School Project....

[poster]

....ok, girl does a project on important person in history. The project is turned in on time and all 3rd grade students give their oral presentation on the same day, except her class. Her teacher decided to allow a few students present each day. Girl gives presentation 1week later and comes home in tears because teacher told her report was not very good based on girl not remembering all info.

Now grade comes home and project was graded in 3 parts she receives a 100/100/83 %'s the lowest being on the verbal presentation - this is not a terrible grade as suggested by teacher.

Am I being oversensitive in being upset? What does a teacher expect when making a student wait a week to present and why would she tell a student it's not very good and then give an ok grade?

Sorry - needed to vent, probably being protective of my girl but I'm getting real tired of the mixed messages she's getting from this teacher.

 

[kom526]

Maybe the teacher should have let your daughter know when she was to do her presentation.:shrug: But an 83 on one part of a 3rd grade project is not going to keep her out of Harvard.

 

[yankee44]

If that is the only bad thing that happens to your little one in school count your blessings.

 

[poster]

Maybe the teacher should have let your daughter know when she was to do her presentation.:shrug: But an 83 on one part of a 3rd grade project is not going to keep her out of Harvard.

I think an 83 is a perfectly acceptable grade. I don't expect staight A's just an honest effort in her work. What bothered me was the teacher telling her it was terrible and then grading her with a B. This has happened to her on more than one occation. This teacher has a way of making her feel terrible and the grade comes in and its either average or above.

 

[poster]

If that is the only bad thing that happens to your little one in school count your blessings.

Agreed just frustrating.....especially for her.

 

[nobody really]

....ok, girl does a project on important person in history. The project is turned in on time and all 3rd grade students give their oral presentation on the same day, except her class. Her teacher decided to allow a few students present each day. Girl gives presentation 1week later and comes home in tears because teacher told her report was not very good based on girl not remembering all info.

Now grade comes home and project was graded in 3 parts she receives a 100/100/83 %'s the lowest being on the verbal presentation - this is not a terrible grade as suggested by teacher.

Am I being oversensitive in being upset? What does a teacher expect when making a student wait a week to present and why would she tell a student it's not very good and then give an ok grade?

Sorry - needed to vent, probably being protective of my girl but I'm getting real tired of the mixed messages she's getting from this teacher.

i don't have kids, but i can see your frustration. he** i'm 42 and have a hard time remembering at times what i did last week. teach should have given her at least a days notice to let her know when she was going to "brief" the class. crap, there are people here at work that submit briefs a week before and still need to review what they wrote and why.

 

[AiryT]

Could it be possible that your little one took what the teacher said in the wrong way or was overly sensitive to the teacher's critique?

 

[theArtistFormerlyKnownAs]

If that is in fact exactly what happened (kids have ways of changing the story...or taking things the wrong way) then the teacher should definitely stop downing a kid if they still end up giving a good grade on the daggone thing. Even if it was terrible..you shouldn't be telling a 3rd grader that...just tell them how to improve it.

For the record, something like that (if the kid didn't get to have any notes) would even be hard for me to remember most of the stuff ...ESPECIALLY a week later...I don't even know if I could effectively do it the day I turn the dam thing in

 

[Ladybug76]

I would just talk to the teacher. Kids don't always do a great job of explaining what has been said to them (at least mine don't). I think it's great that you are involved in her education.

 

[poster]

Could it be possible that your little one took what the teacher said in the wrong way or was overly sensitive to the teacher's critique?

Absolutely and I've suggested this to my daughter and brushed it off on many occations. I'm starting to notice lately that it's pretty often which makes me wonder if she's sensitive or if the teacher just doesn't know how to give constructive criticism to an 8yr old.

 

[poster]

I would just talk to the teacher. Kids don't always do a great job of explaining what has been said to them (at least mine don't). I think it's great that you are involved in her education.

This has been my thought also but I have no idea how to approach her on this. Suggestions would be welcome on how to handle.......and thank you.

 

[theArtistFormerlyKnownAs]

This has been my thought also but I have no idea how to approach her on this. Suggestions would be welcome on how to handle.......and thank you.

Just call and ask to speak with the teacher. Then ask her if she would mind setting up an appointment where it is convenient for you both to discuss a few things about your daughter's schooling, in particular, some things your daughter has been hurt by and you are not sure if they are being communicated clearly.


Something like that

 

[Ladybug76]

Just call and ask to speak with the teacher. Then ask her if she would mind setting up an appointment where it is convenient for you both to discuss a few things about your daughter's schooling, in particular, some things your daughter has been hurt by and you are not sure if they are being communicated clearly.


Something like that

Good recommendations! I think it's really important to not come across in an agressive way. You don't want to put the teacher on the defensive--especially since all you want to do is help your daughter. If you can't do a face to face meeting, then just send a note or email and say something like- "I see that (daughter) received an 83 on her report. She worked really hard and I'm wondering what she needs to do next time in order to receive a better grade." Also, since you feel that too much time had passed--mention that as well.

Most good teachers want to know that parents are involved. Make sure that you celebrate the positive with your daughter since she did really well on the other parts of the project.

 

[aanderson]

Absolutely and I've suggested this to my daughter and brushed it off on many occations. I'm starting to notice lately that it's pretty often which makes me wonder if she's sensitive or if the teacher just doesn't know how to give constructive criticism to an 8yr old.

While I agree that kids can twist stories up...don't ignore it for too long if you are noticing it is happening often.

When my son was in 1st grade he would come home from school and say he had an awful day because "the teacher yells all the time." I had met the teacher and she was a youngish lady who seemed soft spoken and very motherly...so I shrugged it off as him being overly sensitive and just not wanting to go to school. Well fast forward a few weeks...my son started refusing to get on the bus so I would drive him and the administrators would have to come out to my car and actually drag him out! He would kick and scream and beg me not to do this...yeah I felt terrible.

Come to find out...the teacher would scream at these 6 year old until she made them cry. She terrorized them...and after talking with other parents I learned that my son was not the only one who said this. One parent had witnessed it while volunteering in the class.

I ended up withdrawing my son and putting him in a private school and I learned that the teacher resigned at the end of the year...and she no longer teaches...at least not in St. Mary's County.

So...just pay attention to things and go with your gut. If you feel like your daughter is being treated unfairly...then speak to the teacher. I'm not saying kids CAN'T twist things around...just that they don't always.

 

[camily]

....ok, girl does a project on important person in history. The project is turned in on time and all 3rd grade students give their oral presentation on the same day, except her class. Her teacher decided to allow a few students present each day. Girl gives presentation 1week later and comes home in tears because teacher told her report was not very good based on girl not remembering all info.

Now grade comes home and project was graded in 3 parts she receives a 100/100/83 %'s the lowest being on the verbal presentation - this is not a terrible grade as suggested by teacher.

Am I being oversensitive in being upset? What does a teacher expect when making a student wait a week to present and why would she tell a student it's not very good and then give an ok grade?

Sorry - needed to vent, probably being protective of my girl but I'm getting real tired of the mixed messages she's getting from this teacher.

A week is not that long to remember something you did a report on.

 

[camily]

While I agree that kids can twist stories up...don't ignore it for too long if you are noticing it is happening often.

When my son was in 1st grade he would come home from school and say he had an awful day because "the teacher yells all the time." I had met the teacher and she was a youngish lady who seemed soft spoken and very motherly...so I shrugged it off as him being overly sensitive and just not wanting to go to school. Well fast forward a few weeks...my son started refusing to get on the bus so I would drive him and the administrators would have to come out to my car and actually drag him out! He would kick and scream and beg me not to do this...yeah I felt terrible.

Come to find out...the teacher would scream at these 6 year old until she made them cry. She terrorized them...and after talking with other parents I learned that my son was not the only one who said this. One parent had witnessed it while volunteering in the class.

I ended up withdrawing my son and putting him in a private school and I learned that the teacher resigned at the end of the year...and she no longer teaches...at least not in St. Mary's County.

So...just pay attention to things and go with your gut. If you feel like your daughter is being treated unfairly...then speak to the teacher. I'm not saying kids CAN'T twist things around...just that they don't always.

Because there are no bad teachers in private school right?

 

[aanderson]

A week is not that long to remember something you did a report on.

My 11 year old has a problem remembering what he did with his book bag the night before...I couldn't imagine him having to remember a report from a week ago. Plus I am sure she was nervous from being in front of all the kids in the class and giving an oral presentation.

 

[aanderson]

Because there are no bad teachers in private school right?

Yes that is exactly what I am saying...

 

[camily]

My 11 year old has a problem remembering what he did with his book bag the night before...I couldn't imagine him having to remember a report from a week ago. Plus I am sure she was nervous from being in front of all the kids in the class and giving an oral presentation.

And I'm sure that was taken into consideration by the teacher and why the child was given a "B" instead of an "F". I think she should just chill out. If she goes to the teacher over this, what will the child expect when she really does get a bad grade?
Teachers aren't allowed to freakin' teach anymore. I would be pissed if I were a teacher and gave little Susie 100/100/83 and her overprotective mom came in and asked why she didn't get 100/100/100 because she think she deserves it. Maybe she should home school so she can give her whatever grades she wants.
Ok, here come the negative comments from the home schoolers......

 

[camily]

Yes that is exactly what I am saying...

I know.