"A son is a son til he takes a wife...

[baileydog]

I have in laws from HELL! Neither of us talks to his pathetic family. They are all trouble makers and would love a divorce to happen. Ill stay married till I die just to spite them. His whole family takes pleasure in causing trouble. How you say...ARSEHOLES.

 

[mrweb]

Both of us seemed to be closer to my mother but not so much with my father. My MIL was very difficult to get along with and my mother completely the opposite and the FIL just avoided her and, to some extent, us. It was complicated, however over the years both my FIL and father have passed away, MIL is in a nursing home under the care of Hospice, leaving pretty much my mom. My wife had some things that went un-resolved with her father, and to this day regrets. I guess I'm saying that unless they are the in-laws from he!!, try to build a better relationship before you no longer have the chance.

 

[suzeQ]

Both of us seemed to be closer to my mother but not so much with my father. My MIL was very difficult to get along with and my mother completely the opposite and the FIL just avoided her and, to some extent, us. It was complicated, however over the years both my FIL and father have passed away, MIL is in a nursing home under the care of Hospice, leaving pretty much my mom. My wife had some things that went un-resolved with her father, and to this day regrets. I guess I'm saying that unless they are the in-laws from he!!, try to build a better relationship before you no longer have the chance.

Good advice, Mr. Web. While I don't have regrets, neither of my parents are really available anymore. My Dad passed on and my Mom is in end stage Alzheimer's. It brings me close to tears to hear people complain about their parents. I would love it if mine were interferring in my life right now.

 

[vraiblonde]

Newlyweds. We were married in December. Most of the time I brush it off but at the same time I need the point made that I'm his wife now and I can do things for him.

Okay, that makes more sense. Young brides typically want to "prove" themselves, which is perfectly normal, and the MIL should understand and respect that and let the girl enjoy doing wifey things for her new husband.

 

[baileydog]

Anytime you want them, you can have my in laws. Truly, they are terrible people. There isnt enough paper in the world to tell you all the horrible things they have done over the years to start trouble with me and the hubby. Your lucky not to have to put up with them.

 

[workin hard]

Okay, that makes more sense. Young brides typically want to "prove" themselves, which is perfectly normal, and the MIL should understand and respect that and let the girl enjoy doing wifey things for her new husband.

You will make a perfect mother in law if you keep that mentality!!!

 

[vraiblonde]

There isnt enough paper in the world to tell you all the horrible things they have done over the years to start trouble with me and the hubby.

Then just give us one or two examples. I'm doing research here for my future position as MIL.

 

[baileydog]

Then just give us one or two examples. I'm doing research here for my future position as MIL.

Ok, well, for example, at x-mas they would buy the son a gift but not me (I learned not to care). They mil,fil,bil,sil, all go out and get drunk and then come to our house to start trouble. My MIL called NIS on me once. Hows that for a start. And the brother in law went to the FIL and told him some very personal info about us that he was trusted with, just to start trouble. The only good inlaw in a dead inlaw.

 

[vraiblonde]

Ok, well, for example, at x-mas they would buy the son a gift but not me (I learned not to care). They mil,fil,bil,sil, all go out and get drunk and then come to our house to start trouble. My MIL called NIS on me once. Hows that for a start. And the brother in law went to the FIL and told him some very personal info about us that he was trusted with, just to start trouble. The only good inlaw in a dead inlaw.

Yep, them's some bad in-laws alright.

Well, my in-laws are fabulous - I can't think of a single one of them that I so much as dislike, let alone hate. Not only the immediates, but the cousins and step-inlaws' families. Yes, a couple of them irritate me from time to time, but I still love them dearly even if I complain about them.

 

[baileydog]

They wouldnt even call the son on his birthday. Im telling you, EVIL. Dont get me wrong, I would love to have a close family, but these people make it impossible. And theyre local. It sucks more for the hubby than me. I have a nice family in another state.

 

[pixiegirl]

I got very lucky.... B's dad and stepmom recently divorced (well split up and have filed). I couldn't stand that biatch. She was down right nasty and hateful. I wasn't much on his step sister either and luckily for me she's mommy's little girl and has dogged the rest of the family right along with her momma. This is the woman who raised B and has been with his dad for 20+ years; she left B's dad right after Christmas and hasn't once, not even once called to see how B or his kids are doing. I'm sure it makes him sad even though he doesn't say it. I'm glad the cheating biatch is gone. I ADORE his dad and have always thought he was too good for her.

 

[Kizzy]

My mother-in-law and I get along very well, now more then we ever have, and there are times she’ll call and we will chit chat so long and even say good-bye. Then, she will quickly call back and realize she forgot to talk to her son.

Sure, I went thru times where she tried to tell me how to raise my boys, but now, after a weekend here and there with him, I think she realizes she doesn't want the job either.

 

[dreamland]

I have a question.....

Is there any really BIG difference in the MIL, once the BF becomes the husband?

 

[pixiegirl]

I have a question.....

Is there any really BIG difference in the MIL, once the BF becomes the husband?

Wasn't with my ex. We get along great since I divorced him.

 

[kom526]

I'm doing research here for my future position as MIL.

Do not dog your son and DIL with "When are you going to make me a grandmother?" UGH!!! Several times I have had to tell my mom and grandmother that if they want a baby around then they can go have their own. My MIL never asked that question, but I think it comes down socio-economic pressures/ stereotypes. That is a whole other thread though.
Just let them develop as a family unit, that is the most important thing you can do.

 

[workin hard]

I have a question.....

Is there any really BIG difference in the MIL, once the BF becomes the husband?

Sometimes there is because people have trouble letting go. I think the major changes happens when you move in together and see how she reacts. I think J's mom acted like this after he got married because he is the baby ya know.

 

[Kain99]

And it doesn't help that he has to go over to his parents house every day because he works for his dad so he is over there every single day and she is part of the day to day routine.

Try living next door to the MIL for 10 years!

 

[workin hard]

Try living next door to the MIL for 10 years!

I don't know if I could do that. It would drive me batty.

 

[Wickedwrench]

My mama backed off when I got married. The problem I had was that the ex-wife wanted to cut me away from my family entirely. She succeeded in running off my friends but they were the first ones to come running when she wigged.


The family had no remorse in forgetting about her quickly either. It eats her alive that they still love my babies though.

 

[CityGrl]

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