strung Out
That's...
...terrible! Have you no shame???
Did you write that?
...terrible! Have you no shame???
Did you write that?
punjabigyrl
Active Member
That is why I have a "WILL" that states everything and anything that has to do with my burial. Also, states who gets my money, how much of it, who in my family will be seeing everything after my death. Keeps all the damn commotion that people bring with them at a minimum. I update the will every year.
Christy
b*tch rocket
K
Kain99
Guest
God that's a great question. I used to think it was grief. I'm not so sure anymore. Greed seems to play a large part. Everyone wants to be seen as the hero and everyone wants their paws in the loot.
I am so sorry, that you are dealing with this.
I am so sorry, that you are dealing with this.
Bad, Christy, BAD! 
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Christy
b*tch rocket
My family too. My sister's husband wasn't so fortunate, his sister went in to total kook mode and screwed everyone in the family. It's a shame when people put possessions over each other.
The most recent drama I'm peripherally involved in is my friends mother is getting ready to pass. The one sister in the family is being an absolute beast.
Suz
33 yrs & we r still n luv
What is it about the death of a family member that turns many families into raging #######s to each other? I see it so often these days.
Fighting over funeral arrangements, wills, who should attend, who shouldn't, buried or cremated?
I just don't get it.
Or greed kicks in......
Christy
b*tch rocket
ocean733
New Member
<CENTER>When Grandfather dies
Life will be strange
When Grandfather dies
My whole world will change
When Grandfather dies
I'll scream and I'll yell
'Cause I'll be ####in' rich as hell
So Grandfather, die
Don't keep me in suspense
Oh Grandfather, cough
Up that inheritance
Oh Grandfather, don't
Hold on another day
I love you to death
But I've gots bills to pay
A stroke would be nice
Disease would be cool
I'll scatter his ashes
In my new swimming pool
I'll party with Hef
I'll dine with the Queen
So what say we unplug that machine?
Oh Grandfather, die
Before the fiscal year
Oh Grandfather, I
Wish Kevorkian were here
Oh Grandfather, die
Just take your final bow
Oh Grandfather, die
Family hates you anyhow
For God's sakes, you must be as old as the sun
Your Social Security Number is 1
You're deaf, dumb, and blind, and an amputee
You donate your blood every time that you pee
Your arthritis acts up whenever it rains
You're so old your penis has varicose veins
Oh, why don't you die, Grandpa?
Why must you fight?
You old mother####er
Just walk toward the goddamn light
Walk toward the light, old man
Walk toward the light, old man
It's all over now
My granddad is dead
A mysterious blow
To his wrinkled old head
Before I collect
A small oversight
But everything should work out all right
I'll start working on my grandma tonight </CENTER>
OMFG. I hate myself for just laughing out loud!!!
Christy
b*tch rocket
What is it about the death of a family member that turns many families into raging #######s to each other? I see it so often these days.
Fighting over funeral arrangements, wills, who should attend, who shouldn't, buried or cremated?
I just don't get it.
I am so glad to not have to deal with that kind of crap today.
BadGirl
I am so very blessed
I think that what made our situation so much easier to deal with is that we essentially had two and a half years to plan for my mother's death. Her stroke forced us to take appropriate action, and then all we had to do was wait until she finally passed. Of course, it was easier because she didn't have anything to leave behind. But in terms of the possessions, the house, and whatnot, it had already been done long before hand, without incident.
Now in my dad's case, his death by heart attack came unexpectedly, there was a tiny bit of strife, but nothing that we couldn't work out with very little effort.
I can't believe how blessed we were by our actions, and how we handled everything. My sisters are so damn wonderful.
oldman
Lobster Land
I've already got it planned out in my will where there can't be any fuss. You are all going to die in the future so what's so hard about stating your plans on paper now to prevent any fighting. Get a will now, change it along the way if needed. A simple will only costs $100, gosh. Get one now and give out copies and let them biatch at you now while you're still alive - which could give you reasons for changing it before the final day 
Vince
......
Christy honey, I don't know why there would be a fight over anything. I lost both parents three years ago and they went within 3 months of each other. Mom died in May of Cancer and Dad died in August. I think he went, I know this sounds corny, but he just missed her and went downhill. After all, they were together 52 years. But I have 2 brothers and they were great. We were never brought up to be greedy. Maybe that's because we were brought up Catholic and greed is a bad thing for us. Doesn't matter. Their deaths hurt us, but we got through it together. Guess it depends on how close the family is, and how you were raised. Funerals, wills, etc.? Has to be done, but it's nothing compared to the ones you lost and nothing to be argued over.What is it about the death of a family member that turns many families into raging #######s to each other? I see it so often these days.
Fighting over funeral arrangements, wills, who should attend, who shouldn't, buried or cremated?
I just don't get it.
Christy
b*tch rocket
I think the biggest issue they are going through is that this is going to be extremely hard on the husband. They've been together over 50 years and he's not taking any of this well at all. Sooo, the family decided that he really shouldn't spend an awful lot of time by himself and they set up a schedule for everyone to go spend time with him. The one sister never shows up when she's supposed to because she's so "busy". She's also not happy with the suggested funeral arrangements that everyone else in the family has agreed to because her friends would like to attend and what they've all settled on isn't very convenient for them.
She's making a hard enough situation downright unbearable.I've already got it worked out when either of my parents go, my sister will be in charge of EVERYTHING, I'm just gonna sit back and take orders. She likes being the mother hen.