There is extremism in cleaning as in any other thing. When you make guests uncomfortable with your cleaning habits, then maybe you ought to seek counseling.
I know a woman who once couldn't sit down and enjoy a meal, because as soon as someone was done with their salad fork, water glass, whatever, she would jump up and wash it immediately. She eventually went to couples counseling where it was revealed that she had some abandonment issues stemming back from her childhood which led her to believe that if everything in her house wasn't just so spotless that her husband and friends and kids might abandon her as well. She was actually driving everyone away with her clean freak behavior. Now she has a clean but normal house, and doesn't freak out when someone throws away something in her trash cans.