I’m going to throw out some information that I am a little ashamed of, because my son’s failure makes me feel like a failure as a parent.
This past year he got his interim report and was nearly failing every subject. Because he switched counties and of course schools this year, I wondered if the curriculum was at a higher level than where he was before.
My son wanted me to pull him out of his teacher’s class and get him in another teacher’s class, because he felt she was too mean. 3 students have already been assigned to other classrooms, but I told him no, especially, after a very lengthy discussion with the teacher, principle and his science teacher. He is on level, actually above level, so this boiled down to sheer and utter laziness on his part. Plus, lets face it, in the real world, you have to work or be supervised by people that you don’t necessarily like, but nonetheless you have a job to get done. I asked about ADD, also asked the doctor about ADD, and filled out the questioner, and felt that I could have answered yes to many of the questions and been easily considered ADD. He is a brilliant kid but lazy and I declined medication after research and discussion. One of my doctors said that in this day and age everything moves so fast, video games, TV, movies, etc. etc., so kids today are having a more difficult time staying focused in school because the teacher doesn’t move that fast. Humm, that makes sense, it really does, and after discussing the matter with the doctor, teacher and those whose opinions are significant in my life, I knew what I needed to do.
Well, I turned into a tyrant. I have become my father, even though I swore when I had kids I would not be a parent who yells and punishes constantly. But looking back, it worked for me. We do live in a touchy, feely society, trying to find medical diagnoses for character flaws. When kids hit the age of 8 (typically 3rd grade), they are expected to take responsibility for getting their assignments done without constant teacher involvement. Most kids have problems with this, it is the first time they don’t have somebody standing over them telling them what to do and many feel lost. The first few weeks of constantly riding him, he was miserable, crying, upset, furious when he didn’t do something right the 1st time, I made him redo it again and again and again until it was correct. It was hard to sit back and watch, but I had a great deal of support behind me.
Well guess what, he is bringing home A’s and B’s and the teacher has noticed a major difference. I think he is catching on, take your time, do it right the 1st time and you will not have to do it again.