Need Custody Lawyer - ASAP

[Lugnut]

Waste of time

 

[Tigerlily]

You are absolutley right, he is playing games. He is on a power trip! She is on her way to the Md. State Police Barracks for that county right now. They told her to bring the papers and they will have a officer go with her to retrieve her children.

I feel for the kids involved, as I have a feeiling this situation is just starting to get nasty.

As much as I may not like the choices my ex has made in his life, we share our children and raise them jointly. The only thing I have ever stated was a must, was to not make exact promises on pick up times and then break them. My dad did that to me and there is nothing worse than seeing a child staring out the window waiting for a parent who is late. So we don't make specific times.

Flexibility and communication can be wonderfull words.

 

[cgwife]

he needs one of these. she can use this against him so he gets limited visitation....

y is he so bitter? does he have a habit of doing this?

maybe the kids dont want to leave, and if that's it than he needs to tell her that!

Yes, he does have a habit of doing this but never downright refusing to return the children. He has been hours late, etc. There is alot more to this story that has been going on, but the main thing is that there is a court order for him to return the children and he will not. I am all for mothers/fathers wanting to spend quality time with their children but he never requested extra time and had he of, with appropriate notification, I am sure she would have given it to him.

 

[puggymom]

The father should've planned in advance... it sounds to me like it's nothing but stupid games adults are playing and throwing children in the middle.

Let the damn power struggle go... the father should've called and asked if it was ok instead of simply informing... I'm sure the mother didn't take it well and then it went in to escalate and overreact mode.

 

[CalvertNewbie]

if i called the police every thime my ex called to say she wasn't going to be home on time with my son the police would have arrested me for harrasing them.

Fact of the matter is, shiat happens, you have to be willing to be flexible.

I am sure the conversation would have been different if she had been resonable when he called to let her know he was going to be late.

I completely agree that parents need to be flexible when it comes to their children. Communication between parents would be great but obviously is not going to happen for many parents out there. I understand that shiat happens and people run late due to traffic, work emergencies, etc.

But would you appreciate it if your ex called you at the time when you were scheduled to get your kids back and told you they weren't going to be there as scheduled, that she'd return the kids to you when she felt like it, regardless of your expectations? It's not his right to do that and it's inconsiderate.

 

[kwillia]

Yes, he does have a habit of doing this but never downright refusing to return the children. He has been hours late, etc. There is alot more to this story that has been going on, but the main thing is that there is a court order for him to return the children and he will not. I am all for mothers/fathers wanting to spend quality time with their children but he never requested extra time and had he of, with appropriate notification, I am sure she would have given it to him.

I can't help but think how very sad it is for a father to have to "request... pending approval/denial" time with his kids. I also can't help but get the feeling communicating with the mother has got to be right up there pain-wise for him as shoving bambo shoots in his eyes.

This entire thing just doesn't sit right.

 

[poster]

Yes, he does have a habit of doing this but never downright refusing to return the children. He has been hours late, etc. There is alot more to this story that has been going on, but the main thing is that there is a court order for him to return the children and he will not. I am all for mothers/fathers wanting to spend quality time with their children but he never requested extra time and had he of, with appropriate notification, I am sure she would have given it to him.

Given that information, it does seem to be that he is playing games.
Children should not be used as pawns and she should be doing exactly what she's doing now. I personally would use this as basis for supervised visitation only.

 

[CalvertNewbie]

This can be seen both ways, it's quite possible he did ask for an extension and she's being a bytch and won't let him. If that's the case who can blame him for coming home late anyway.

Unless he said I'm not bringing them home "EVER", I can't pass judgement on who's in the wrong. It's bias information we're getting.

You're right. He could have "asked" and she just said no. But he should have asked in advance, not when she was already 2/3 into her hour long drive to pick them up. Surely he knew earlier that he wouldn't be where they were scheduled to meet.

She hadn't seen her kids for 17 days and probably had plans for them. If I was already on my way and got that phone call, I'd be pissed too. Now if he called her a couple of days earlier and told her he'd like to keep the kids an extra day, things may have been different. I guess we'll never know because we don't know either of these people.

 

[MrX]

My friend is in a sitiation and needs an AWESOME custody lawyer ASAP. To make a long story short, her X did not return her children last night as per their custody agreement. He is clearly in contemp of court right now. Her currrent lawyer is being very laid back about the situation, to say the least. She went to the courthouse this morning to file a contempt of court charge and to try and get the children returned to her ASAP, this was also a major debacle. She was given the paperwork to fill out and told to contact the Maryland State Police and/or the county police where the children are. Isn't there anything else that can be done????? Can he just keep these children at his own free will and return them whenever he feels like it? I thought thats what custody agreement papers are for???? Anyways, can anyone out there recommend a "go getter" lawyer in Calvert County that will be very proactive in this situation? TIA

Me? :shrug:

 

[Qurious]

the azzholes i know...they would say "i'll return the kids when I feel like it" all the while sitting at the meeting spot waiting for her to arrive to do the exchange.

u have to pick and choose your battles.

 

[cgwife]

I can't help but think how very sad it is for a father to have to "request... pending approval/denial" time with his kids. I also can't help but get the feeling communicating with the mother has got to be right up there pain-wise for him as shoving bambo shoots in his eyes.

This entire thing just doesn't sit right.

I agree with you 100% that it is sad for a father (or a mother) to have to "request" to spend time with their own children but he agreed to the visitation schedule and has never been denied spending time with his children. He knew the mother had vacation planned this week with the children and is keeping them to deny her of her "approved vacation time. He just had his for 17 days, isnt she entitled to hers as well?

 

[Lugnut]

Grrrrrrooooowwwl!

Kinda scary, ain't it?

A bit.

 

[CalvertNewbie]

I can't help but think how very sad it is for a father to have to "request... pending approval/denial" time with his kids. I also can't help but get the feeling communicating with the mother has got to be right up there pain-wise for him as shoving bambo shoots in his eyes.

This entire thing just doesn't sit right.

I know. Their lack of communication will contine to piss them both off and will contine to hurt their kids. The only way kids can possibly adjust well to divorce/separation of family is if both parents agree to work together for the sake of their kids. I can't even tell you how many times I've had to testify at CPS & custody hearings because of the games parents play. The poor kids are the ones who really suffer.

 

[kwillia]

Given that information, it does seem to be that he is playing games.
Children should not be used as pawns and she should be doing exactly what she's doing now. I personally would use this as basis for supervised visitation only.

Unbelievable. He is THEIR FATHER and was obviously fit enough to have them for 17 days straight and now you want to degrade him to supervised visitation... UFB.

 

[Lugnut]

Unbelievable. He is THERE FATHER and was obviously fit enough to have them for 17 days straight and now you want to degrade him to supervised visitation... UFB.

was just thinking the same thing. But of course she has the kids best interest at heart!

 

[poster]

I can't help but think how very sad it is for a father to have to "request... pending approval/denial" time with his kids. I also can't help but get the feeling communicating with the mother has got to be right up there pain-wise for him as shoving bambo shoots in his eyes.

This entire thing just doesn't sit right.

Very true but I truely feel that with communication (now matter how difficult) this type of situation does not happen. This is doing nothing but waisting time, money and hurting their kids and for what reason?

It doesn't sound like she's "unwilling" to let him have the children just wants him to be reasonable in his requests.

 

[CalvertNewbie]

Unbelievable. He is THERE FATHER and was obviously fit enough to have them for 17 days straight and now you want to degrade him to supervised visitation... UFB.

I don't necessarily agree with supervised visitation in this case (he doesn't seem to be a threat to anyone) but he needs to be careful to follow the court order. Otherwise, he could jeopardize the current agreement.

 

[Qurious]

I agree with you 100% that it is sad for a father (or a mother) to have to "request" to spend time with their own children but he agreed to the visitation schedule and has never been denied spending time with his children. He knew the mother had vacation planned this week with the children and is keeping them to deny her of her "approved vacation time. He just had his for 17 days, isnt she entitled to hers as well?

yeah he's ckufin wit her for sure. Its not a reason for supervised visitation but it is a means to cut some of it back perhaps. Cuz how else will he learn not to play these games?

 

[jetmonkey]

lolz

Unbelievable. He is THERE FATHER and was obviously fit enough to have them for 17 days straight and now you want to degrade him to supervised visitation... UFB.

 

[AndyMarquisLIVE]

yeah he's ckufin wit her for sure. Its not a reason for supervised visitation but it is a means to cut some of it back perhaps. Cuz how else will he learn not to play these games?

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