Good Friends or bad parents?

[Sadielady]

Did you ever have a friend who you loved hanging out with until they had children and/or you had children and realised their children were little monsters that you didn't want hanging around your children? I have a friend with twins that should be on nanny 911. When I bought a house I intentionally bought a house far enough away from them so they wouldn't visit too often. Her kids pull down their pants in public and go to the bathroom, curse like sailors, disobey everyone and even hit their mom. They are terrorsm, and they are only 7! Of course my daughter LOVES her kids and thinks they are so cool. I have a hard time not saying exactly how I feel about them in front of her. I love my friend but think her parenting is awful. Any advice or similar stories?

 

[baileydog]

Did you ever have a friend who you loved hanging out with until they had children and/or you had children and realised their children were little monsters that you didn't want hanging around your children? I have a friend with twins that should be on nanny 911. When I bought a house I intentionally bought a house far enough away from them so they wouldn't visit too often. Her kids pull down their pants in public and go to the bathroom, curse like sailors, disobey everyone and even hit their mom. They are terrorsm, and they are only 7! Of course my daughter LOVES her kids and thinks they are so cool. I have a hard time not saying exactly how I feel about them in front of her. I love my friend but think her parenting is awful. Any advice or similar stories?

Tell her her kids are bratty little disrepecting monsters and be done with it. If she cant handle the truth, too bad. Unless you want your kid to be like them.

 

[Queenofdenile1]

Did you ever have a friend who you loved hanging out with until they had children and/or you had children and realised their children were little monsters that you didn't want hanging around your children? I have a friend with twins that should be on nanny 911. When I bought a house I intentionally bought a house far enough away from them so they wouldn't visit too often. Her kids pull down their pants in public and go to the bathroom, curse like sailors, disobey everyone and even hit their mom. They are terrorsm, and they are only 7! Of course my daughter LOVES her kids and thinks they are so cool. I have a hard time not saying exactly how I feel about them in front of her. I love my friend but think her parenting is awful. Any advice or similar stories?

What does the mother (your friend) do with these monsters? Does she realize they are problem children? Does she correct them? Discipline them?

 

[vraiblonde]

Why would you want to be friends with someone who lets their kids act like that?

 

[theArtistFormerlyKnownAs]

Why would you want to be friends with someone who lets their kids act like that?

maybe she is an awesome person, just sucks at parenting.
we can't all be great at everything

 

[Sadielady]

What does the mother (your friend) do with these monsters? Does she realize they are problem children? Does she correct them? Discipline them?

No, No, and No.... I like her, but I can't stand being around her children. I usually just invite her out when it is girls night out -NO KIDS. I am a school teacher and it is hard not to discipline those sweet little kidlets myself.

 

[DanceMom]

I too have had a situation where the parents were great friend, then it turned out they sucked as parents. I try to keep them at bay and do as little as possible, but I stay friendly w/e-mail.

 

[Wait4It..boom]

Yea, I have a couple of friends that I enjoy being around but don't care for their kids. We see each other on girls nights out or talk on the phone but I don't let my kids interact with theirs too much. And when they do, my kids and I talk afterwards about some of the inappropriate things that happened. I try to get them to tell me what they thought about it too (e.g., what did you think when __ did __). Now, a lot of the time, if mine are with the other kids, both of mine will correct the other kids by saying "I don't think it's right that you..." May not be the right thing to do, but I just listen and smile inside knowing that my kid was saying or correcting what I know I shouldn't correct b/c the others are not my kids.