unixpirate
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RoseRed said:Is that French?
I guess if I am asking a question here is weather I should keep going or cut my losses.
when is enough......enough
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I guess if I am asking a question here is weather I should keep going or cut my losses.
unixpirate
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K_Jo said:
You all have no feelin's
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Kain99
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Women are funny.. Stick with the counseling. Let her uunload! It'll be ok.
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dems4me
Guest
Kain99 said:
I'm still wondering who initiated the counseling, if it was him and she came begrudinglingly, I'd think maybe she has something else on the side. If it was her, then she is earnestly trying to make things work out. :shrug:
usagent
New Member
Kain99 said:
My therapist said women think with their feelings and men dont. A women can have a ton of crap happening in their heads all based on feelings. It doesnt make it true but It's real to them and that makes it real and at times painful for us. the therapist had us start every argument with "I feel" and it actually worked. Now to men its BS because we dont like feelings, well some of us do but their gay. Now I cant say it always worked because I'd get mad and say stuff like "I feel like I want to push you down the stairs" and as you might imagine this effected her "feelings" but give it a try. Cant hurt.
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Rael
Supper's Ready
I'm new here, but not really new to forums. Sounded initially like MPD to me. But when I try to put myself in his situation, I see it as a somewhat desperate attempt at trying to get his dilemma solved. Not knocking anyone at all, nor defending the original poster.
:speculating: Maybe not able to discuss with people around him, family, or friends, nowhere to turn that he is aware of to get help. In an anonymous environment like a public forum, maybe he feels there is chance someone will offer some good advice from their experience that might help. We'll never know unless he shares it, of course.
My advice (since it was asked here) is definitely to get counseling both with your partner and maybe even a regular session for yourself with one. Don't be afraid of opening up there. Having two separate counseling sessions might help you in that your individual session will expose your problem (if you're honest there, and you should be since it is only you and the counselor) and maybe it will help you cope with the joint session better. Not one session, but several. You have to build a relationship and trust with your counselor.
That is if the relationship means something to you, as you stated. Will look for more posts from you. Best wishes, if not.
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Kain99
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Hahahaha! We all think that!hvp05 said:
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Kain99
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Probably a really good excersise to help you get in touch with your murderous feelings Hector!usagent said:
Larry Gude
Strung Out
I disagree...
...you can't 'think' with your feelings. Women 'think' about what they feel. If they fear something, they think about it and they talk about it. It is a fear, a real thing, a feeling, and they think about it and they talk about. Men try to discount this, poo po them or at least minimalize them. We want fix, not think. Women HATE this.
And men do like feelings; we're based on them. We just don't much think about them. Men do stuff all the time, without giving it much thought, based on our feelings, which we're not thinking about. Hunger. Sex. Beer. Nap. Take something apart. Put something together. We feel it, big time. We just don't think about why we might want a beer or to #### or to fix or break or about what goes into a feeling.
"So, Marge, why do you want to drink/####/fix/break?"
"Well, I'd like a drink, something fruity, cold, smells nice, with ice, or maybe no ice and have sex once the kids have gone to bed and the laundry is put away and the ceiling fan has been fixed, the squeek distracts me, and then we could paint the foyer a nice taupe or maybe that soft green that so and so has, it looks perfect at their house with their floors, and then we need some sugar from the store tomorrow and I want to clean out my car and..."
So, Ed, why do you want to drink/####/fix/break?'
"Are you out of your ####ing mind? Waddya mean why?"
Men often benefit when we learn to think. To some extent. It wouldn't hurt women to think a bit less once in awhile.
If men start thinking too much we won't have things like washing machines which women never asked for in the first place. If women stop thinking so much, they'll drink too much beer, be knocked up all the time and have spare parts from one end of the house to the other.
It works the way it is, Pretty much.
usagent said:
...you can't 'think' with your feelings. Women 'think' about what they feel. If they fear something, they think about it and they talk about it. It is a fear, a real thing, a feeling, and they think about it and they talk about. Men try to discount this, poo po them or at least minimalize them. We want fix, not think. Women HATE this.
And men do like feelings; we're based on them. We just don't much think about them. Men do stuff all the time, without giving it much thought, based on our feelings, which we're not thinking about. Hunger. Sex. Beer. Nap. Take something apart. Put something together. We feel it, big time. We just don't think about why we might want a beer or to #### or to fix or break or about what goes into a feeling.
"So, Marge, why do you want to drink/####/fix/break?"
"Well, I'd like a drink, something fruity, cold, smells nice, with ice, or maybe no ice and have sex once the kids have gone to bed and the laundry is put away and the ceiling fan has been fixed, the squeek distracts me, and then we could paint the foyer a nice taupe or maybe that soft green that so and so has, it looks perfect at their house with their floors, and then we need some sugar from the store tomorrow and I want to clean out my car and..."
So, Ed, why do you want to drink/####/fix/break?'
"Are you out of your ####ing mind? Waddya mean why?"
Men often benefit when we learn to think. To some extent. It wouldn't hurt women to think a bit less once in awhile.
If men start thinking too much we won't have things like washing machines which women never asked for in the first place. If women stop thinking so much, they'll drink too much beer, be knocked up all the time and have spare parts from one end of the house to the other.
It works the way it is, Pretty much.
This_person
Well-Known Member
Larry Gude said:
That has to be one of the funniest (mostly true) lines I have read in a llllloooooonnnnnngggggg time.
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
Screw that...and her.Kain99 said:
A good old fashioned skullf*** should shut her up.
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Kain99
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Ya know what I find most intriguing about this guy? His wife cheats on him and years later he gets her back on some remote island. Wife finds out...... Come on! He wanted her to find out. He'd been waiting years for payback!Chasey_Lane said:
I completely understand his motivation.
Strange she can't just call it even.
Chain729
CageKicker Extraordinaire
This_person said:
That has to be one of the funniest (mostly true) lines I have read in a llllloooooonnnnnngggggg time.
Two things that get me about this:
1. I tend to find it's the opposite of how he explained it- though he started off great. Asking men what or why tends to yield answer- as long as the question is not "how do you feel?" Asking a woman what or why tends to lead to blank stares, evil stares and inflamatory answers, if you get one at all. Examples: "what are you mad about?" "Why does that have to be done?"
2. Men tend to come to a resolution, enact the resolution and that's the end of it. IF women come to a resolution and enact that resolution, they're still pissed and taking it out on you for another eon.
Of course the flip side of #2 is that women don't always want solutions, they just want to vent and get pissed when we try to solve their problems instead of giving sympathy.
Note: The above is just a generalization based upon personal experience. I do understand that exceptions do happen and quite frequently. The above no way implies that you, the reader of this post, is characterized by it. Of course, if it offends you, then... well... as tends to be the case, it probably describes you rather well.
*ding*Chain729 said:
This is why women who think they want to "talk" to their man and "share" their feelings with him are tards. Men do not give a crap about your feelings - they want to solve your problem so you will shut up. Talk to your girlfriends because they feel your pain. Don't bother talking to your man because they will go, "...Huh?....Oh yeah...Right...Uh huh...HOLY ####!!! TOUCHDOWN!!!!! YES!!!!!
Now, what were you saying, baby?"