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I had 2 run ins with E.F. Hutton. I still remember them vividly.FireBrand said:dats da shiat I'm talkin' 'bout !!!
I had 2 run ins with E.F. Hutton. I still remember them vividly.FireBrand said:dats da shiat I'm talkin' 'bout !!!
Pandora said:I am sorry to hear that. There are some who have it worse than others. I can clearly see that I am not going through the high end of problems other parents are going through in this thread. You could look into meditation therapy. They have a specialist in that field right over in Alexandria.
I think Interim’s being handed out prompted this thread. I saw my son’s today and although improved, I decided I wasn’t going to flip out.
missperky said:What about the kids that don't play video games, are on a strict diet, have good parent(s) and go to a decent school. :shrug:
Mousebaby said:Ok here's the thing. My son, before he was put on his meds, was extremely violent. He even picked up a scooter and threw it at a kid and busted that childs head open. He would throw fits you would not believe, and it wasn't because he was spoiled, or lack of punishment, he had a problem! He was also failing miserabley(sp?) in school. We tested him for all kinds of things, dislexia, his eyes, hearing, allergies, you name it he was tested. He had to have this medication. I agree that Dr.s tend to over medicate, but we tried taking him off for a while and it just didn't work out. I am going to take Vrai's and Oldman's advice and to lay off and not nag, but I am going to still encourage him to get better grades. If it doesn't happen I will not panic. We will cross that bridge when we get to it. Thanks for everyone's help!
morganj614 said:read your karma
Well for starters I'm not a Lucy-Mousebaby said:'splain please Lucy!
morganj614 said:It's been many years and since he now has kids in school (and The Mothers Curse cast upon him) my oldest son still remembers ONE teacher that made a difference in his attention problems. He is and was smart..it took him a while to realize it.
The supposed adhd kid is a grandchild and I can think of many contributing factors for his behavior. Drugs only mask it, they don't solve it.
On that, we wholeheartedly agreemommarock said:I would much rather have two wild little boys than a 16y.o. girl attitude anyday!
mommarock said:I would much rather have two wild little boys than a 16y.o. girl attitude anyday!
Pete said:Tell him it is OK, the world needs ditch diggers too. :shrug:
:fixed:kom526 said:
Not everyone can be an astronaut :ding!diapersarefilled:
vraiblonde said::fixed:
Mousebaby said:I have been through this with my oldest son for several years now. He was diagnosed with ADHD in the 5th grade and has been medicated since. His grades are TERRIBLE!!! We know he does not have a learning disability as we have had him tested up one side and down the other. We know the medication is doing what it's supposed to be doing because if it weren't he would be totally out of control. We have begged, cried, screamed, yelled, grounded, removed all his electronics from his room and have even busted his tail on the occasion for these grades. I know he is capable, even his teachers know he is capable. He just doesn't do his work! What am I doing wrong??? We are at our wits end!! I cannot just sit here and watch this child throw his life away with both hands! We keep telling him, this is not a game anymore, this is serious, you are in high school, no one is going to hold your hand, you have to do it on your own! It's time to grow up! It's done no good to tell him any of this. Please somebody help me, I am so tired of this and I am so sick of being sick.
TIA!
jenbengen said:teens are a bit self-absorbed at times
Pandora said:People really have a misconception about ADD/ADHD. I know I did. I may have even posted an apposing view on this subject in the past.
These are not dumb children, most often, they have above average IQ, like my son. School is boring, doesn’t keep their interest, coupled with the fact that they are strong willed children who are not even going to pretend to be entertained. My husband and I have taken everything away, beat ‘em, and we have seen no results.
Finally, I changed his diet after having him retested (2 years is a big difference in a child) and started enforcing a very strict routine. I’m not even considering medication at this time and made that very clear to the school board. The 504 Plan can put your child in the front of the class and always working on something to keep them busy.
Snuzzy, your post really made me feel I’m on the right track in all of this.
snuzzy said:Yes, I think so.
Another misconception about ADHD is that the child doesn't pay attention. Well, they are paying attention, to everything around them. That is why the preferential seating helps, if they are up in front of instruction, they are less distracted by other things in the room. (It gives the appearance that a child is bored with school because instruction doesn't hold their attention...) When I know a student is ADHD, I set up my room differently, less posters, colors, etc. so the child is not distracted by my room arrangement, another reason a 504/diagnosis can be helpful. Most of these kids are very smart and it takes time and communication with all involved to "unlock" their potential. Stick with it!!
A diagnosis is not always a good thing.. A diagnosis gives teachers, school staff, the parents and the student an excuse NOT to do things, or at least not do them well. They can keep the student in lower level classes, and sometimes prevent the student from getting into 'real' classes. it's a REAL good excuse to not put a student into college prep classes, but send him to the Vo-Tech (and not because the STUDENT wanted it, I don't have a problem with Vo-Tech for students that do want it). to teach him how to wash dishes and set tables.snuzzy said:Yes, I think so.
Another misconception about ADHD is that the child doesn't pay attention. Well, they are paying attention, to everything around them. That is why the preferential seating helps, if they are up in front of instruction, they are less distracted by other things in the room. (It gives the appearance that a child is bored with school because instruction doesn't hold their attention...) When I know a student is ADHD, I set up my room differently, less posters, colors, etc. so the child is not distracted by my room arrangement, another reason a 504/diagnosis can be helpful. Most of these kids are very smart and it takes time and communication with all involved to "unlock" their potential. Stick with it!!
jenbengen said:I had a time like this in high school...wouldn't do a single thing and even got kicked out of honors classes for not doing the work. You are right- he is probably completely capable of the work. What changed everything for me was something SO simple...I had a teacher that I really looked up to encourage me POSITIVELY and kept on me. I started doing my work and wanted to impress her because she believed in me. Maybe it takes him finding somebody he wants to make proud to change his thinking. It sounds so shallow, but teens are a bit self-absorbed at times and their parents aren't their first concern.
I am sorry you have to go through this. It sounds like you are doing everything right. Unfortunately for us parents, that doesn't always make a kid do what they are told. They have their own minds...darn it all.