Play rules....

[poster]

What is the neighborly rule for sending kids out to play?

Do you call and ask if they can come over or just send the kids over to ask?

When other children come to your house do you call their parents and tell them or just take for granted they know already?

Also when you send them home, do you watch or call and be sure they made it?

Just curious....

 

[Dymphna]

What is the neighborly rule for sending kids out to play?

Do you call and ask if they can come over or just send the kids over to ask?

When other children come to your house do you call their parents and tell them or just take for granted they know already?

Also when you send them home, do you watch or call and be sure they made it?

Just curious....

It depends...

I will usually call and invite their kid to come to my house, but if it were an everyday occurance, I could see letting my kid knocking on the door to see if little Johnny can come out and play...but it'd be rude for him to ask to come in. Now, if they offer once he's there, that'd be ok.

In my neighborhood, with no sidewalks and blind curves, I call to make sure the parent's are expecting the child or else call after they leave to make sure they got home.

 

[Sweet 16]

It depends...

I will usually call and invite their kid to come to my house, but if it were an everyday occurance, I could see letting my kid knocking on the door to see if little Johnny can come out and play...but it'd be rude for him to ask to come in. Now, if they offer once he's there, that'd be ok.

When my son and his friends were little, I always called the mom when they showed up at my door to make sure she knew where they were. I also watched or walked them home to make sure they made it inside, and I asked the same courtesy if my kid was at their house. You never can be too safe or too courteous.

 

[poster]

When my son and his friends were little, I always called the mom when they showed up at my door to make sure she knew where they were. I also watched or walked them home to make sure they made it inside, and I asked the same courtesy if my kid was at their house. You never can be too safe or too courteous.

I do the same. I only have (2) parents that send their kids over and I don't hear from the parents unless I call and then it's like I'm bothering them. They never call ahead to see if they come over and allow their kids to cross a busy road without watching them. Needless to say my child does not ever go to their houses.

When the kids come over I don't allow them to leave without telling me and I only allow play in the backyard where they can be seen. Both of these kids look at me like I've lost my mind. When the kids leave I call and let the parents know they're on the way.

One of the kids left once without letting me know, crossed the busy road alone and I called the parent to be sure child was ok. I let them know I was upset he didn't follow my rules and they had absolutely no concern.

Is this common or am I being too protective? All these kids are under 10 and crossing a 50mph road with a blind turn. We are not in a neighborhood, if something happens noone's going to see it.

 

[Dymphna]

I do the same. I only have (2) parents that send their kids over and I don't hear from the parents unless I call and then it's like I'm bothering them. They never call ahead to see if they come over and allow their kids to cross a busy road without watching them. Needless to say my child does not ever go to their houses.

When the kids come over I don't allow them to leave without telling me and I only allow play in the backyard where they can be seen. Both of these kids look at me like I've lost my mind. When the kids leave I call and let the parents know they're on the way.

One of the kids left once without letting me know, crossed the busy road alone and I called the parent to be sure child was ok. I let them know I was upset he didn't follow my rules and they had absolutely no concern.

Is this common or am I being too protective? All these kids are under 10 and crossing a 50mph road with a blind turn. We are not in a neighborhood, if something happens noone's going to see it.

Depends on how old the kids are. 7 or 8, you're good. 12 or 13 you're a bit overprotective.

 

[poster]

Depends on how old the kids are. 7 or 8, you're good. 12 or 13 you're a bit overprotective.

7,8 & 9 - Mine being 8 and the only girl playing with boys.
I do not want them out of my sight.

 

[poster]

7,8 & 9 - Mine being 8 and the only girl playing with boys.
I do not want them out of my sight.

I should clarify, I don't watch their every move.
As long as I can glance out the window and clearly see them, I'm cool with that. They are not allowed is disapper in the woods or behind the garage. I don't allow play in the front yard because it can be seen that they are unattended from the road.

 

[cattitude]

My children weren't allowed out of the house alone until they were 21.

 

[poster]

My children weren't allowed out of the house alone until they were 21.

 

[LusbyMom]

What is the neighborly rule for sending kids out to play?

Do you call and ask if they can come over or just send the kids over to ask?

When other children come to your house do you call their parents and tell them or just take for granted they know already?

Also when you send them home, do you watch or call and be sure they made it?

Just curious....

I always call and ask first and when my kiddos get there they have to call me to let me know they are there.

I have some kids that call first, some that just show up. One day I had two kids show up with lunchboxes, towels and bathing suits. I guess they thought they were spending the day. I promptly sent them home.

 

[poster]

I always call and ask first and when my kiddos get there they have to call me to let me know they are there.

I have some kids that call first, some that just show up. One day I had two kids show up with lunchboxes, towels and bathing suits. I guess they thought they were spending the day. I promptly sent them home.

Unreal, did their parents know of their plans?

 

[LusbyMom]

Unreal, did their parents know of their plans?

Oh I am certain they did, they liked to send them over when they wanted a sitter for the day. They moved not to long ago.

In one way it was annoying because mine could never go over there to play, they were always told no. But then again they didn't watch their own kids so I didn't want mine there anyway.