Raising Mama's boys

[Monello]

Like most published studies, you can cherry pick facts to support your arguments. The article is still an interesting read. I don't think there is any way to quantify just how much is too much. It varies by the child.

Mama's boys are often perceived as weak; a close relationship between mother and son is viewed as suspect. And yet studies support the idea that boys who grow up having tight relationships with their mothers have a certain advantage. They become strong, independent leaders. Just look at the commander in chief. Barack Obama has gladly admitted: He was a mama's boy.

kids, especially boys, who have secure attachments to their mothers tended to have fewer behavioral problems throughout their childhoods. Later on, they were expected to display fewer signs of aggression and hostility. They were, it stands to reason, more adaptable, more patient.

They were more likely to have a healthy respect for women. I learned that mothers who allowed and encouraged boys to show their more emotional side helped their sons develop confidence and empathy.

http://www.cnn.com/2014/05/09/opinion/drexler-mamas-boys/index.html?hpt=hp_t4

 

[Cheeky1]

Like most published studies, you can cherry pick facts to support your arguments. The article is still an interesting read. I don't think there is any way to quantify just how much is too much. It varies by the child.

The term 'mama's boy' seems to be used primarily by women, seeking a male mate, to designate a specific type of male as undesirable due to the male's, perceived, strong attachment to his mother. This has some validity in specific cases, but in general is only a scape-goat for the female's own shortcomings. Case closed

 

[libertytyranny]

There is a difference. I LIKE a little bit of a momma's boy. Men that have good relationships with their mothers and talk with them often and treat them well is very attractive to me. BUT I have known more than one situation where I have felt the relationship between mother and son was disordered. Where moms were jealous of the women the boys were dating or resented them. Or moms who do EVERYTHING for their sons while doing less for daughters or continuing to do things for them well past the age they could do it themselves. At that point it isn't a healthy attachment, its dependence and isn't so healthy anymore. Then you get men who are unable to care for themselves and want a mate only for a mom replacement with the added bonus of sleeping together.

 

[vraiblonde]

Men who like their mothers and are good to them typically like women in general, so count me in for the mama's boys. Like LT said, it can go too far but a good rule of thumb is to avoid men who have an acrimonious relationship with their mother.

 

[SamSpade]

What does "mama's boy" mean to you? If it just means a healthy respect for your mother, then that's good.
If it means, a spoiled kid who was used to mama doing everything for him - well, I've still known grown men who turned out all right.
Admittedly, most were not - most were guys who knew how to fix the car but lived in squalor that a pig might envy.

Even some of the more well adjusted ones are ones who aren't nice to their wives - because mama did a better job.
I guess when I hear the term, it suggests to me a man who is so attached to mama that given a choice to side with his spouse - or mom - mom will win. ALWAYS.
That's an overgrown child. I can't for the life of me see how that could ever be attractive to a woman.

 

[SamSpade]

but a good rule of thumb is to avoid men who have an acrimonious relationship with their mother.

I'd go further than that - stay well clear of any potential mate who is that way with their parents - or an increasing number of just plain people.

You know the story - if on the first date they give the waiter a really hard time or show disrespect for people waiting on you - it's really just a matter of time before he/she does the same to you. I've never seen it not go this way - I had a really good friend who for years dated a woman who treated her otherwise nice dad as though he were a complete buffoon. Eventually, he got the same treatment.

On the same note - a red flag for me is anyone who has few or no friends or has great difficulty KEEPING friends.

 

[pelers]

Even some of the more well adjusted ones are ones who aren't nice to their wives - because mama did a better job.
I guess when I hear the term, it suggests to me a man who is so attached to mama that given a choice to side with his spouse - or mom - mom will win. ALWAYS.
That's an overgrown child. I can't for the life of me see how that could ever be attractive to a woman.

Sometimes their ass doesn't show until it's too late. Or at least late enough that divorce and custody agreements are required.