Thought for the day

[vraiblonde]

My friend's FB friend posted this today:

"As your kids were growing up, you would pick them up, hold them and then put them back down. You did this many many times. At some point you put them down and never picked them back up again and you didn't realize that would be the last time you did that."

I thought that was poignant and thought provoking.

 

[SoMDGirl42]

My friend's FB friend posted this today:

"As your kids were growing up, you would pick them up, hold them and then put them back down. You did this many many times. At some point you put them down and never picked them back up again and you didn't realize that would be the last time you did that."

I thought that was poignant and thought provoking.

That is very true. Then you begin picking them up mentally. Boy broke their heart, pick her up. Struggling with a life decision, pick him up. They still fall down and get hurt, even as adults, though many times it's not physically.

The lesson should be: always be there to pick your kids up. Just because they are too big to pick up physically doesn't mean they are too big to pick up mentally with your support. Recently I had both my grown kids calling within an hour of each other needing me to pick them up. It left me drained and exhausted. I called my mom to pick me up

 

[Bann]

My friend's FB friend posted this today:

"As your kids were growing up, you would pick them up, hold them and then put them back down. You did this many many times. At some point you put them down and never picked them back up again and you didn't realize that would be the last time you did that."

I thought that was poignant and thought provoking.

It is!!

When I saw your FB post this morning, I burst into tears at the realization of just how poignant it was. Since the graduation of Thing2, I've been flooded with memories from when he was a youngin', so I was really affected when I read it.

 

[GWguy]

That was the day you hurt your back because they were too damn heavy to pick up anyway.

 

[KDENISE977]

That was the day you hurt your back because they were too damn heavy to pick up anyway.

This is me every day. My son weights 33 lbs and still wants me to pick him up...every...single...day. I can't say no, which is maybe why he's so clingy to me :shrug: who can say no to a 3 year old begging for a hug :shrug:

 

[vraiblonde]

who can say no to a 3 year old begging for a hug :shrug:

I have a video somewhere of Larry's oldest daughter when she was about 3, she's in jammies in the kitchen and Larry is doing something other than paying attention to her, so she puts her arms up to him and says, "Hug you! Hug you" in this pathetic little voice.

How do you say no to that?

 

[pelers]

I read something similar, except instead of being picked up, it was talking about the last time they will ask you to tuck them into bed. It's been mentioned in the toddler sleeping patterns thread, which is probably why KDenise and I are such wussy pushovers about it.

I know the snuggles will end at some point. They'll be too big, too cool, and at some point it does just become creepy so I'm going to enjoy it while I can.

 

[KDENISE977]

I read something similar, except instead of being picked up, it was talking about the last time they will ask you to tuck them into bed. It's been mentioned in the toddler sleeping patterns thread, which is probably why KDenise and I are such wussy pushovers about it.

I know the snuggles will end at some point. They'll be too big, too cool, and at some point it does just become creepy so I'm going to enjoy it while I can.

Amen sister Even last night I was in bed for 45 minutes with my son giving hugs and snuggles. That post you're talking about, regarding the last time they ask you to snuggle, etc I cry every time I read it too.

I worry my son is emotionally immature because every morning when I drop him off at daycare/school he goes on the teachers lap for hugs, none of the other children younger or older than him do this he's a hugger and I don't want to discourage that just yet and the teachers suck it up and love on him in the mornings so it's not bothering them, I'm just hoping he doesn't become the creepy kid who hugs at like 10....

 

[pelers]

Amen sister Even last night I was in bed for 45 minutes with my son giving hugs and snuggles. That post you're talking about, regarding the last time they ask you to snuggle, etc I cry every time I read it too.

I worry my son is emotionally immature because every morning when I drop him off at daycare/school he goes on the teachers lap for hugs, none of the other children younger or older than him do this he's a hugger and I don't want to discourage that just yet and the teachers suck it up and love on him in the mornings so it's not bothering them, I'm just hoping he doesn't become the creepy kid who hugs at like 10....

My daughter is also a hugger. I love it. We do "bye bye" hugs about ten times when I drop her off at school. The other kids usually get in on it, too, so we have a big hug it out session before I leave. Son has never been much for physical affection. If you ask him for a kiss, he MIGHT come over to you... but he won't give you a kiss. He'll offer his forehead to you. If you ask for a hug, he MIGHT come over, but won't wrap his arms around you. He'll back into you and expect YOU to hug HIM. When he wants "nuggles" at bedtime, he wants you RIGHT THERE, but not touching him. He's a funny kid.

 

[MarieB]

This made me want to cry, and in some ways it was creepy, chilling too.

My boys are huggers, especially the youngest. He will hug "strangers (especially kids), and I can see that it makes some people uncomfortable. There have been times when part of me wanted to stop him from doing so, but I don't.

 

[dontknowwhy]

My daughter is also a hugger. I love it. We do "bye bye" hugs about ten times when I drop her off at school. The other kids usually get in on it, too, so we have a big hug it out session before I leave. Son has never been much for physical affection. If you ask him for a kiss, he MIGHT come over to you... but he won't give you a kiss. He'll offer his forehead to you. If you ask for a hug, he MIGHT come over, but won't wrap his arms around you. He'll back into you and expect YOU to hug HIM. When he wants "nuggles" at bedtime, he wants you RIGHT THERE, but not touching him. He's a funny kid.

My girlfriend's daughter is EXACTLY like this... sweet & loving, but not very touchy feely

 

[Hank]

My girlfriend's daughter is EXACTLY like this... sweet & loving, but not very touchy feely

Why are you trying to get touchy feely with her?

 

[SamSpade]

I have a video somewhere of Larry's oldest daughter when she was about 3, she's in jammies in the kitchen and Larry is doing something other than paying attention to her, so she puts her arms up to him and says, "Hug you! Hug you" in this pathetic little voice.

How do you say no to that?

My littlest one is very fond of hugs, and usually will just say "Hug" with her arms open wide - to which I will almost always respond with hugging something or someone ELSE in the room. She'll get a kidding sort of mad, and then insist on a hug, using her name or saying "hug ME".

I guess I've always known that sooner or later, she's not going to want it as much. I know there will at least be a time in the future when she would rather die than be hugged by Daddy, especially in public.

Well maybe not my daughters. But definitely my son.

 

[vraiblonde]

PS, you ladies with little ones need to have the book "Love You Forever" if you want to have a little weep fest. I used to read this to my daughter, and now she reads it to my grandson, and it still chokes us up.

Love You Forever

 

[kwillia]

PS, you ladies with little ones need to have the book "Love You Forever" if you want to have a little weep fest. I used to read this to my daughter, and now she reads it to my grandson, and it still chokes us up.

Love You Forever

That one and "Go the #### to sleep" should be automatic shower gifts.

 

[KDENISE977]

That one and "Go the #### to sleep" should be automatic shower gifts.

YES the "Go the #### to sleep" is a MUST !!! Narrarated by Samuel L. Jackson

 

[vraiblonde]

That one and "Go the #### to sleep" should be automatic shower gifts.

The Men's Health version: Get the #### Out of My Room

Please straighten up, Dad, and get your head out of your ass
My young and innocent years just aren’t going to last

I can’t take care of myself, so I must look to you
Now man up and sack up—you know what to do

Give me a kiss and bid me “Good night!”
And think about how you can make this thing right

’Cuz if forever you’re going to be chock-full of gloom
You’d might as well just get the f**k out of my room

 

[BadGirl]

PS, you ladies with little ones need to have the book "Love You Forever" if you want to have a little weep fest. I used to read this to my daughter, and now she reads it to my grandson, and it still chokes us up.

Love You Forever

I can't read this book without blowing snot bubbles out of my nose. Seriously BIG snot bubbles, I may add.

I have a few copies of it, but the one that means the most to me is the one that my mother inscribed for me not long before she died.

 

[RoseRed]

I have never even heard of this story.

 

[kwillia]

I have never even heard of this story.

I do scrapbooking so I have plans to make a customized "book" for each of my two kids using pictures of them at each of the stages as the story goes along. I'll give them the book as a shower gift for their first born. If I get hit by a bus and die before I become a granmother at least they'll have this gift from me to enjoy with my grandchild after I'm gone.

This thread is making me commit to getting the two books done as my summer project.