Share Custody BUT...

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goldielocks7

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Edit: Question about Share Custody

Does anyone have share custody that knows who has residential say?
The court didnt add that to the orders and ex and I are not sure who has that authority. 50/50 split is what we have but honestly feels more 90 me and 30 him.
Do you think if I called the laywer 3 years ago he will tell me?
 
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Elle

Elle

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goldielocks7 said:
But why should I always give give give
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If it were for the best interest of the kids involved then there should be no limit on how much you give.

If it's a case of 2 parents who can't get along and are just playing tit for tat then I'm not sure what to tell you:shrug:
 
BuddyLee

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Ponytail said:
Ummm...instead of asking a public forum, wouldn't it be more wise to ask, oh I don't know, maybe YOUR LAWYER??
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What a hare-brained idea. Where do think up such things PT? Sheesh.:duh:
 
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goldielocks7

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Ponytail said:
Ummm...instead of asking a public forum, wouldn't it be more wise to ask, oh I don't know, maybe YOUR LAWYER??
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WISE? Lawyers are not wise these days. They are wise to money and that is it.
public forum is free and can get more advise. so there
 
BuddyLee

BuddyLee

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goldielocks7 said:
WISE? Lawyers are not wise these days. They are wise to money and that is it.
public forum is free and can get more advise. so there
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...and for that you will assuredly have the edge in your battle.:sarcasm:
 
Pete

Pete

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I am unsure about Maryland law but most states are similar.

Typically in shared or 50-50 custody they expect parents to discuss and agree. In cases that they cannot a post divorce action is usually ordered. Most of the time it is mediation.

Most states will only allow custody be revisited if there is a "significant change of circumstance" one of which being that one of the parents moves. In Maine it was 60 miles. Since Golden Beach is not 60 miles or more away it really does not qualify if Maryland shares the same criteria.

That all being said the courts are mandated to "act as a wise and compassionate parent". Consistency is a big deal and if you contact your lawyer, get a temporary order for your kids to begin school at their USUAL school, I doubt a judge would rule to disrupt the lives of kids because the Dad moved a few miles up the road.

In a nut shell call your lawyer so the kids can start school next week.
 
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Tigerlily

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goldielocks7 said:
WISE? Lawyers are not wise these days. They are wise to money and that is it.
public forum is free and can get more advise. so there
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Why don't you both sit down with your children and decide together. I think the desires of the children should be considered.
 
Sharon

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Tigerlily said:
Why don't you both sit down with your children and decide together.
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:nono: No arguing or whining in front of the children. Obviously, they can't make a decision together that they can both agree on.



Let's go to the coin toss! :lol:
 
Ponytail

Ponytail

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Sharon said:
:nono: No arguing or whining in front of the children. Obviously, they can't make a decision together that they can both agree on.



Let's go to the coin toss! :lol:
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Sounds more like it should be decided by a game of Quarters or Beer Pong.
 
Ken King

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The issue is something that if you and the ex can't reach a mutual agreement then it will need to go before a court to be resolved.

As the husband was the one that moved creating the problem it would seem that until a new agreement is reached and placed in writing that the kids should continue to go to the school they have been attending. What is in the best interest of the children, remaining at the current schools or going to the new schools that are more convenient for the ex?
 
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Bronwyn

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Sometimes the courts treat custody situations like the "nine tenths" rule. If your ex has already moved them to another school, it might be too late to move them back. If the move happened this summer and they haven't had their first day, you would have to make sure they were in YOUR school district. Judges do not like to have them moved POST fact. It's too confusing for the kids.
Thats just based on my own personal experiance and opinion. Not an expert, just a divorced mom with shared custody myself.
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Lilypad

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goldielocks7 said:
Who has the final say or even has residential custody to make the final decision? I am so upset
The ex hubby and mate got married and now moved to golden beach. i have lived in margaret brent district for 2 1/2 yrs and had compromise to have the kids stay at LMS and oakville. NOW all of a sudden they moved and now want the kids to go to MB and Lettie Dent. Fine, but have the oldest almost 13 come home after school to grandmas house and get homework done. There are activities after school...why stress is my say right? He wants to take charge. My question is who has the final say if it is not listed on court paper? Or who has more of residential custody if there is a 50/50 split. This was suppose to be settled like a month ago and it is not. Now school is almost here HELP!

I was trying to compromise to this:
Banneker and MB is my school district (think no daycare expense) Could of been done because my mom lives in that area. But having 50/50 share custody and he has 2 more kids with (now the step mom) and him moving to golden beach that was out of his reach to get the kids. :jameo:

Suggestions or advise will be greatly appreicated, thank you
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Dear goldie-be careful what you post-it could come back to haunt you. :yay:
 
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