Social experiment (rambling)

[ShaNK]

I'll hold the door for anyone both male & female and I ALWAYS say "Thank you!" when someone holds the door for me.

I, however, wasn't really brought up to do these things, and can say that it was more of a recent development on my part. It was more of being in the work place that I think did it for me. I wanted to keep my job rather then lose it for being and impolite teenager working at a DoD contractor. Since then I just keep doing it.

 

[aps45819]

I made sure I told them "You're welcome!"

I like doing that too

 

[Chain729]

I was walking out of a store with 3 gallons of water, pushed door open with my butt and as the door opened a black woman about my age walked through without so much as a eff you very much, then a man about my age walked through and said thank you. Both of them were too self absorbed to even realize I wasn't holding the door for them, they just took advantage of the fact that it was open.

I've had that happen. I've also had people wait for me to open the door, while my hands were full, and then slipped by without a word or even blinking.

The only thing that slightly frustrates me is when I take the GF to a non-sit down restraunt. I'll hold the door for her and watch a dozen people slip through like I'm not there. Then, watch as they give me an evil look while I walk past them and go further up in line to join my GF- who I was holding the door for to begin with.

 

[vraiblonde]

Today:

Hottie white guy construction worker with a do-rag and chains on his jean pockets: held the door AND let me go first at the soda fountain.

Hottie black guy in a suit and tie: held the door for me and another woman (black, nicely dressed), who blew past him like he didn't even exist.

 

[RoseRed]

New York City tops in courtesy, says Reader's Digest

 

[huntr1]

I hold the door open, say "Thank You" and "You're Welcome" where appropriate, I signal before changing lanes in traffic, I slow down and make a hole for people that want to change lanes when they signal first, I get the heck outta the way for overtaking tractor trailers (I sure as hell don't want their grill in my rear view mirror), I wave to say thank you (or flash my hazards for truckers and after dark) and I also acknowledge a wave w/ a wave. Just doing what my parents taught me and passing it on to my kids. If my kids don't say "please", they don't get it. If they don't say "Thank You", I take it away.

 

[marianne]

New York City tops in courtesy, says Reader's Digest

All the years I lived in NY I've had the door held open for me there way, way, waaaaayy more often than in VA, DC, or even sweet SOMD. In my "social experiments" I've found male engineers in NY held doors open 100% of the time.

 

[Airgasm]

All the years I lived in NY I've had the door held open for me there way, way, waaaaayy more often than in VA, DC, or even sweet SOMD. In my "social experiments" I've found male engineers in NY held doors open 100% of the time.

's rule

 

[jazz lady]

's rule

Both male AND female.

 

[Patch]

All the years I lived in NY I've had the door held open for me there way, way, waaaaayy more often than in VA, DC, or even sweet SOMD. In my "social experiments" I've found male engineers in NY held doors open 100% of the time.

How did you know the occupation of someone holding a door?

 

[mainman]

I've found male engineers in NY held doors open 100% of the time.

How did you know the occupation of someone holding a door?

Maybe it was the funny little hats, that and they kept yelling "All aboard"...:shrug:

 

[CandyRain]

I am way more annoyed by men who don't give up their seats for women and the elderly.

I sat at the gate at National and watched in awe as healthy, young men sat there eating their bagels and reading their newspapers while women holding children and old people lugging their carry on stood up waiting. Not acceptable.

 

[morganj614]

I am way more annoyed by men who don't give up their seats for women and the elderly.

I sat at the gate at National and watched in awe as healthy, young men sat there eating their bagels and reading their newspapers while women holding children and old people lugging their carry on stood up waiting. Not acceptable.

just to ..Why should men give up their seats to women? We fought for equal rights. I can see giving up a seat to the elderly if they look frail. I think next time I am somewhere, I'll give up my seat to a male

 

[Lugnut]

I am way more annoyed by men who don't give up their seats for women and the elderly.

I sat at the gate at National and watched in awe as healthy, young men sat there eating their bagels and reading their newspapers while women holding children and old people lugging their carry on stood up waiting. Not acceptable.

I'll give up my seat for a senior. But give it up for somebody simply because they have kids? Nope.

 

[CandyRain]

It's actually not even an issue as far as a age or gender. I've given up my seat to both before. I guess the point is, to be courteous, a healthy, able person should give up their seat to someone less able :shrug: and by that I mean someone frail or someone encumbered by heavy bags and/or children. I'd give up my seat to a man holding a child but that may be because I know what it's like holding a sleeping child and carrying a bag.

 

[morganj614]

It's actually not even an issue as far as a age or gender. I've given up my seat to both before. I guess the point is, to be courteous, a healthy, able person should give up their seat to someone less able :shrug: and by that I mean someone frail or someone encumbered by heavy bags and/or children. I'd give up my seat to a man holding a child but that may be because I know what it's like holding a sleeping child and carrying a bag.

That was not what you originally stated

I know several younger people who have pins and plates holding body parts together but you cannot tell, by looking at them, that they have these things. Arthritis hurts and is not always visible. I know some elderly that are very healthy. :shrug: You get there first, you get a seat. IMO

 

[CandyRain]

That was not what you originally stated

I know several younger people who have pins and plates holding body parts together but you cannot tell, by looking at them, that they have these things. Arthritis hurts and is not always visible. I know some elderly that are very healthy. :shrug: You get there first, you get a seat. IMO

That's all true. My point is, if you are healthy and if you are well-mannered and courteous, you should give up your seat to someone who is obviously less able than you. That's all.

 

[marianne]

How did you know the occupation of someone holding a door?

We were walking into engineering companies.

 

[marianne]

That's all true. My point is, if you are healthy and if you are well-mannered and courteous, you should give up your seat to someone who is obviously less able than you. That's all.

There's little reason not to offer your seat to pregnant women, those with small children, or the elderly. I know younger people who have pins & screws in their bodies -- these folks can walk & stand and they're also polite enough to offer up their seats to others. I can understand a rare situation where you really need to sit down. But these days it's backwards and even more rare that someone offers up their seat.

True story happened a few months ago:
An older woman walked onto the DC metro green line train. Two male teenagers were sitting in the "elderly and handicapped" seats, being overly loud and obnoxious. The woman politely asked if she could sit there. The guys said no and laughed rudely. Another passenger on the train (not mentioning names) was standing nearby, overheard the conversation, and kicked the teens bookbags off the metro. The boys ran off the train to get their bookbags, the doors closed, the woman sat down, and the passenger who kicked the bookbags off the train received a round of applause.

 

[vraiblonde]

Me thinks you need to increase your sample size and it's diversity. So head out to the local Mickey D's and get more data

Now here I am in a completely different location with a very different demographic, and my data findings are still valid.

A gang banger punk looking kid with profanity on his t-shirt is more likely to hold the door for a woman than a well-dressed white professional male. Black women still do not say thank you, and neither do white trash women.

Black men in general are more likely to hold the door than their white counterparts, and blue collar men hold the door almost always, regardless of ethnicity. The exception is loud buffoonish moron white blue collars.

Two groups of men: a pack of black ruffians, being loud and catcalling each other, probably using inappropriate language; and a pack of white ruffians the same. You can bet that the black guys will hold the door for you while the white guys will practically trample you to get in the door first.

This is my observation from frequenting the Sheetz on a daily basis, the post office regularly, and assorted other errand locations.