Mosts excellent read. My take on the toilet seat is that if I have to put it down then she should have to pick something up. I now lift the seat to do my business then lower the seat and the lid so she has to pick something up. Its only fair.
Most excellent though as far as the toilet seat is concerned, If I have to put it down after I use it then what I opt to do is put the lid down to so she has something to pick up as well to.