How do I get him to take care of his son??????????

[Wenchy]

If there was a verbal agreement that the grandparents would provide transportation, then I do see her beef. An hour each way, and the wear and tear on a vehicle are not inexpensive these days. $10 for gas? Please!

 

[LusbyMom]

If there was a verbal agreement that the grandparents would provide transportation, then I do see her beef. An hour each way, and the wear and tear on a vehicle are not inexpensive these days. $10 for gas? Please!

But what is more important???? That is the real question. What is best for her son? Because he is what matters and it is important for him to have a relationship with his grandparents. As a parent you make sacrafices for your child all the time.

 

[chemommy25]

CHILD SUPPORT AND VISITATION ARE TWO DIFFERENT ISSUES! You need to understand that.

It's not your choice.. you have a court order. You risk losing your son if you want to play an eye for an eye. I mean seriously are you going to stand in front of a judge and say "well he is in contempt too" That is so stupid.

One day your son will grow up and yes he will miss out on having a father. And even if his father is not around much he will still love him.

My ex doesn't do what he is suppose to do but guess what.... he still gets his visitation. You should be thankful your son has grandparents that care about him.

I understand they are two different issues. but a phone call is not visitation. And i am thankful that my son's grandparents care about him. i never said anything that would make them think otherwise. But he has never tried to visit with his son since we went to court, he has never called me to talk to him, and when he does want to see his son, we will deal with that when the time comes.

 

[Wenchy]

But what is more important???? That is the real question. What is best for her son? Because he is what matters and it is important for him to have a relationship with his grandparents. As a parent you make sacrafices for your child all the time.

Suz has money and if there was a verbal agreement to Suz picking up of Che and bringing him back, it is a big deal. If there was not then a halfway point should be met. This child and his mother are receiving no child support, and I don't understand why everyone is ganging up on her. Diapers and food are only a portion of what this child needs.

 

[chemommy25]

He doesn't know his father... and you won't let him. And maybe you don't want him in and out.. i understand that to, because I deal with it myself. Consistancy would be awesome but it's not going to happen.

You can't ask them not to let him talk to his father. You have a court order. Do you seriously not understand that? And if your son is to young to speak or understand the phone call why are you so worried about it? Next time they might just not tell you they let them talk. And as your son grows older he will then be put in the middle... he will have to lie to you... or risk losing his grandparents.

I won't let him? I'm sorry, i forgot. i told him to pack up and move all the way to texas with no way to get a hold of him. and tell him to not take care of his son, and not pay the child support. if he wanted to know his son, he could easily come back to maryland and see him. he has not done that and prob does not plan to. that is his fault, not mine.

 

[MinorThreat]

Suz indicated she had no idea where the son is. Sounds like Suz is full of BS. Stay strong and fight the fight CheMommy!

 

[LusbyMom]

Suz has money and if there was a verbal agreement to Suz picking of Che and bringing him back it is a big deal. If there was not then a halfway point should be met. This child and his mother are receiving no child support, and I don't understand why everyone is ganging up on her. Diapers and food are only a portion of what this child needs.

I don't know Suz... or what she does or doesn't have. As a mother she should put her son first. I don't receive child support either but my child is taken care of regardless. I know what it takes to take care of a child. My problem with her is she is USING her son plain and simple. It isn't going to hurt her to drive one way once in awhile for her child's sake.

I don't really want to argue with you... as you know I don't even understand why you have made the choices you have made.

 

[Wenchy]

I won't let him? I'm sorry, i forgot. i told him to pack up and move all the way to texas with no way to get a hold of him. and tell him to not take care of his son, and not pay the child support. if he wanted to know his son, he could easily come back to maryland and see him. he has not done that and prob does not plan to. that is his fault, not mine.

Get your tubes tied and make sure they burn the ends. TIA.

 

[MinorThreat]

Get your tubes tied and make sure they burn the ends. TIA.

u suck

 

[LusbyMom]

I won't let him? I'm sorry, i forgot. i told him to pack up and move all the way to texas with no way to get a hold of him. and tell him to not take care of his son, and not pay the child support. if he wanted to know his son, he could easily come back to maryland and see him. he has not done that and prob does not plan to. that is his fault, not mine.

You won't even allow a phone call. So I highly doubt you would allow a visit to occur. If their is a court order for visitation supervised by his parents you have no right to DEMAND they not put him on the phone. It doesn't matter if he is taking care of him or not... the law says he can visit with his son. And if a phone call is the only way then so be it.

 

[chemommy25]

I won't let him? I'm sorry, i forgot. i told him to pack up and move all the way to texas with no way to get a hold of him. and tell him to not take care of his son, and not pay the child support. if he wanted to know his son, he could easily come back to maryland and see him. he has not done that and prob does not plan to. that is his fault, not mine.

i do everything for my son. i am the only person who takes care of him financially. i am mommy and daddy. if the fee to see your grandson is simply you providing the transportation because you can afford it. it really is not to much to ask for. i want him to have a relationship with his whole family. But i didn't abandon him like his father did. So that is who messed that up. not me. and his grandparents have to pick him up and drop him off when they want to see him, i have been doing it in the past since me and my son's father split and this weekend i asked them to do it, all of a sudden i'm a bad person using my son as a pawn in some game. i don't get where anybody is coming from here. god forbid i ask them to provide transportation for the first time in a long time. up until this time when i asked the grandparents to take him for me because i had to work or something, i would provide the transportation. but when they ask to see him i told them they have to pick him up and drop him off. why is that such a big deal?

 

[MinorThreat]

You won't even allow a phone call. So I highly doubt you would allow a visit to occur. If their is a court order for visitation supervised by his parents you have no right to DEMAND they not put him on the phone. It doesn't matter if he is taking care of him or not... the law says he can visit with his son. And if a phone call is the only way then so be it.

Suz is a LIAR!!!

 

[LusbyMom]

i do everything for my son. i am the only person who takes care of him financially. i am mommy and daddy. if the fee to see your grandson is simply you providing the transportation because you can afford it. it really is not to much to ask for. i want him to have a relationship with his whole family. But i didn't abandon him like his father did. So that is who messed that up. not me. and his grandparents have to pick him up and drop him off when they want to see him, i have been doing it in the past since me and my son's father split and this weekend i asked them to do it, all of a sudden i'm a bad person using my son as a pawn in some game. i don't get where anybody is coming from here. god forbid i ask them to provide transportation for the first time in a long time. up until this time when i asked the grandparents to take him for me because i had to work or something, i would provide the transportation. but when they ask to see him i tild them they have to pick him up and drop him off. why is that such a big deal?

You never said you just asked only this ONE time. You said you were not doing it at all anymore.

 

[chemommy25]

You never said you just asked only this ONE time. You said you were not doing it at all anymore.

well i said if it was thier visit they have to take care of transportation. of course if i asked them to watch him as a favor to me i would do the driving. but if they want him they have to come get him. plain and simple.

 

[Wenchy]

I don't know Suz... or what she does or doesn't have. As a mother she should put her son first. I don't receive child support either but my child is taken care of regardless. I know what it takes to take care of a child. My problem with her is she is USING her son plain and simple. It isn't going to hurt her to drive one way once in awhile for her child's sake.

I don't really want to argue with you... as you know I don't even understand why you have made the choices you have made.

Using her child? If there was an agreement then it needs to be stood by. Imagine how hurt she is that the man she spawned with now has a third woman pregnant and has married her. She is not keeping her child from the grandparents. It seems as if they are free to come and get him, but instead they want her to bring the child to them.

u suck

I do, and it prevents pregnancies that should not happen.

 

[sockgirl77]

I feel sorry for Che and I hope this drama is over by time he is old enough to understand any of it.

 

[LusbyMom]

well i said if it was thier visit they have to take care of transportation. of course if i asked them to watch him as a favor to me i would do the driving. but if they want him they have to come get him. plain and simple.

I hope they take you to court... and get grandparents visitation and then it goes to standard traveling issue.. The person receiving the child picks up.

For your son you are not willing to drive one way once in awhile... but if YOU need something from then then it is okay?

You are helpless really and for your son's sake I hope that one day you grow up.

 

[LusbyMom]

Using her child? If there was an agreement then it needs to be stood by. Imagine how hurt she is that the man she spawned with now has a third woman pregnant and has married her. She is not keeping her child from the grandparents. It seems as if they are free to come and get him, but instead they want her to bring the child to them.



I do, and it prevents pregnancies that should not happen.

I am sure she is hurt... but so what??? It's not about her.. It's about the child. But you Wenchy would not understand that now would you?

They are only free to see him if they follow her rules which in reality violate a court order which makes her no better than him.

 

[Wenchy]

I am sure she is hurt... but so what??? It's not about her.. It's about the child. But you Wenchy would not understand that now would you?

They are only free to see him if they follow her rules which in reality violate a court order which makes her no better than him.

What was the court order? I understood it to be that the grandparents would provide transportation. If she is getting no financial assistance from the father I would assume she is strapped.

Che is 20 months old. I hope his grandparents take good care of him and always stay in contact with him. One day his father might come into the whole picture. Che's mommy may consider never spreading her legs again unless there is 0% chance of pregnancy.

I understand all about children. My two are amazing...funny, they think the same of me.

 

[LusbyMom]

What was the court order? I understood it to be that the grandparents would provide transportation. If she is getting no financial assistance from the father I would assume she is strapped.

Che is 20 months old. I hope his grandparents take good care of him and always stay in contact with him. One day his father might come into the whole picture. Che's mommy may consider never spreading her legs again unless there is 0% chance of pregnancy.

I understand all about children. My two are amazing...funny, they think the same of me.

No where did she ever say that the court order said the grandparents had to provide transportation. But she did say that the court order states the father gets supervised visiation at the grandparents home.


You don't understand putting your child first. I get that based upon what you said to me. You left your son behind and said it was fine because your lover had a child you could be a mother too instead.