I agree with all of that as well. What i don't agree with is them getting my tax dollars and then turning around and refusing to service my SIL. If they want to discriminate they should not take tax payer money. I also don't believe that churches should be tax exempt so Jerry Falwell JR can fly in private jets and by business's for his pool boy.
I'm on the fence. I know that churches are tax exempt, not sure if they actually get money from the state or fed, and if so how much. In general I probably have no issue kicking in because I see them as a community resource, much like any other nonprofit org. And like any other nonprofit, they have a specific demographic they serve.
I agree with you wholeheartedly about these megachurches and their uber wealth. It annoys me to no end that these "preachers" are living large by panhandling from the poor. BUT! Nobody puts a gun to their head and forces them to donate. If they weren't sending their bucks to televangelists they'd probably be sticking it in a casino slot machine or giving it to some Nigerian scammer. Dumb people do dumb things, and I've always said that if people are stupid someone should be able to make a buck off them. Hell, look at Al Sharpton.
As I said before, our tax dollars go to all sorts of things that many of us cannot take advantage of, nor does it benefit the majority of Americans. Just the way it is and your sister isn't special.