Misfit
Lawful neutral
Love Letters - Relationships questions, advice and more
Q: I am another one of those "long-time readers who suddenly finds myself with a question." My husband and I have been married for 15 years and have young children. For the most part, I feel we have the "comfortable marriage" that most marriages tend to evolve into over time. My issue is with our intimate relationship. It has always been less than satisfying for me, which I always attributed to a lack of experience by my husband. I thought that it would improve over time, but it really hasn't. He always says he wants to do whatever it takes, but in the end I still find that he just doesn't know what to do to "take me to the next level." I also find that it takes a lot of effort for him to [truly enjoy the experience], and many times he does not, which is frustrating for me (and makes me think it's my fault).
Lately I've started to wonder about my husband and his orientation. I discovered that he frequently visits websites that deal with transgender subject material (including pornography), and individuals changing from one gender to another. He sometimes visits other websites featuring women too, but not as much.
Q: I am another one of those "long-time readers who suddenly finds myself with a question." My husband and I have been married for 15 years and have young children. For the most part, I feel we have the "comfortable marriage" that most marriages tend to evolve into over time. My issue is with our intimate relationship. It has always been less than satisfying for me, which I always attributed to a lack of experience by my husband. I thought that it would improve over time, but it really hasn't. He always says he wants to do whatever it takes, but in the end I still find that he just doesn't know what to do to "take me to the next level." I also find that it takes a lot of effort for him to [truly enjoy the experience], and many times he does not, which is frustrating for me (and makes me think it's my fault).
Lately I've started to wonder about my husband and his orientation. I discovered that he frequently visits websites that deal with transgender subject material (including pornography), and individuals changing from one gender to another. He sometimes visits other websites featuring women too, but not as much.
