There is a demand for white infants and babies, so many couples don't want to go through the States process of 3 months to over a year to jump through the hoops just to be approved to be a adoptive family and then get a child through the court system.
So many go overseas and pay cash to expedite getting a white child.
Or say, four or five years to adopt a Chinese pre-schooler with special needs.
Or almost two years to adopt a Ethiopian toddler.
AND spend tens of thousands when a domestic adoption could be close to *free*.
Have you ever actually adopted a child or are you talking out your ass?
Other than Ukraine - please name for me the countries with white children. Most of the available foreign children are not white.
We adopted from abroad because we are too old for babies, and unsure about adopting children removed from their home.
We were scared off by too many sad stories of actual friends who had adoptions disrupted by the courts.
There's plenty of kids here, just not the type of kids that the mainstream are looking for.
Yes there are - MOST of them are much older children who have been *removed* from their parents.
OR kids in foster care whose birth parents do not wish to relinquish parental rights.
OR -- it goes on.
Healthy babies - and yes, healthy white babies but I'll get to that - are in such high demand that almost all of them are placed BEFORE THE CHILD IS BORN.
The demand is so high, the birthmother typically CHOOSES the new parents - and the current pattern in vogue is, she maintains rights to stay in touch with the child for many states.
(For us, this was a stopper - we did not want a birthmother dropping in on the child we were raising. A foreign adoption eliminates that).
While it is true that white people will typically choose a white child - they don't always - and agencies would prefer to place black or Native American or Latino children with
families similar to their own, if possible - there's just less demand for these children from these families. It would be great if black or Latino or Native American couples did this,
but there just isn't the demand there.
I do believe there's no QUESTION that if more of these children who are aborted were placed up for adoption, a LOT of them would be swiftly placed.
There are enough people to do that. We met a few couples in Ethiopia who were adopting children who were HIV positive - it was not certain they would survive.
I think that takes a special kind of adoptive parent to adopt a child who might not grow up. But there are a lot of people like that.