Internet-Enabled Romance Nostalgia

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Since I was ten, I have been infatuated, in lust, or love with a series of goddesses that came into my life. These were not trivial feelings. In my teen years, they kept me up most nights. Later, they were the principal distraction to my studies and occupied the majority of my thoughts.

Lately, I've been fondly recalling these relationships, and looking them up on the web: Satellite view of the places we use to live and hang out, Facebook, PeopleSearch. I've found ~ 2/3rds of the ~20 I was most fond of. I haven't contacted any of them (except one through an earlier coincidence), but I think about how life might have been with them, what our children might have been like, and hoping that they have had a good life with many children, so that even though it didn't work out with me, maybe it would between my progeny and theirs someday. Bottom line is life is full of choices and I wish my life could be multi-threaded so that these choices were unnecessary.

 

[SamSpade]

I've only looked up old girlfriends - it seems creepy to me just to check up on infatuations, unless they also happened to be women I was also friends with.

Almost to the last, my search showed without a shred of doubt - you made the right choice. For most, it's been many years, and many of them, their lives didn't turn out so great. For one girl I dated briefly - I learned she died young, of cancer. For another, she "came out" after quite a bit of time had passed. Others, the years just weren't at all kind, either in appearance or temperament.

It does tend to affirm to me there's someone watching out for me.

 

[GURPS]

Pulls up a chair and

 

[acommondisaster]

I've run into a couple by accident through the internet. One was on facebook; I saw him listed as a friend of one of my friends. So of course I had to look. I probably wouldn't have looked for him on my own.

The other I found while reading my hometown obits - his stepfather had passed away. His family had always been very sweet and nice to me, and our mothers had become friends. I went to write a note of sympathy on the funeral home guest book when I saw some family pictures that had been posted. One included my old BF and his partner.

As far as someone always watching you, I have to agree. I'd looked for a dear navy friend a couple of times over the years on FB, but had given up, because his name is so common. He PM'd me a few months back, asking if I was me. He'd always had a "thing" for me, but respected that I had a boyfriend (now my husband) and only wanted to be friends. And we were great friends; losing touch after he got married and got out of the Navy. We talked on the phone after getting back in touch and he told me he had been doing internet searches for years, trying to find me. It's like we never skipped a beat - and I'm looking forward to getting together for dinner next month when he's in DC - he has a lovely wife that he credits all his success and good luck to.

When you talk about searching for an old interest, it seems kind of natural to be a bit curious. But when you start talking about wondering what your kids would look like if you had married them, it makes me hope you dont have a concealed carry permit or something,

 

[Hank]

Since I was ten, I have been infatuated, in lust, or love with a series of goddesses that came into my life. These were not trivial feelings. In my teen years, they kept me up most nights. Later, they were the principal distraction to my studies and occupied the majority of my thoughts.

Lately, I've been fondly recalling these relationships, and looking them up on the web: Satellite view of the places we use to live and hang out, Facebook, PeopleSearch. I've found ~ 2/3rds of the ~20 I was most fond of. I haven't contacted any of them (except one through an earlier coincidence), but I think about how life might have been with them, what our children might have been like, and hoping that they have had a good life with many children, so that even though it didn't work out with me, maybe it would between my progeny and theirs someday. Bottom line is life is full of choices and I wish my life could be multi-threaded so that these choices were unnecessary.

Railroad, is that you?