Why did you....

[This_person]

Recently, during one of the hundreds of "gay marriage" threads and discussions, someone made the point that they did not get married because of tax benefits.

I agree, most people do not marry for tax benefits - they marry the person they love because they love them and want to demonstrate their commitment before their religious figure, their family, their friends, etc.

But, why did they ask the government to get involved? Why file this personal, intimate, private information with the state?

 

[Aerogal]

Married by a Justice of the Peace. Not much choice there. But married because we decided we wanted to spend our lives together.

 

[This_person]

Married by a Justice of the Peace. Not much choice there. But married because we decided we wanted to spend our lives together.

Couldn't you have spent your lives together without standing a few minutes before the JOP?

 

[Merlin99]

If you don't go through all of the paperwork and legalities, you haven't made that much of a committment.

 

[This_person]

If you don't go through all of the paperwork and legalities, you haven't made that much of a committment.

That's an intersting thought.

If a hypothetical you found out your marriage certificate wasn't valid for some technicality (think Rob and Laura Petrie), would it change your view on your commitment to your hypothetical spouse?

 

[winters]

That's an intersting thought.

If a hypothetical you found out your marriage certificate wasn't valid for some technicality (think Rob and Laura Petrie), would it change your view on your commitment to your hypothetical spouse?

Why do you look to argue? This is a stupid pole.

 

[This_person]

Why do you look to argue? This is a stupid pole.

Who's arguing?

 

[Bean]

Why do you look to argue? This is a stupid pole.

Pole...

 

[Aerogal]

To answer your question TP - I'm old school. I believe that a commitment, whether spiritually or legally, shows that I'm in for the long haul.

 

[Merlin99]

That's an intersting thought.

If a hypothetical you found out your marriage certificate wasn't valid for some technicality (think Rob and Laura Petrie), would it change your view on your commitment to your hypothetical spouse?

Nope, because in my mind I know I've checked all of the blocks, whether someone further down line screws up I don't control.

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

Why do you look to argue? This is a stupid pole.

as opposed to all of the intelligent poles.

 

[This_person]

To answer your question TP - I'm old school. I believe that a commitment, whether spiritually or legally, shows that I'm in for the long haul.

I agree with this

 

[This_person]

Nope, because in my mind I know I've checked all of the blocks, whether someone further down line screws up I don't control.

But, the act of checking the blocks makes it a difference? I'm not suggesting for you, personally, but your thoughts in general.

 

[Merlin99]

But, the act of checking the blocks makes it a difference? I'm not suggesting for you, personally, but your thoughts in general.

Yes, I have went through all of the required steps to commit myself to my wife.

 

[LadyWolf]

If you don't go through all of the paperwork and legalities, you haven't made that much of a committment.

That's an intersting thought.

If a hypothetical you found out your marriage certificate wasn't valid for some technicality (think Rob and Laura Petrie), would it change your view on your commitment to your hypothetical spouse?

I understand. I've never been legally married, but when I had a significant person in my life, I was committed to them as if I were married. From a legal perspective, you have more ground to stand on when things go down the toilet. When your not "legally" married, you can each take your things and go your separate ways w/o much hassle..unless you've bought a house or share mutual accounts, etc, then you could have a whole new can of worms! I lived w/someone years ago. He decided that I wasn't the person for him and found someone else. We both had names on a lease. I moved out because I couldn't afford to stay there on my own. I had to continue to pay until the woman he found moved in and helped pay the remaining rent for the next few months. It sucked for me, but it still didn't change the emotional, just perhaps the financial.