Sass

pelers

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So, my daughter is now two. She's an amazingly articulate two; she speaks in full sentences and grasps concepts very well. I'm sure she's going to pick up on my swearing and be obnoxious enough to use the words perfectly.

She's already getting sassy. How the hell do you keep a straight face for this? Some gems from the last week:

Me (to her and her big brother arguing): When we get home I'm going to take you to the doctor to get your hearing checked because you fail at listening!
Daughter: Noooo, mommy. You get YOUR hearing checked!


Me (to daughter while she's throwing one of her random two year old tantrums screaming NoooOOOoOO noooOOOoOO nooooooo): Are you being contrary?
Daughter: No, YOU'RE contrary! and Daddy's contrary! and [brother] is contrary! (surprisingly well enunciated)



I'm predicting some serious doom and gloom in my life in about 10-11 years.
 

lovinmaryland

Well-Known Member
:lol:

It just gets better! Oh and harder to keep a straight face. When I picked up my 5 year old early from school a couple weeks back I got the "Mom I was having such a good time...this was SOOOOO not necessary :drama:"
 

gretchen

New Member
So, my daughter is now two. She's an amazingly articulate two; she speaks in full sentences and grasps concepts very well. I'm sure she's going to pick up on my swearing and be obnoxious enough to use the words perfectly.

She's already getting sassy. How the hell do you keep a straight face for this? Some gems from the last week:

Me (to her and her big brother arguing): When we get home I'm going to take you to the doctor to get your hearing checked because you fail at listening!
Daughter: Noooo, mommy. You get YOUR hearing checked!


Me (to daughter while she's throwing one of her random two year old tantrums screaming NoooOOOoOO noooOOOoOO nooooooo): Are you being contrary?
Daughter: No, YOU'RE contrary! and Daddy's contrary! and [brother] is contrary! (surprisingly well enunciated)



I'm predicting some serious doom and gloom in my life in about 10-11 years.

I'm predicting it too. I guess I'm old fashioned in this respect - I don't call that "sass". I call it talking back and being a brat. It amazes me the parents who allow their kids to be so "sassy" and "cute" and then wonder where all the attitude and disrespect comes from later. My kids are much older,but no way did that fly when they were little. News flash - your kid is not amazingly articulate or somehow unique and special. She doesn't have mouth deformities.so she forms words. She isn't retarded,so she understands things. And if you seriously think you are just resigned to a disrespectful child because she's already acting like this now,you could simply not pretend anyone but you finds it amusing and actually discipline her. Sorry if it seems like I'm attacking you personally,but this type of parenting is ridiculous. And I see it all the time. This is just the first chance I've had to hear the parent speak to what they think of it,and I find it appalling.
 

KDENISE977

New Member
So, my daughter is now two. She's an amazingly articulate two; she speaks in full sentences and grasps concepts very well. I'm sure she's going to pick up on my swearing and be obnoxious enough to use the words perfectly.

She's already getting sassy. How the hell do you keep a straight face for this? Some gems from the last week:

Me (to her and her big brother arguing): When we get home I'm going to take you to the doctor to get your hearing checked because you fail at listening!
Daughter: Noooo, mommy. You get YOUR hearing checked!


Me (to daughter while she's throwing one of her random two year old tantrums screaming NoooOOOoOO noooOOOoOO nooooooo): Are you being contrary?
Daughter: No, YOU'RE contrary! and Daddy's contrary! and [brother] is contrary! (surprisingly well enunciated)



I'm predicting some serious doom and gloom in my life in about 10-11 years.

Oh I get this... a lot. I've already had his teachers tell me that he told them "daddy's gonna beat my azz" and they had to turn away. I have to admit I have laughed or turned away when he get's smart, usually with my husband though, mommy lays down the law in our house. :lol: but the facial expressions are HYSTERICAL...
 

lucky_bee

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I'm predicting it too. I guess I'm old fashioned in this respect - I don't call that "sass". I call it talking back and being a brat. It amazes me the parents who allow their kids to be so "sassy" and "cute" and then wonder where all the attitude and disrespect comes from later. My kids are much older,but no way did that fly when they were little. News flash - your kid is not amazingly articulate or somehow unique and special. She doesn't have mouth deformities.so she forms words. She isn't retarded,so she understands things. And if you seriously think you are just resigned to a disrespectful child because she's already acting like this now,you could simply not pretend anyone but you finds it amusing and actually discipline her. Sorry if it seems like I'm attacking you personally,but this type of parenting is ridiculous. And I see it all the time. This is just the first chance I've had to hear the parent speak to what they think of it,and I find it appalling.



:lmao:

get the #### over yourself. :coffee:
 

gretchen

New Member
:lmao:

get the #### over yourself. :coffee:

Sure. That makes sense. You people come on here and bitch about entitlement and bad behavior,but when I suggest this starts in childhood,I'm just being pompous. Bottom line is,badly behaved children become badly behaved adults. It's not an overnight change.
 

flowerlover

Active Member
I wish I could figure out how to embed a video in my reply, but here's the url - hope that works.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4A6Bu96ALOw

This makes me laugh hysterically every time I watch it, and I managed to raise 2 responsible, productive kids to adulthood. Certainly helps if you maintain a sense of humor while you're doing it.
 

vraiblonde

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I'm predicting it too. I guess I'm old fashioned in this respect - I don't call that "sass". I call it talking back and being a brat. It amazes me the parents who allow their kids to be so "sassy" and "cute" and then wonder where all the attitude and disrespect comes from later. My kids are much older,but no way did that fly when they were little. News flash - your kid is not amazingly articulate or somehow unique and special. She doesn't have mouth deformities.so she forms words. She isn't retarded,so she understands things. And if you seriously think you are just resigned to a disrespectful child because she's already acting like this now,you could simply not pretend anyone but you finds it amusing and actually discipline her. Sorry if it seems like I'm attacking you personally,but this type of parenting is ridiculous. And I see it all the time. This is just the first chance I've had to hear the parent speak to what they think of it,and I find it appalling.

I don't care for smart talk from little kids, either. It makes them look like brats. Which is fine for the parent who doesn't care what other adults think (and, Mommies, let me assure you, when your tot starts in with the back talk people do judge you).

:shrug:
 

pelers

Active Member
I didn't say I let her get away with it. I just have a rough time not laughing about it while she's doing it. It's new behavior (within the last month) so it still has some charm to it. Again, I don't laugh and tell her how adorable she is when she does it. This is a phase I'm pretty sure the majority of small children go through. You can either wail and gnash your teeth over the behavior, or you can work towards correcting it while deriving your own private amusement from it. I just thought to share that amusement with others who have been there/done that.

When I say she's amazingly articulate, I mean she's barely two years old and speaks (technically) better than some kids twice her age. The level of communication I get from her is always surprising to me because her older brother was speech delayed and didn't really start communicating until the last year or so.

I do try very hard not to curse around her because I'm aware that she's very smart and will pick it up. I do slip sometimes and I can't control what comes out of the mouths of others. It's a bridge I'll cross once I get there.

Gretchen, you seriously do need to get over yourself. Nobody likes a bitch.
 

KDENISE977

New Member
I didn't say I let her get away with it. I just have a rough time not laughing about it while she's doing it. It's new behavior (within the last month) so it still has some charm to it. Again, I don't laugh and tell her how adorable she is when she does it. This is a phase I'm pretty sure the majority of small children go through. You can either wail and gnash your teeth over the behavior, or you can work towards correcting it while deriving your own private amusement from it. I just thought to share that amusement with others who have been there/done that.

When I say she's amazingly articulate, I mean she's barely two years old and speaks (technically) better than some kids twice her age. The level of communication I get from her is always surprising to me because her older brother was speech delayed and didn't really start communicating until the last year or so.

I do try very hard not to curse around her because I'm aware that she's very smart and will pick it up. I do slip sometimes and I can't control what comes out of the mouths of others. It's a bridge I'll cross once I get there.

Gretchen, you seriously do need to get over yourself. Nobody likes a bitch.

I do the same thing, it's just funny, not saying anyone is letting anyone "get away with it". It's testing boundaries.
 

vraiblonde

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Why is it funny, though? They just had a rerun of the Modern Family where Lily keeps saying the f-word and Cam is cracking up; my son and I about died laughing when my grandson dropped the f-bomb.

Why is that so damn funny??
 

gretchen

New Member
Gretchen, you seriously do need to get over yourself. Nobody likes a bitch.

What does that even mean? I stated some facts,and some opinions. And that makes me a bitch,and needing to get over myself? Where exactly did I say I am better than you,which is what is implied when you say to get over myself. You're right,no one likes a bitch. But plenty of people like blunt honesty and can handle it,even find it refreshing. Or were you only hoping for us all to act like that's so cute,and then to ourselves think boy am I glad that isn't my kid. I guarantee you,plenty of people around you and your child have thought that,and so did plenty who read your post. But like most women,you only want to deal in fakery and nice-nice,not reality - and call other women bitches when they don't coddle you. Stick your head in the sand if you want,just know that everyone can still see your body sticking out. :)
 

KDENISE977

New Member
What does that even mean? I stated some facts,and some opinions. And that makes me a bitch,and needing to get over myself? Where exactly did I say I am better than you,which is what is implied when you say to get over myself. You're right,no one likes a bitch. But plenty of people like blunt honesty and can handle it,even find it refreshing. Or were you only hoping for us all to act like that's so cute,and then to ourselves think boy am I glad that isn't my kid. I guarantee you,plenty of people around you and your child have thought that,and so did plenty who read your post. But like most women,you only want to deal in fakery and nice-nice,not reality - and call other women bitches when they don't coddle you. Stick your head in the sand if you want,just know that everyone can still see your body sticking out. :)


What she posted and said was that it was FUNNY, not that she was doing nothing about it and allowing it??? what about that don't you get??? I'm the same way, yes it's funny, but it's not condoned !!! Careful you don't get a saddle soar on that high horse of yours, your post was condescending, not meant to be helpful.
 

pelers

Active Member
What does that even mean? I stated some facts,and some opinions. And that makes me a bitch,and needing to get over myself? Where exactly did I say I am better than you,which is what is implied when you say to get over myself. You're right,no one likes a bitch. But plenty of people like blunt honesty and can handle it,even find it refreshing. Or were you only hoping for us all to act like that's so cute,and then to ourselves think boy am I glad that isn't my kid. I guarantee you,plenty of people around you and your child have thought that,and so did plenty who read your post. But like most women,you only want to deal in fakery and nice-nice,not reality - and call other women bitches when they don't coddle you. Stick your head in the sand if you want,just know that everyone can still see your body sticking out. :)

You don't know my children, you don't know how they act in public. You called them entitled and said nobody likes them. That comes off as rather rude. You have made a bunch of assumptions about me and my family, all unpleasant, when you know exactly two things my two year old daughter has said.

Blunt honesty and presumptuous, condescending remarks are not the same thing. You don't like my post? You don't have to read or comment on it. I'm aware this is a public forum and you certainly have every right to read and comment, but you also get to deal with the consequence of people thinking you are a rude, unpleasant troll.

I'm sure your children (if you even have any) are perfect little angels who never put a toe out of line. They've never gone through the phase of asserting their independence and testing boundaries. From your attitude here, you've obviously never found any humor (shared or not) in their antics. That sounds like a remarkably lifeless, loveless, sterile household. When those children are grown I hope they don't hold it against you.

Going off of your remarks about most women being fake, I'm guessing you probably have numerous problems with interpersonal relationships. I'm guessing you blame everyone around you and never think about the common denominator. Yourself. So yes, I do think you need to get over yourself.
 

gretchen

New Member
You don't know my children, you don't know how they act in public. You called them entitled and said nobody likes them. That comes off as rather rude. You have made a bunch of assumptions about me and my family, all unpleasant, when you know exactly two things my two year old daughter has said.

Blunt honesty and presumptuous, condescending remarks are not the same thing. You don't like my post? You don't have to read or comment on it. I'm aware this is a public forum and you certainly have every right to read and comment, but you also get to deal with the consequence of people thinking you are a rude, unpleasant troll.

I'm sure your children (if you even have any) are perfect little angels who never put a toe out of line. They've never gone through the phase of asserting their independence and testing boundaries. From your attitude here, you've obviously never found any humor (shared or not) in their antics. That sounds like a remarkably lifeless, loveless, sterile household. When those children are grown I hope they don't hold it against you.

Going off of your remarks about most women being fake, I'm guessing you probably have numerous problems with interpersonal relationships. I'm guessing you blame everyone around you and never think about the common denominator. Yourself. So yes, I do think you need to get over yourself.

You're entitled to your opinion,and I stand by mine. And you're exactly right,the proof is in the pudding. I don't fear for my kids future, and you stated you thought you would be heading for trouble in a few years. Sounds like your parenting might be the common denominator. Then again, maybe I am wrong and your kid is awesome. Look at the faces of the people around you sometime when the kiddo is being sooo funny,and I'm sure that will give you the answer.
 

Roman

Active Member
You know Gretchen, all kids assert their independence at one time, or another. This is how they learn what's right, and what's wrong. Pelers was just sharing one of those funny moments with us. What's wrong with that? My kids are now in their 30's, and 40's, but when they were little, they said, and did the same kind of stuff. They grew to be very respectful, and responsible adults. It's ok to speak your mind, but I think in this case you should follow the old saying, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say it".
You're entitled to your opinion,and I stand by mine. And you're exactly right,the proof is in the pudding. I don't fear for my kids future, and you stated you thought you would be heading for trouble in a few years. Sounds like your parenting might be the common denominator. Then again, maybe I am wrong and your kid is awesome. Look at the faces of the people around you sometime when the kiddo is being sooo funny,and I'm sure that will give you the answer.
 
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