We get to this argument a lot, and I'm not quite sure why....
To be sure we're talking the same thing, can we agree that the definition of a moral, as discussed here (from
Dictionary.com) is this one:
principles or habits with respect to right or wrong conduct
If so, then everyone has morals based upon their belief of what is right and wrong - God notwithstanding. The question then becomes, "how does one decide what is
right and what is
wrong?"
Certainly, everyone has the ability to ascertain this on their own - thus everyone has morals based on what they perceive as right and wrong.
So, where does a person, stereotypically, get their concepts of right and wrong from? Well, generally speaking, it would come from their parents and the community with which they spend the bulk of their formulative time, and the experiences they've had.
For a religious person, this generally means that they'll be taught a set of standards from their religion. That's easy.
And, if one has non-religious parents, or have bad experiences with religious people, or have some issue with submission to power, or simply believe that science can come up with better answers than a diety to the inherent questions of humanity, or (I'm sure there's something out there that doesn't fit into one of these categories), they'll not directly use religious beliefs as the basis for what is "right and wrong". They'll use their experiences, the society around them, their own thoughts to decide. For Americans, the bulk of the society around them (better than 90%) profess to believe in SOME religion (I'm not saying some Christian religion, I'm saying SOME religion). So, better than 90% of the society around them could be said, reasonably, to help instill "right and wrong" from some religious background. The experiences that virtually all of us have come with interactions of others with religious backgrounds. Even most atheists I know of grew up with either religious teachings or parents or schooling.... some form of religious background. So, it's fair to say that where they learned "right and wrong" from came from religious teachings.
So, a non-religious person person saying they decided their morals without religion is just not realistic. They may have decided their morals on their own, but they determine what right and wrong is, as we all do, by what they perceive as "fair", or "equal" based upon, almost in its entirety, religious-tinted (tainted, if you prefer Tommy) experiences.
Where can we go to see actual non-religious morals? The only place I can imagine is pre-historic (and, we can't really interview them or determine how they lived except through our religion-tinted eyes), or the animal kingdom.
So, how do animals treat each other? From what I've seen, mostly okay. They only eat each other if there's no other options, they provide for other adults in their species if they're full themselves, they don't seem to actively push each other off cliffs just for entertainment, etc. The natural standard seems to be "Once I'm taken care of, and my off-spring (that I haven't eaten) is taken care of, anyone can have my left-overs". When their fellow animal is sick, they generally don't antagonize the sick one (unless they're a different species and especially tasty). In most ways, they seem to treat each other as people did in the stadium in New Orleans after Katrina - mostly not horrific, with a few minor exceptions.
My point is that there is no atheist whose morals are not to some degree religious influenced, and different religions have very different moral standards. And, we all have morals, but none of us have morals that come from thin air; they're all based upon our experiences and upbringing. We're all conditioned by our surroundings to certain beliefs. Until we take a thousand babies and put them on an island somewhere with no outside influence, and come check on them 60 generations later, we'll have no idea what the human condition is without religious influence. Anybody wanna take bets on whether that society will have a "God"?