"A son is a son til he takes a wife...

vraiblonde · May 9, 2005

...but a daughter's a daughter all her life."

How true is that saying, in your experience?

So far, for me, it's completely true, not only with my own son but with our family in general. The women are all close with their families and the sons are closer with their wives' families. I'm the exception because I'm a lot closer with Larry's family than I am with my own, due to logistics and, frankly, pure compatibility.

Larry Gude · May 9, 2005

Well...

...in my family, my one brother hasn't gone anywhere and I never lost touch with my mom. Interestingly, my wife is closer with my...

Wait a minute...ooops.

:banana:

workin hard · May 9, 2005

vraiblonde said:
...but a daughter's a daughter all her life."

How true is that saying, in your experience?

So far, for me, it's completely true, not only with my own son but with our family in general. The women are all close with their families and the sons are closer with their wives' families. I'm the exception because I'm a lot closer with Larry's family than I am with my own, due to logistics and, frankly, pure compatibility.

I think it is true in most cases because the wife is generally the one that does most of the family contact and 9 times out of 10 she would rather spend time with her family than his.

Every since we have been married I see his mom trying to hold on her baby as tight and as long as she can. She is still trying to do things for him that either I should do for him or that he can do for himself.

vraiblonde · May 9, 2005

workin hard said:
She is still trying to do things for him that either I should do for him or that he can do for himself.

Like what?

pixiegirl · May 9, 2005

I'll hang out with B's family before my own. :yay:

That's purely a survival mechanism though. :ohwell:

AC/DC · May 9, 2005

workin hard said:
She is still trying to do things for him that either I should do for him or that he can do for himself.

Time for him to cut the apron strings........

Ken King · May 9, 2005

vraiblonde said:
...but a daughter's a daughter all her life."

How true is that saying, in your experience?

I think it depends on the family. I'm still tight with my Mom and not very tight with the wife's Mom.

kwillia · May 9, 2005

Ken King said:
I think it depends on the family.

cattitude · May 9, 2005

vraiblonde · May 9, 2005

AC/DC said:
Time for him to cut the apron strings........

What's constitutes "apron strings"?

vraiblonde · May 9, 2005

cattitude said:

Don't worry - we'll get to the bottom of this. :huggy:

bresamil · May 9, 2005

I'm not too concerned. If mine don't shape up, their future wives will end up giving them back. :shrug:

workin hard · May 9, 2005

vraiblonde said:
Like what?

Like she will still try to make dentist or doctor appts for him. If he is hungry she will jump right up and cook him something. She will pick him up things at the store that he regularly uses. And I know it sound piddly and like I'm complaining but at first it was really nice but know it can be irritating.

What makes matters worse is that he doesn't see it.

workin hard · May 9, 2005

And it doesn't help that he has to go over to his parents house every day because he works for his dad so he is over there every single day and she is part of the day to day routine.

BadGirl · May 9, 2005

workin hard said:
Like she will still try to make dentist or doctor appts for him. If he is hungry she will jump right up and cook him something. She will pick him up things at the store that he regularly uses. And I know it sound piddly and like I'm complaining but at first it was really nice but know it can be irritating.

What makes matters worse is that he doesn't see it.

Tell her that she can cook for me, pick up some goodies for me, make my appointments and do little errands for me. I'd love for someone to take that crap off of my shoulders for a change.

Actually, WH, I can see your point. :huggy:

vraiblonde · May 9, 2005

WH, are you guys newlyweds or have you been married for awhile?

I'm intel-gathering. My son is getting married in September.

KCM · May 9, 2005

My DH is closer to my family then his own. But that could be because he has the parents from hell. :ohwell:

cattitude · May 9, 2005

Biscuit is NEVER getting married or even having a girlfriend.

CableChick · May 9, 2005

I am much closer with my mother than my husband is with his mother. I know we visit my family much more than we visit his. This little saying has always bothered me since the day I found out I was having sons. I don't want to do everything for my sons, but I hope they find women to marry that understand how important sons are to their mothers. Whether a son or a daughter ... we are mother's for life and will always want them in our lives.

:bawl:

workin hard · May 9, 2005

vraiblonde said:
WH, are you guys newlyweds or have you been married for awhile?

I'm intel-gathering. My son is getting married in September.

Newlyweds. We were married in December. Most of the time I brush it off but at the same time I need the point made that I'm his wife now and I can do things for him. Her and I basically have a good relationship. We call each other during the day to see how things are going and such. It is just hard to get him to see my point. Because she isn't as close with her older son so I think she tries to make up for it with him.

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