Good advice

[vraiblonde]

Someone posted this in the Love Letter announcements:

This is for all the young naive girls out there

Posted By: *
Date: Thursday, 20 October 2005, at 12:17 p.m.

*Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

*Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

*Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

*Slower is better.

*Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

*If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't be friends."A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

*Don't settle.

*If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

*Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

*The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

*Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

*Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

*Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you,speak up.

*You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

*Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more,nothing less.

*Never let a man define who you are.

*Never borrow someone else's man.

*If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

*You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two way street.

*You need time to heal between relationships...! There is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

*Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

*Never co-sign for a man.

*Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

 

[soul4sale]

Someone posted this in the Love Letter announcements:

Why Blondie, if I didn't know better, (and, believe me, I don't) I'd say you were embracing a liberal feminist philosophy! Wow! Believe me, I screen-captured this one...

Me, I take Kanye's advice:

"If you ain't no punk, holla 'We want prenup!'
(We want prenup, yeah!)
It's something that you need to have
Cuz when she leaves yo a$$
She gonna leave with half"

 

[Shetiger]

 

[rack'm]

This goes both ways.....

 

[mrweb]

This goes both ways.....

Hummm, maybe. I had the "talk" with my girls....that guys (well most of them) are only looking for one thing and say, do and act accordingly in order to get it. Girl #1 found this out dating losers and finally met a real [young] man who knows how to be a man first, and treat a woman accordingly. Girl #2 is slowly understanding this and acting accordingly. Call me old fashioned. I know my gender. Take this with a grain of salt rack'm, from a dad of my #1 and #2 girls. I agree to an extent, these days, from what I see, it does go both ways....oh how I show my age.

 

[rack'm]

Hummm, maybe. I had the "talk" with my girls....that guys (well most of them) are only looking for one thing and say, do and act accordingly in order to get it. Girl #1 found this out dating losers and finally met a real [young] man who knows how to be a man first, and treat a woman accordingly. Girl #2 is slowly understanding this and acting accordingly. Call me old fashioned. I know my gender. Take this with a grain of salt rack'm, from a dad of my #1 and #2 girls. I agree to an extent, these days, from what I see, it does go both ways....oh how I show my age.

I'm not saying men aren't dogs, they reap what they sew, but Men need to not settle either.

An old saying, "Women find men hoping to change them and they never do, men meet woman hoping they'll never change and they do." (or something close to this)