Woman Says That She Brings Her 'Emotional Support Person' On Dates Since The World Is A 'Scary Place'

GURPS

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A woman shared her unusual dating rule that has many people scratching their heads. While she claims that the rule is for her own safety, others argue that she is attempting to scam her future dates into treating both her and a friend to a meal.

A screenshot posted to the subreddit, "r/Tinder" depicts a woman’s profile on a dating website. According to the profile, the woman claims that her “new dating tradition” is that she brings her “emotional support person,” who is most likely a friend of hers, on all of her dates.

Basically, she prefers “double dates.”

“The world is a scary place, so we bring our emotional support person in on dates,” the profile reads. The woman believes that bringing an emotional support person on dates is “two times the fun.”

However, other people, including the original poster of the screenshot, do not see it that way. “Two girls, one date…I’m not even sure how this will work out,” the original poster wrote. “But I guarantee one of them is at least getting a free dinner out of it.”

Other Redditors assumed that the woman was attempting to get a free meal for her friend. “Just get a job, you meal diggers,” one user commented.

Others believed that it was unconventional to bring a friend along on a first date. “It would be awkward to date both of them to get to know one person,” one user wrote.

Although others argued that the woman never implied that she and her friend wanted a free meal and that it is not entirely a bad idea to bring them along on a first date.

“Old traditions are out, so I assume that means men aren’t expected to pay for their double date,” one user noted.






 

Kyle

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Her date needs to break out his Financial Protection Taxi.
 

SamSpade

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This is dumb, but not unlike two things I've seen women DO - and I miraculously managed to "pass" them when they happened....

1. Bring a friend BUT have them sit across the way observing - so if you don't like it, they're a ride home.
2. Have a friend "emergency call" at a certain time into the date and if you want out, claim it's an emergency and you need to get home.

The best way to get out of an awkward date is to agree ahead of time to make it BRIEF - meet for lunch or drinks and say you need to leave by a certain time - and meet them there rather than ride with them.
 

Kyle

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This is dumb, but not unlike two things I've seen women DO - and I miraculously managed to "pass" them when they happened....

1. Bring a friend BUT have them sit across the way observing - so if you don't like it, they're a ride home.
2. Have a friend "emergency call" at a certain time into the date and if you want out, claim it's an emergency and you need to get home.

The best way to get out of an awkward date is to agree ahead of time to make it BRIEF - meet for lunch or drinks and say you need to leave by a certain time - and meet them there rather than ride with them.
Number 4 works for me.

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SamSpade

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Number 4 works for me.

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Sure - IF you drove separately. Hence, meeting someone for lunch or drinks rather than pick them up.
I think MOST of my online dates, way back in the day when I was dating people I met online - we met somewhere first.

It also kind of avoids the awkward time at the door if you don't want to come in.
 

lucky_bee

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I think her calling it her "emotional support person" was being a little tongue-in-cheek that went over a lot of heads.

Online dating IS scary sometimes. It's not about needing an out if the guy is a dud, or a free meal, or an on-site immediate peer review: it's about safety. A lot of weirdos out there that don't take no for an answer, or even give them a chance to answer. Date kidnapping or other forced stuff can sometimes come out of nowhere and yes, that started long before online dating so it's nothing new. But women are just trying to find ways to protect themselves *just in case * and I find that... understandable.

If you've done online dating and never encountered such people, good for you. Even doing your diligent homework on someone before meeting them can still end up with you in creepy situations.
 

GURPS

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I think her calling it her "emotional support person" was being a little tongue-in-cheek that went over a lot of heads.


Sounds like an emotional support animal ... but of course women have often kept a friend apprised of location and situation or had someone in the ' location ' at another table or at the bar ... this sounds like a double date
 

vraiblonde

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I used to take a friend on my dates all the time. It wasn't so much that I thought the guy would drug and kidnap me, it was that if I found him excruciatingly boring I'd have a buffer. I've had friends "accidentally" run into me when I've been on an awkward date "Hey! Come sit with us!" (thank you, K, I owe you a bunch).

So....emotional support person....sure. I'll go for that.
 

Bann

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I think her calling it her "emotional support person" was being a little tongue-in-cheek that went over a lot of heads.

Online dating IS scary sometimes. It's not about needing an out if the guy is a dud, or a free meal, or an on-site immediate peer review: it's about safety. A lot of weirdos out there that don't take no for an answer, or even give them a chance to answer. Date kidnapping or other forced stuff can sometimes come out of nowhere and yes, that started long before online dating so it's nothing new. But women are just trying to find ways to protect themselves *just in case * and I find that... understandable.

If you've done online dating and never encountered such people, good for you. Even doing your diligent homework on someone before meeting them can still end up with you in creepy situations.
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Exactly.
 

Sneakers

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In light of feminism and women's equality, can you possibly imagine a guy bringing a 2nd on a date? He'd be dropped like a hot 'tater and ridiculed by his peers.

And a step further.... the 2nd the guy brings is a woman. A 'just in case' potential backup.
 
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Bann

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And they wonder why guys aren't interested in dating anymore.
I would NEVER bring anyone on a date like that. I don't online date - I tried it in 2020 and it served the purpose of getting back onto the social scene during rhe Pandemic. I had great luck and was super careful.

I check guys out pretty damn well as best as I can...with mutual friends, if possible. I check Case Search, I belong to a "paid Background checker" (monthly subscription). AND on social media, to the extent that I can. Even better if we have mutual friends that I can ask about him. Still, one totally mis-represented himself in a major way, which was sending out the red flags to my Spidey senses (which is why he was lying) and in a couple of weeks of my persistence in "asking" the right questions, we parted ways on a friendly basis. No biggie - I was glad about it. I recently found out he actually WAS lying ...and made sure he knew I found out, too. :lmao:

I also never go on any meet up or date, etc without telling someone (at least 2 people) I sometimes even tell Thing2 if I head out of the county alone if no one else will be around that I've told. My broad shouldered 28yr old son lifts weights and is a career FF, so...I make sure that makes it into the convo at some point, (with pictures!) as well. :evil: :lol:
 

stgislander

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I would NEVER bring anyone on a date like that. I don't online date - I tried it in 2020 and it served the purpose of getting back onto the social scene during rhe Pandemic. I had great luck and was super careful.

I check guys out pretty damn well as best as I can...with mutual friends, if possible. I check Case Search, I belong to a "paid Background checker" (monthly subscription). AND on social media, to the extent that I can. Even better if we have mutual friends that I can ask about him. Still, one totally mis-represented himself in a major way, which was sending out the red flags to my Spidey senses (which is why he was lying) and in a couple of weeks of my persistence in "asking" the right questions, we parted ways on a friendly basis. No biggie - I was glad about it. I recently found out he actually WAS lying ...and made sure he knew I found out, too. :lmao:

I also never go on any meet up or date, etc without telling someone (at least 2 people) I sometimes even tell Thing2 if I head out of the county alone if no one else will be around that I've told. My broad shouldered 28yr old son lifts weights and is a career FF, so...I make sure that makes it into the convo at some point, (with pictures!) as well. :evil: :lol:
That's why I have no social media presence, and very seldom go beyond Callaway. :lol:
 

Kyle

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I check Case Search, I belong to a "paid Background checker" (monthly subscription).
That seems like a good idea but I could never use it.

I'm certain they don't have access to mental health records.
 
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