What do you do.....

[Aerogal]

when someone that you have 'friended' on Face Book and use as a neighbor on some of the app games dies?
The mother of my step-nephew's SO died suddenly last week from a stroke. I didn't know the woman, but it was asked of me to be her friend and neighbor on a couple of games apps by my SIL, so I said okay. We've posted back and forth for a year - so it's sort of like having a casual aquaintance die.
The question is : Do I remove her from my friendlist or from my game app -thereby losing her from the neighbor count (which helps me)? Do i just leave it be, until someone who has access removes her account (I don't think FB does that for people)?
I've noticed a couple of people posted things from the apps on her page, so I let them know she was gone.
Crazy weird question - but I guess it's a sign of the times.

 

[lovinmaryland]

Are you serious?

 

[K_Jo]

Are you serious?

Can't be.

 

[ftcret]

probably votes too...

 

[Aerogal]

Yes- I'm serious about it. The question was asked of me so I figured I'd come to the best source of opinion - SOMDOL Forum .

It is true, she is who I said and the circumstances for the other person is almost the same. I admit it's strange. It does help to have her profile there, it's not going to ruin my day if I delete her, but I feel guilty deleting her from my apps because it feels like I'm erasing her out of existance.

 

[CableChick]

 

[vraiblonde]

The question is : Do I remove her from my friendlist or from my game app -thereby losing her from the neighbor count (which helps me)? Do i just leave it be, until someone who has access removes her account (I don't think FB does that for people)?

I do not think that's a crazy or weird question at all.

I haven't even removed BSGal from my cellphone speed dial, and I certainly won't unfriend her on FB. And I see no reason to ever do either, it's fine the way it is and I know I'd feel terrible "deleting" her.

So just leave it be.

 

[kwillia]

I do not think that's a crazy or weird question at all.

I haven't even removed BSGal from my cellphone speed dial, and I certainly won't unfriend her on FB. And I see no reason to ever do either, it's fine the way it is and I know I'd feel terrible "deleting" her.

So just leave it be.

Understandable expecially considering she was a true and actual friend.

 

[Cowgirl]

Our realtor passed away not even a year after we bought our house and she's on my FB list. I won't delete her. I know she was "just a realtor" but we really liked her a ton and I don't want to delete her.

 

[lovinmaryland]

Understandable expecially considering she was a true and actual friend.

 

[ftcret]

Just thinking when I can't use FB or phones anymore - I will contact you in other ways. As far as beung 'helped' by having someone listed who no longer is capabale oif participating, why not get Ken Rossignol to come up with a few more personalities ...

 

[BadGirl]

My mom is on my cell phone directory, and she's been dead 2 1/2 years, and hadn't spoken for 3 1/2 years before she died. I just can't hit the "delete" button on my own mother.

Same thing for BSGal...I can't delete her from my FB page, either.

 

[Aerogal]

I do not think that's a crazy or weird question at all.

I haven't even removed BSGal from my cellphone speed dial, and I certainly won't unfriend her on FB. And I see no reason to ever do either, it's fine the way it is and I know I'd feel terrible "deleting" her.

So just leave it be.

Thanks Vrai.

 

[hvp05]

The question is : Do I remove her from my friendlist or from my game app -thereby losing her from the neighbor count (which helps me)?

Aero, I got your general point. But this part did come across odd to me, as if your main concern was how deleting her would affect your gameplay.

Do i just leave it be, until someone who has access removes her account (I don't think FB does that for people)?

FB won't know someone has passed unless the family tells them. :shrug: What the family can do is...

"Memorializing the account:
Please report this information here so that we can memorialize this person’s account. Memorializing the account removes certain more sensitive information like status updates and restricts profile access to confirmed friends only. Please note that in order to protect the privacy of the deceased user, we cannot provide login information for the account to anyone. We do honor requests from close family members to close the account completely.​

A friend of a friend died two months ago, and my friend showed me the guy's 'memorialized' page. The Wall was gone, but I could view his photos and so forth.

I haven't even removed BSGal from my cellphone speed dial, and I certainly won't unfriend her on FB. And I see no reason to ever do either, it's fine the way it is and I know I'd feel terrible "deleting" her.

Honestly, I have wrangled with that myself.

I have some of my favorite photos of her saved and stuff like that. I had some PMs from her (on here) that were 3 years old; previously, I did not delete them because I was lazy lol, but after she passed, I did not want to delete them. Recently, I decided to get rid of most of them - saving some particular ones - because they were silly and I did not want to feel like I was 'clinging' to them.

As for Mel's FB page, I will likely remove it eventually. I would feel bad if I looked at it as deleting her, but I have my memories of her, which is the important part, and those are as sharp as ever.

 

[cattitude]

I do not think that's a crazy or weird question at all.

I haven't even removed BSGal from my cellphone speed dial, and I certainly won't unfriend her on FB. And I see no reason to ever do either, it's fine the way it is and I know I'd feel terrible "deleting" her.

So just leave it be.

I haven't either. Can't delete the last few texts from her either. Even kept some PMs because they were there and then after she was gone, they made me laugh all over again so I kept them.

Haven't been able to delete my friend Bobby's number either.

Understandable expecially considering she was a true and actual friend.

Bingo!