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It is crippling...vraiblonde said:I don't understand how it makes you "the bigger person" to not chastise your kid when they're being a jerk.
It is crippling...vraiblonde said:I don't understand how it makes you "the bigger person" to not chastise your kid when they're being a jerk.
mainman said:It is crippling...
cattitude said:I thought you liked it when we played the mommy game and I called you a naughty boy.
That's the way I see it I've never understood the whole "bigger person" deal.kwillia said:My mom call's "being the bigger person" enabling.
That's different...cattitude said:I thought you liked it when we played the mommy game and I called you a naughty boy.
vraiblonde said:I don't understand how it makes you "the bigger person" to not chastise your kid when they're being a jerk.
It's not like you're expecting some big fancy present - just a simple phone call and acknowledgment. That is not too much to ask for or expect from your children. When my daughter was at college, she forgot my birthday. I called her the next day and said, "Forget something?" "OMG!!!" she shrieked, "I am SOO sorry!!!" She genuinely just got busy and spaced it off, but I had no qualms about reminding her instead of stewing and being hurt by it.
And I also have no problem saying, "Listen, tomorrow is Grannie's birthday so make sure you give her a call." Shoot, my mother calls ME and reminds me it's someone's birthday or whatever.
What is the big deal about doing this?
rdkarob said:Guess what....WE DO REMIND HIM! He still forgets! because he is too busy worrying about how he is going to get home to watch TV snuggled with his friend.
My dad's sister does this every year for Christmas. It's always seemed a little strange to me, but it is a good idea.chernmax said:Buy him a calendar for his birthday and fill in all the important dates you want him to remember.
That's an excellent idea. It's something I might do for my grandma, her birthday is coming up soon.Actually, this year for Christmas my brother sent us a 2007 calendar he had made and every month featured a collection of different family picture from his family. What I liked best about it was, it listed all the important family dates like birthdays, wedding's, anniversaries, graduations, etc were already printed into the calendar for 2007. He still won't get sh!t birthday or holiday wise, however it's a great idea none the less...
chernmax said:Actually, this year for Christmas my brother sent us a 2007 calendar he had made and every month featured a collection of different family picture from his family. What I liked best about it was, it listed all the important family dates like birthdays, wedding's, anniversaries, graduations, etc were already printed into the calendar for 2007. He still won't get sh!t birthday or holiday wise, however it's a great idea none the less...
Then simply forget him as well. And if he asks, just say, "What? I did the same for you that you did for me. What's the problem?"rdkarob said:Guess what....WE DO REMIND HIM! He still forgets! because he is too busy worrying about how he is going to get home to watch TV snuggled with his friend.
rdkarob said:Me and my ex, my wife and her husband are all good friends, got married too young....basically it...had a kid and stayed friends to raise him together instead of apart. All decisions made together, sometimes disagreements but he didn't know about that.
rdkarob said:We tried to do that, I had custody but we were good friends, as explained ina previous post....we don't know what happened. He is a selfish selfish person.....as a matter of fact he just called to tell me that he needs tuition money.....HA! I spent that when he told me he wasn't going to college, now he has decided to take a few classes....I told him sorry, that money is gone, you told me you werent going....He hasn't gone to college since he graduated 3 years ago...you decide to go now??? hmmmmm, college doesnt start until August.....or Summer and registration isnt until May? Something fishy is going on now. however, he can pay for it himself.
rdkarob said:Hopefully you guys can give me some insight.
Son lives in Maine moved there with his Mom when he got out of highschool, his Mom now lives in Lusby (husband is military) Son stayed....
Now here is the thing. Son NEVER EVER calls unless he wants something (20 yrs. old) My birthday Dec. 30th, no phone call no card no nothing, Christmas same thing....My daughters birthday last week...no call no card no nothing....he calls to tell me his 21st is in 2 weeks....I have no intention of doing a dang thing for him or is this a 2 wrongs don't make a right.
I am sick of his selfishness....this has been going on for years........I am about done with him and not thinking of his family.....oh...but gets his "friend" all kinds of stuff for Christmas....nothing for his Mom and pop, sister, brother, step parents....sad....
So.....what do you think....by the way, I call him leave messages and he never calls back....
kwillia said:My mom call's "being the bigger person" enabling.
sounds like a job for Nanny 911rdkarob said:Hopefully you guys can give me some insight.
Son lives in Maine moved there with his Mom when he got out of highschool, his Mom now lives in Lusby (husband is military) Son stayed....
Now here is the thing. Son NEVER EVER calls unless he wants something (20 yrs. old) My birthday Dec. 30th, no phone call no card no nothing, Christmas same thing....My daughters birthday last week...no call no card no nothing....he calls to tell me his 21st is in 2 weeks....I have no intention of doing a dang thing for him or is this a 2 wrongs don't make a right.
I am sick of his selfishness....this has been going on for years........I am about done with him and not thinking of his family.....oh...but gets his "friend" all kinds of stuff for Christmas....nothing for his Mom and pop, sister, brother, step parents....sad....
So.....what do you think....by the way, I call him leave messages and he never calls back....
I'm sorry for your wife. That must hurt her deeply.wharf rat said:He won't be calling again anytime soon.
What a dick...wharf rat said:His last call to my wife was to ask how much we make in a month, could she pay his phone bill and why didn't he get his Valentines money. After telling him none of his business, no and that he's a big boy now... he cursed her out and said don't ask him for any money when hes rich and famous. She told him nothing would make her or the family happier than if he could pull that off.
He won't be calling again anytime soon.
mainman said:What a dick...