Woman Says She'll Give A 'Black Eye' To The Next Mom She Sees Feeding Her Baby In Public

[GURPS]

“I’m sorry - the next female that tries to whip her boob out to breastfeed in front of my kids will get a black eye,” Clark wrote. “Move that baby because I’ll punch it too.”

It didn’t take long for other parents to call out the ignorant woman, prompting her to post a follow-up thread before deleting her post entirely. Clark attempted to defend herself by claiming that her words were only directed toward one woman in particular, who she did not name publicly, that shows up at her place of work and breastfeeds her baby.

"Do what you want, but I find it very immature that you as a mother would go out of your way to come to a place that you know I work at and breastfeed," she wrote.

She also clarifies that she does not have an issue with breastfeeding in general, however, is against those who do it around her children. “Pulling your boob out in front of my kids on purpose just to prove a point is simply represented by who you are as a person,” she adds.

Woman Says She'll Give A 'Black Eye' To The Next Mom She Sees Feeding Her Baby In Public

She says she'll punch the hungry baby too.

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[Kyle]

She probably ran into one too many Southside Floppers.

 

[Bann]

WTAF. People will complain about everything.

So, she's calling out the woman who shows up at her place of work to purposely breast feed her child? And the woman calling out the breastfeeder has her kids at her job?

Children do not care about this and if they do ask questions,(which is also very normal to do) a parents' job is to teach and explain. Good grief, this is just common sense. It's not a big deal that women nurse their children.

Having said that - I also think the militant, "look-at-me" breast feeders are annoying, because they feel they have to announce to the world that they are earth mothers who are holier than thou. I get that the bebe is hongry, but cover it up sister and quit trying to draw attention to yourself. FTR, I never nursed my children, for reasons I don't have to justify to anyone, but for GAWD's SAKE people - it's been done for all of eternity, so you're nothing special that you do it. It's just nice manners not to expose yourself to the entire world.

 

[Kinnakeet]

“I’m sorry - the next female that tries to whip her boob out to breastfeed in front of my kids will get a black eye,” Clark wrote. “Move that baby because I’ll punch it too.”

It didn’t take long for other parents to call out the ignorant woman, prompting her to post a follow-up thread before deleting her post entirely. Clark attempted to defend herself by claiming that her words were only directed toward one woman in particular, who she did not name publicly, that shows up at her place of work and breastfeeds her baby.

"Do what you want, but I find it very immature that you as a mother would go out of your way to come to a place that you know I work at and breastfeed," she wrote.

She also clarifies that she does not have an issue with breastfeeding in general, however, is against those who do it around her children. “Pulling your boob out in front of my kids on purpose just to prove a point is simply represented by who you are as a person,” she adds.

Woman Says She'll Give A 'Black Eye' To The Next Mom She Sees Feeding Her Baby In Public

She says she'll punch the hungry baby too.

www.yourtango.com

Better hope the Mother is not carrying a gun because she might not make it to see the next breast feeding in public.

 

[SamSpade]

Having said that - I also think the militant, "look-at-me" breast feeders are annoying, because they feel they have to announce to the world that they are earth mothers who are holier than thou. I get that the bebe is hongry, but cover it up sister and quit trying to draw attention to yourself.

Yep. At my place of work, every woman I know who has breast fed at work had the decency to close the door.

On the other hand, a couple visits ago to the hospital, a woman came in and began to breast feed her child right in the waiting room with the other guests and didn't cover up anything. My daugher was embarassed. The mom's demeanor seemed very much in line with " hey, I'm breast feeding here!".

 

[RoseRed]

I wonder what kind of job she has. I'm guessing waitress.

 

[OccamsRazor]

Petsense allows its managers and pet groomers to bring their kids to work everyday??

 

[PrchJrkr]

When my grandson gets hungry in public, his mother has usually thought it out ahead of time and packed a bottle or two. If not, she's very discrete and someone would really have to be looking, to see what she's doing. If some crackpot wants to admonish her for feeding her son, I feel sorry for the offended person. My son picked one who is a force to be reckoned with.

 

[vraiblonde]

Having said that - I also think the militant, "look-at-me" breast feeders are annoying, because they feel they have to announce to the world that they are earth mothers who are holier than thou. I get that the bebe is hongry, but cover it up sister and quit trying to draw attention to yourself.

This right here ^^^

There are ways to discreetly nurse your bebe in public, you don't have to flop out an udder for the whole world to see. Those women are just trying to make everyone uncomfortable and deserve all the criticism they get.

 

[Bann]

This right here ^^^

There are ways to discreetly nurse your bebe in public, you don't have to flop out an udder for the whole world to see. Those women are just trying to make everyone uncomfortable and deserve all the criticism they get.

..and if you're lucky enough to be a good friend or family member of auntie Bann's - I make receiving blankies AND swaddling blankies for all the new bebes in my life. They are YUUUGE and very well used and loved, if I do say so myself. The swaddling ones are specifically great, because they are made with lightweight muslin fabric, which make super nice coverlets for the summer months.

It's not rocket science.

 

[Monello]

I find that committing random violence to strangers is the quickest way to win them over to my way of thinking.

I wonder if this lady works at the US department of transportation.

 

[lucky_bee]

Yep. At my place of work, every woman I know who has breast fed at work had the decency to close the door.

On the other hand, a couple visits ago to the hospital, a woman came in and began to breast feed her child right in the waiting room with the other guests and didn't cover up anything. My daugher was embarassed. The mom's demeanor seemed very much in line with " hey, I'm breast feeding here!".

You know, there's a huge difference between the militant BF'ers going out of their way to make a point, and simply existing while BF'ing in public - it is not the same. When I nursed in public - although this didn't happen often as he was born right around Pandemic-Lockdown here - it was discreet, but I didn't use a coverup. It's really annoying when people insist that's the only way to BF in public. There's a lot of middle ground between sitting there with the entire thing flopped out with no babe attached and dinner-plate-sized areolas on view, or being wrapped up in a quilt. It doesn't always work - my son hated them - I was gifted every type of coverup too. They were all hot during summer, incredibly annoying to set up just right, etc. I felt like I called more attention to myself putting one on us than just adjusting myself and my clothing. I was just always intentional with my clothing choices and his feeding schedule. I'm a pretty modest person too. But I also don't bat an eye at women who choose to not BF in public and pump/bring bottles. Or those who maybe aren't as modest as I was. Their choice and they owe no one explanations. And it is a protected right to do so - BF in public. Majority of mothers prefer to do so without calling any attention to themselves whatsoever (and without covers if they so choose), but also want to still exist and function wherever they are like a normal person - because we/they are normal people still and don't need to be hidden away in closets until the baby is 18 months old. And none of that, go feed them in the bathroom bullshit.

Sam, I'll take you at your word that her "demeanor seemed very much in line with HEY LOOK AT ME", but I hope to you that's not the same as existing in a public space while BFing. I don't know how old your daughter is, but that was a good teaching moment to explain it's something that happens in public, it's something a lot of moms do with babies, and it's best just to ignore it as long as the mom isn't trying to engage with you/your daughter. It's only embarrassing if you decide its wrong - or if she's actually causing a scene.

I say none of the above in anger, but it's a real easy thing to go off in a tangent on. I might be the only one here who's done this - in public - in the last 10-20 years (it's been 2 years since mine have been "whipped out and flopped on a table") - so simply reminding those that it's only a big deal if others make it a big deal. With exception to the crazies, we don't claim those.

 

[SamSpade]

I say none of the above in anger, but it's a real easy thing to go off in a tangent on.

I have a deserved reputation as having an absurdly calm demeanor - mostly because I let off steam continually by complaining, quietly. But I was once described as "so mellow, he needs Valium to WAKE UP". If any of my posts come off as sounding angry, it may be because I didn't choose words very well.

There's just a lot of things people do in public which I don't see as considerate. I've voiced my opinions before about tobacco and alcohol and especially weed. I'm not onboard with whipping out a boob and nursing in a very public area as appropriate. I'm also probably not going to say anything, either. I'll just move.

 

[lucky_bee]

I have a deserved reputation as having an absurdly calm demeanor - mostly because I let off steam continually by complaining, quietly. But I was once described as "so mellow, he needs Valium to WAKE UP". If any of my posts come off as sounding angry, it may be because I didn't choose words very well.

There's just a lot of things people do in public which I don't see as considerate. I've voiced my opinions before about tobacco and alcohol and especially weed. I'm not onboard with whipping out a boob and nursing in a very public area as appropriate. I'm also probably not going to say anything, either. I'll just move.

I meant I wasn't saying anything in my above comment in anger. Last thing I want to come across is as one of the nutters regarding this topic. I don't think I've ever read your posts with an angry voice lol you're of the very few one can have a disagreement with and stay calm about it.

I'm just pointing out that there's a difference between making a scene about BFing in public...and just simply BFing in public in their own space and right. I'm sorry you don't see the latter as appropriate though.

 

[lucky_bee]

and to add - an ER isn't exactly a place one PLANS to be. An ER is exactly one of the places I did have the "pleasure" of BFing in at least twice. Kindly remember you're in a room with multiple stressed, other individuals with no explanations on why everyone else is there, only your own concern to being seen as soon as possible, which is the same thought everyone else is having in that moment. And if that baby is the reason they're in the ER in the first place, sometimes "comfort nursing" is about the only thing stopping it from crying its head off from whatever ails them. I found myself in that exact situation twice that year.

OR you can be that mother that gets horrifically painful mastitis on a Friday evening after pharmacies and doctors' offices have closed and you have to sit in that ER waiting room for HOURS after midnight while you leaked everywhere because it was well past several feeding sessions with no one else allowed to accompany you because - pandemic - and you've had to leave that baby at home bc he was 1. safer at home from an ER at less than 10 weeks and 2. recovering from a recent small surgery. And you were so concerned about just getting help you forgot all pumping equipment - plus what if you stepped away to do that and they finally called you?! It was scary and humiliating.

MYOB certainly helps, but really ask yourself if its indecent and inappropriate, or again, if they're simply existing while nursing.

 

[SamSpade]

and to add - an ER isn't exactly a place one PLANS to be.

And I wasn't at one. It was a regular doctor's visit, which happened to be in a hospital. I assume all of the other people present also had appointments, since this was a specialist, and you don't just pop into to those.

 

[lucky_bee]

And I wasn't at one. It was a regular doctor's visit, which happened to be in a hospital. I assume all of the other people present also had appointments, since this was a specialist, and you don't just pop into to those.

you're right, I'd read hospital and translated that to ER. that wasn't right.

My thoughts still stand. Most infants are on feeding schedules - usually at their own doing. I think you guys are trying to assign this need to "plan ahead" so others aren't inconvenienced by the sight of a baby nursing, when there should be no need to because she's allowed to do that in that exact time and place. There's so many complexities to nursing (and pumping) that I myself didn't even realize until I was faced with them. Don't even get me started on the logistics of planning a day or a simple errand around feeding/changing/napping, etc. I know you're not ignorant to that, you have kids. Don't make this scenario more complicated than it needs to be by acting like she should have planned for strangers acting like she's committing an act of terrorism. That's part of the appeal to sticking with BFing - it's convenient for both mom and baby. (I'm not saying easy either, just convenient - AND her idea of convenience is no more right or wrong than the mom that chooses to pump or formula feed FYI).

I feel like your message is that a mom BFing in public is not planning properly bc she's being purposefully indecent and inappropriate. And I'll continue to say, that's a poor way to look at something she has a right (and need) to do. And unless she's involving you in some way with a scene or negative interaction, she's being neither of those things and simply wants to feed the baby.

 

[LightRoasted]

For your consideration ...

My my how puritan we have become over a completely natural function of humans. No idea why people make such a fuss over breastfeeding, anywhere. Women can walk on the beach or by a swimming pool all day long with the barest of threads that leave virtually no imagination in front of families and children, and to all, that is just fine and dandy. But God forbid that woman breastfeed in public. People, make up your minds. Because you cannot have it both ways without being hypocritical.

 

[Merlin99]

The only one that bothers me is my daughter, I've spent a long time denying she's grown up and I don't need reminders.

 

[Gilligan]

Last time I attempted to breast feed in public, they made me leave the restaurant.

Went something like this...