Just Got My Court Order

[Ponytail]

C'mon now everyone...can we just try to stop blaming each other please? Every situation is different...and there are 2 sides to every story. This is really going nowhere.....

have you seen a thread on here that ever does?

 

[Ponytail]

Well that settles that then.
Non custodial parents are all liars as well as deadbeats.






I'm also wondering if there are other factors that aren't taken into account with this calculator. One of my closest friends would literally be living in a cardboard box (or even worse... in my house) if his fiancee wasn't helping him along.

And I, as well as his fiancee, have been telling him to fire his effing lawyer and go back. He won't do it - he's convinced that he's supposed to live like that.


Personally, I think his ex blew his lawyer.

My pop was paying Child support for me and my brother. He had to make sacrifices and lived kinda rough for a while (had lawn furniture and a black and white TV in the LR of his apartment for a short while, but my brother and I didn't have it much easier living with my mom. We had nothing. And my father kept taking my mom back to court to try and get the child support lowered. I remember the rags that I had to wear to school...rarely fit, shoes seemingly always had holes in them, Holidays, birthdays, grade school celebrations all had to be done on a VERY tight and creative budget. Dad always asked, "What the hell does your mother do with the money?" Not saying all Dads, but MANY, do not understand how expensive it is to raise a child. Part of that is, they do not go grocery shopping when they were part of the family. The mothers usually did it, as well as school supply shopping, clothing shopping, time off from work for doctors visits and baby sitting sick kids... And I won't tell ya what my dad did when he thought that i was going to ask him to help me with the college bills.

Almost forgot my point to quoting you...I agree, your freind got screwed by his lawyer...or your friend got caught screwin around on his wife as a cause for the divorce. Either of those will drain your pockets.

 

[Vince]

I didn't realize you'd had custody of your daughter!

And VINCE!!

It's looking worse and worse for the CS guys.

Daughter is in college. Custody of my son. And because he is autistic and a handicapped adult, I had to take legal guardianship once he turned 18. He lives with me and his mother sees him a couple weekends a month and on holidays. It'a a good arrangement and he enjoys seeing his mother.

 

[vraiblonde]

Daughter is in college. Custody of my son. And because he is autistic and a handicapped adult, I had to take legal guardianship once he turned 18. He lives with me and his mother sees him a couple weekends a month and on holidays. It'a a good arrangement and he enjoys seeing his mother.

You're a good man

 

[Tinkerbell]

I just did that child support calculator just for the heck of it (I'm not divorced and not looking to be), but IF I did my math right (and Lord knows I suck at math), my poor dear husband would die of starvation in the bitter cold. It said he'd have to give me $3800 a month! For two kids!! I don't spend NEAR that amount to take very good care of them in a month.

(At least I hope I don't. )

I know he makes more than I do, but WOW! That's insane. I would NEVER allow the courts to make him pay that much, I wouldn't take it.

 

[Dougstermd]

just stopped in to check on my fread. 15 more pages of BS mostly from people who do not know me and presume i am a dead beat.

no no wait!
all the women have the opinion that I am a deadbeat. the non custodial fathers see the system as skewed.

thanks to toxic and luggy for the support

 

[vraiblonde]

It said he'd have to give me $3800 a month! For two kids!!

He must make a pissload of money or else you made an error. I did the calculations for if I ditched Larry and had to pay child support for two kids and it was a manageable number.

I don't spend NEAR that amount to take very good care of them in a month.

If he makes that kind of money, you probably live in a very nice house. Tot up the mortgage, then the utilities, then the groceries, then the cable/internet/etc. Now add in clothing, school supplies, and various kid needs. Figure doctor bills and dentist bills and a few other things I'm probably forgetting.

Now look at that number. Seem more reasonable now?

 

[vraiblonde]

just stopped in to check on my fread. 15 more pages of BS mostly from people who do not know me and presume i am a dead beat.

No offense, but I don't think anyone gives a crap about you anymore. Now we're just having a conversation.

 

[Dougstermd]

just stopped in to check on my fread. 15 more pages of BS mostly from people who do not know me and presume i am a dead beat.

no no wait!
all the women have the opinion that I am a deadbeat. the non custodial fathers see the system as skewed.

thanks to toxic and luggy for the support

Just Got My Court Order 12-07-2006 03:33 PM Nobody accused you of being a deadbeat. Why don't you tell everyone what really happened.


I do not think its any secret what really happened.

to my karma giver if you really knew me and know what really happened then this would have been green
I am just happy to still be here everyday to see the sunrise.

 

[ylexot]

No offense, but I don't think anyone gives a crap about you anymore. Now we're just having a conversation.

Does that mean that I can now converse as well even though I have never been married and have no kids?

 

[Dougstermd]

No offense, but I don't think anyone gives a crap about you anymore. Now we're just having a conversation.

Now I feel really bad no one gives a crap about me

 

[vraiblonde]

Now I feel really bad no one gives a crap about me

Allll

I'll start a thread and cheer you up....standby...

 

[Cali Transplant]

Link

http://www.ejfi.org/family/family-49.htm

 

[itsbob]

:

I know he makes more than I do, but WOW! That's insane. I would NEVER allow the courts to make him pay that much, I wouldn't take it.

Until he pisses you off to the point where you want to divorce him, and this will be part of his "punishment". Then you'll be asking your lawyer to hurt him, want twice that amount.

Easy to say what you won't do when ya still like the guy.

 

[pixiegirl]

Until he pisses you off to the point where you want to divorce him, and this will be part of his "punishment". Then you'll be asking your lawyer to hurt him, want twice that amount.

Easy to say what you won't do when ya still like the guy.

Oh bull effing crap. I loathe my ex husband and could have his arse in jail right now for contempt on the measly amount he was ordered to pay but instead he's sitting at home with mommy and daddy racking up his $18K arrears even further. The benefit in not sending him to jail is to have him rack up his arrears so high he'll sign over his rights if I agree to forgive them. Believe it or not some mothers actually do love their kids and don't give a $hitola about the money.

 

[itsbob]

Oh bull effing crap. I loathe my ex husband and could have his arse in jail right now for contempt on the measly amount he was ordered to pay but instead he's sitting at home with mommy and daddy racking up his $18K arrears even further. The benefit in not sending him to jail is to have him rack up his arrears so high he'll sign over his rights if I agree to forgive them. Believe it or not some mothers actually do love their kids and don't give a $hitola about the money.

That's you, and we know how special you are, and there has NEVER been a question of how much you love your boys. But most women aren't like you, and will drive an ex into bankruptcy, and would love to see them go to jail just to get even.

 

[Ponytail]

That's you, and we know how special you are, and there has NEVER been a question of how much you love your boys. But most women aren't like you, and will drive an ex into bankruptcy, and would love to see them go to jail just to get even.

And then there are those fathers that have it better in jail, and welcome the opportunity to go back and tell everyone that his -ex put him there as part of her grand scheme. I wish I was kidding.

 

[itsbob]

And then there are those fathers that have it better in jail, and welcome the opportunity to go back and tell everyone that his -ex put him there as part of her grand scheme. I wish I was kidding.

No doubt there are nut-jobs on both sides of the issue..


Friend of mine many years ago.. his ex-GF kept taking him back to court for more and more money, to the point of not having enough money to pay his rent. He got into arrears, and then took him back to court for an aditional lump sum payment of an astronomical amount that she knew he couldn't pay.. at court he got to see his daughter for the first time in six months, and it freaked the little girl out, come to find out the mother had been telling her her daddy was dead, preparing her for the day he signed over custody to be be forgiven the money he owed (which was her goal from day one).

So as much as he loved his daughter, and seeing them together you could see how much he loved and cared for her, he was left with two choices. It broke his heart when he had to sign over custody, and this woman took his daughter out of his life forever.

She manipulated the system to get even and got what she wanted in the end. She hurt him more then any other way she could have done herself by using the courts.

This isn't always the way it happens, and two cases are never the same, but this is one I'm familiar with.

Oh, did I forget to mention she had told him she had her tubes tied, no chance of her ever having kids.. imagine his surprise when she told him she was pregnant..

 

[julz20684]

That's you, and we know how special you are, and there has NEVER been a question of how much you love your boys. But most women aren't like you, and will drive an ex into bankruptcy, and would love to see them go to jail just to get even.

Not so, what my ex did he did to himself....I could care less!

 

[julz20684]

And then there are those fathers that have it better in jail, and welcome the opportunity to go back and tell everyone that his -ex put him there as part of her grand scheme. I wish I was kidding.

How true, everything that happened to my ex was MY fault, never HIS.