StokesPrincess
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So last night my husband asked me for a divorce. I am okay with it, I think. I need advice from somebody who has been there on what I need to do know. I have no idea..never been in this situation before
Husband asked for a divorce....
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nobody really
I need a nap
wow, sorry to hear that. Good luck. Every situation is different. Get a good lawyer, and protect your interest in your future
SoMDGirl42
Well-Known Member
First thing you need to do is get a lawyer. Don't make any crazy decisions while you aren't thinking straight. Don't sign anything. Don't agree to anything. Don't fight about anything. If you two are not able to TALK about things calmly, then don't. Fighting while in this frame of mind might make you each say or do things that will cause things to become even worse than they already are.
Are kids involved?
Are kids involved?
struggler44
A Salute to all on Watch
Be smart, be reasonable and friendly advice-try to do this willingly if he is; the only people who will make out if it gets ugly are the lawyers. I spent about 10k for a divorce that ended up the way we agreed in the beginning before there were any lawyer inputs telling her she might get this or might get that, it doesn't work out for either of the parties. Good luck
If it's amicable, you don't even have to involve a lawyer. I think you can just go to the courthouse and fill out some forms for the separation. Sit down with the STBX and hammer out the details - who gets what, etc. Then after your year is up, file for divorce the same way.
Because he doesn't want the relationship anymore. Details don't matter.
We agreed not to touch each others retirements, stocks, etc. I made out MUCH better than he did in that aspect.
SoMDGirl42
Well-Known Member
I would agree with you, but that's why I asked if kids were involved. I don't think I've ever known anyone to do this with children involved. Too many separate issues to resolve. It'd be great if they could do it though, much cheaper.
StokesPrincess
New Member
I can not afford an attorney and we really dont have much to split. We have two children and I will get custody of them (no matter what).
No he didnt really say why he wanted a divorce. But I am okay with it, honestly I have been thinking about it for awhile myself. I am just really scared about what I am going to do. What happens tomorrow, or the next day or the day after. I cant afford my house if I have to pay for daycare so I know I am going to have to move.
Should I file something in the courts now or do I wait the year?
Thank you all for your advice!
No he didnt really say why he wanted a divorce. But I am okay with it, honestly I have been thinking about it for awhile myself. I am just really scared about what I am going to do. What happens tomorrow, or the next day or the day after. I cant afford my house if I have to pay for daycare so I know I am going to have to move.
Should I file something in the courts now or do I wait the year?
Thank you all for your advice!
My first ex and I agreed pretty much down the line, even about child support. Laid it out on paper and took it to a lawyer to draft up, EZPZ.
migtig
aka Mrs. Giant
In MD, you have to file a seperation agreement first. You two will have to work on it together to fill it out. Then once it's filed, then the court will set a date in one year and if there have been no disagreements/issues/getting back together...divorce will be granted by the court.
First of all:
Department of Human Resources
That's the MD child support calculator, to give you an idea of what you should ask for. Then you can have a better idea of your finances.
DaisyDuke
Member
Most lawyers offer a free consultation. Make an appt to meet with them and ask all your questions.
bcp
In My Opinion
Is Maryland the same as Virginia, where, if one of the couple has been stepping out on the other, the year separation is not a requirement and it can go right to a divorce?
If so, work up an agreement together, then have him claim he was jumping the fence and just get rid of him and get it over with.
SoMDGirl42
Well-Known Member
I know, I got my proof and filed 
StokesPrincess
New Member
BadGirl
I am so very blessed
No you don't. Bob didn't have a formal separation agreement in place, or even a informal separation agreement.
They both just walked in to the courthouse together, filed the paperwork together, submitted it, and two weeks later they were officially divorced. They HAD been separated for over a year before they did the filing of their paperwork, however.
EZPZ, and it was only like $60 or something. No lawyer, no nothing.....
And because they both signed the necessary documents in person - together - they didn't waste a lot of time that would ordinarily occur with mailing documents back and forth to one another, then mailing those documents back to the Courthouse, etc. That bantering of documents back and forth to each other eats up a lot of time.
nomoney
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well if he's already being a jerk, get a lawyer. You can go to the courthouse and they can point you in the right direction as per womens assistance, lawyers, etc.
How old are the kids?