See, I disagree. I enjoy all kinds of movies I don't identify with and can't relate to. Boyz in the Hood and Do the Right Thing for two. In fact I can't identify or relate to most movies I see, they're just entertaining.
Actually, had I not deleted the second half of my post, you'd see that we don't. My wife, my mom and I enjoy tremendously movies with casts that are non-white. My wife was actually REALLY pissed that I watched Crazy Rich Asians with my mom and not with her - because it's a really good story. And we all liked Black Panther (even though Wakanda Forever was kind of dull). But some movies are clearly made for an African-American audience, and sometimes, I can't enjoy it because I really only half know what the hell is going on. I could list the ones we liked - but I also GET something else - and
I have a Chinese daughter and an African American daughter - as you know - and they are VERY OFTEN in groups or situations where they are the only one there that is Asian or African - and I get that. I have visited churches of my denomination while out of town, and I considered all the people there my brothers and sisters - even if none of them were my race - but it CAN be a comfort to be with other who ARE. I know my girls feel that way. When you go to a country where everyone there is a different race - sometimes you might find yourselves drawn towards someone who ISN'T different.
So I DO get that, with movies and TV shows -
What I don't get is when the difference is sexual preference, and their difference is constantly woven into the story line - when it really doesn't need to be. They HAD TO MAKE the character Buzz Lightyear's doll is made after gay - but it wasn't necessary - and the viewers voted with their feet. But in Crazy Rich Asians, there are a couple characters who are gay, and it's just who they are. No big deal is made of it.