From my first post "60s suburbia" is key. Dad worked in Crystal City, Mom stayed home and ran the household. With 3 kids no more than 6 years apart, Mom worked harder than Dad ever did.Grounding only works if there is a parent home to enforce it. When my Brother and I were coming along, if/when we got grounded, Mom was a stay-at-home Mom back then. When we got off the bus after school, if we were grounded, the grounding restrictions/parameters were then in effect. Does that still happen today, when both parents work?
For years my husband and I have been told that we are raising our boys "old school". We are quite proud of that.The lack of basic respect is the root of the behavior issue, and we learn about that core value from our PARENTS.
I wouldn't have known simple manners if my parents hadn't taught me. Luckily, my parents had time to spend with me, talk to me, and teach me to use my brain! Yes, they both worked their jobs until they were utterly exhausted every single day, but I was still their priority. I got my butt spanked more than just a few times, and as an adult, I thank them for caring about my discipline. They often told me, "this hurts me more than it hurts you!" Has anyone had that precursory a$$-whipping apology?
I would also like to add that we had dinner together at the table every single night. My parents were INVOLVED. I rarely was allowed to watch tv, unless it was 30 minutes before bed. Nintendo was a serious treat.
I believe that parenting has become the real issue, and I am doing my part as a parent to make sure my core values are passed on to my child. He recognizes the appalling behavior of his peers, and society in general, and often points out "how wrong" it is. I'm fortunate to have a kid who actually listens, and I often thank him for being so conscientious!
True.It did 10-15 years ago. Now there are ways of remote monitoring, so it should really be no problem to keep tabs on your kids.
The problem is that parents are lazy and don't want to raise their children.