Therapist

[MDTerps]

Does anyone know of any good therapist in the area? I did a thread search to see if this has been disscused before but didn't come up with anything. I have a few names I'm looking but want input from others.
I took my son to a therapist and wasn't very happy on the first visit.
I'm looking for someone that works with children as well as adults.

Thanks

 

[RoseRed]

PM Lucy.

 

[migtig]

Is this trauma related? divorce? or other? The reasons behind the treatment would change my suggestion for you. BTW, what county are you in?

 

[MDTerps]

Is this trauma related? divorce? or other? The reasons behind the treatment would change my suggestion for you. BTW, what county are you in?

Divorce related, my son has ajusted ok with it. But my husband feels the need to tell him that it is my fault that our family isn't together any more. All though I talk to my son about it, I still feel there is some resentment, b/c he thinks his father is telling the truth.
Anyway I just want to see a counsler to help him understand the situation and deal with issues he may have. And also deal with some issues I have.

I'm in St. Marys.

 

[RoseRed]

Divorce related, my son has ajusted ok with it. But my husband feels the need to tell him that it is my fault that our family isn't together any more. All though I talk to my son about it, I still feel there is some resentment, b/c he thinks his father is telling the truth.
Anyway I just want to see a counsler to help him understand the situation and deal with issues he may have. And also deal with some issues I have.

I'm in St. Marys.

Does your company offer an EAP with a referral service?

 

[Ponytail]

... But my husband feels the need to tell him that it is my fault that our family isn't together any more. ...

Same bullchit that my dad pulled. I saw thru it, course it was pretty obvious since he'd been bangin' another woman for several years prior but that's besides the point. I came thru it just fine.

Good on ya for gettin your boy a therapist. The hard part about that will be making him comfortable going and not being embarrassed about going to a "shrink". That's the reason I didn't go to one. I had enough trouble with kids at school. If they found out I was going to a therapist, I'd prolly be gay by now.

 

[pixiegirl]

Divorce related, my son has ajusted ok with it. But my husband feels the need to tell him that it is my fault that our family isn't together any more. All though I talk to my son about it, I still feel there is some resentment, b/c he thinks his father is telling the truth.
Anyway I just want to see a counsler to help him understand the situation and deal with issues he may have. And also deal with some issues I have.

I'm in St. Marys.

In my opinion that is mental abuse by your ex. I would not only seek psychiatric help for your child but immediate legal help as well.

 

[Ponytail]

In my opinion that is mental abuse by your ex. I would not only seek psychiatric help for your child but immediate legal help as well.

Unfortunately, nothing will happen Pix. This is typical behavior, right or wrong. Courts see it all the time. The child is being made a pawn to get back at one parent or the other.

 

[pixiegirl]

Unfortunately, nothing will happen Pix. This is typical behavior, right or wrong. Courts see it all the time. The child is being made a pawn to get back at one parent or the other.

My brother and his ex got sent to court ordered mediation. I would at least try. It's cruel to use a kid like that.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

My brother and his ex got sent to court ordered mediation. I would at least try. It's cruel to use a kid like that.

That's mandatory if the parties cannot come to an agreement.

 

[MDTerps]

Same bullchit that my dad pulled. I saw thru it, course it was pretty obvious since he'd been bangin' another woman for several years prior but that's besides the point. I came thru it just fine.

Good on ya for gettin your boy a therapist. The hard part about that will be making him comfortable going and not being embarrassed about going to a "shrink". That's the reason I didn't go to one. I had enough trouble with kids at school. If they found out I was going to a therapist, I'd prolly be gay by now.

Maybe I shouldn't take him then!!

He has gone before but I didn't like the counsler, and wasn't seeing any change in his BAD attitude. Thinks are going well now though and his attitude is MUCH better. But after last nights fight with the ex and he stayed in the room with our son while he was yelling at me on the phone saying "it's all your fault blah blah", I figured I should start counsling again. This time around have session with both my son and I. Before he was going in by himself.

Pix it is wrong of my ex to do this. But theres not much I can do about it like Ponytail said.

 

[Ponytail]

My brother and his ex got sent to court ordered mediation. I would at least try. It's cruel to use a kid like that.

My parents were in mediation, more times than I can remember. I was still the pawn. My brother was too young to understand what was going on, so I was the one that got angry and held a grudge as I got older. I feel much better now though.

 

[MDTerps]

My brother and his ex got sent to court ordered mediation. I would at least try. It's cruel to use a kid like that.

It is cruel. But remember I'm the one in the wrong b/c I left and broke up our family. But hey, maybe I should of stayed with the cheating bastard and made life hell for all 3 of us. That would of been the best thing to do, right?

 

[Midnightrider]

Maybe I shouldn't take him then!!

He has gone before but I didn't like the counsler, and wasn't seeing any change in his BAD attitude. Thinks are going well now though and his attitude is MUCH better. But after last nights fight with the ex and he stayed in the room with our son while he was yelling at me on the phone saying "it's all your fault blah blah", I figured I should start counsling again. This time around have session with both my son and I. Before he was going in by himself.

Pix it is wrong of my ex to do this. But theres not much I can do about it like Ponytail said.

the three of you should really go together, i did with my Ex and my boy, and it made her see what she was saying through an independant observers eyes.

 

[pixiegirl]

It is cruel. But remember I'm the one in the wrong b/c I left and broke up our family. But hey, maybe I should of stayed with the cheating bastard and made life hell for all 3 of us. That would of been the best thing to do, right?

How old is your son?

I know how you feel. I left my ex husband when my son was 2 months old because he was more interested in playing play station and smoking pot then he was in being a father or a husband. To this day he is no different yet blames me for breaking up the family. Trying to reason with him is useless because he is convinced that he is faultless (is that a word) and that things would have been totally different had I stayed. Yeah right!

 

[Ponytail]

Maybe I shouldn't take him then!!

He has gone before but I didn't like the counsler, and wasn't seeing any change in his BAD attitude. Thinks are going well now though and his attitude is MUCH better. But after last nights fight with the ex and he stayed in the room with our son while he was yelling at me on the phone saying "it's all your fault blah blah", I figured I should start counsling again. This time around have session with both my son and I. Before he was going in by himself.

Pix it is wrong of my ex to do this. But theres not much I can do about it like Ponytail said.

Dang...it's really sounding familiar now. Don't tell your son that's it's wrong to feel like he has to pick a side, one way or the other, or to feel angry. But he definitely needs to find a way to channel that anger and to understand it. It WILL eat him up as he gets older. Feeling anger over this stuff is normal, but understanding and controlling it is the key to an easier life for him.

I just wish I understood it when I was younger and that I talked to a therapist sooner than I did.

I hope ya find one that you both like soon. Good luck through it all. Unfortunately, it'll be a long trip.

 

[MDTerps]

the three of you should really go together, i did with my Ex and my boy, and it made her see what she was saying through an independant observers eyes.

I think I'll do a few sessions with just my son and I before I bring in the ex. He doesn't think our son needs the counsling. Really I think the one that needs the counsling the most is my ex and not my son.
Hopefully I'll find someone my son and I like.

Thanks everyone for the supporting words!

 

[migtig]

I think I'll do a few sessions with just my son and I before I bring in the ex. He doesn't think our son needs the counsling. Really I think the one that needs the counsling the most is my ex and not my son.
Hopefully I'll find someone my son and I like.

Thanks everyone for the supporting words!

Check your pm's.

 

[JabbaJawz]

I just PMed you the information for a wonderful child therapist.

 

[MDTerps]

It is cruel. But remember I'm the one in the wrong b/c I left and broke up our family. But hey, maybe I should of stayed with the cheating bastard and made life hell for all 3 of us. That would of been the best thing to do, right?

01-10-2006 01:16 PM you were cheating, right?

I got red for this post. Whoever can't read..... I wasn't the one cheating HE was!