@BernieP
My commentary and questions:
1. Are these friends of yours male or female? What age are they? What stage of life are they in? Do they have full lives or are they watching life go by?
2. By "having a life" -I mean are they fulfilled? Are they happy people and happy with their lives? There are all sorts of types of "having a life". They could have a very full life being married w/ adult children, grandchildren - working or retired. But if they are grumpy and are not fulfilled people in whatever stage of life they are in - they're not likely to give really good advice. In MY opinion.
I have friends who span DECADES in age. Seriously. My 5 nieces and nephews (blood relatives and my BFF's children who are like blood relatives) who are all in their late 20's - to mid 30's. They are as close to me as my own kids, because I've known them all their lives. They're also adults and very good friends to and with me, as well. NONE of them would give me the advice to go to a Senior Center to meet people.
But I also have friends in their 40's and 50's (AND 60'sand 70's!!) - both male & female - who would never recommend my going to a senior center to meet people. There's nothing wrong with a "Senior Center" if that's the age range you're in and the level of activity you're looking for. I guess if you live in a Senior Community like Asbury - they have their groups of people who go and do a lot of things together. They are very vital and active people who could range in ages from 50 to 70's/80's. But the words "Senior Center" makes me think of the 3 centers that Calvert County has in the north, south and center of the county where people who can't get out in the community on their own would go for activities. I would consider a suggestion that I attend one of those to meet people very much an insult.
3. Anyhoo - back to the first suggestion of your friends to "try meeting less intimating women". What is an "intimidating" woman"?!
4. Don't go to the cemetery - you're not ready for that, yet.
p.s. I was at a cemetery last week. The woman for whom I was there - SHE could have been called "an intimidating woman". She was strong woman, having lived through a lot of things in her 83 years of life. She was strong-willed, very opinionated, with strong morals, strong values. She was a woman whom many people respected and loved. She loved and cherished all of her family and friends. She was a woman who lived her life to the fullest she could possibly live. She was bound & determined to get every last ounce of life ON HER TERMS. And she did.
