Am I the only freak?
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desertrat
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Yep. I have a dog and cat and son here though, so am not totally alone. The cat is now very nice by the way. Not the mean sucker he used to be.
I can't see me ever having another companion. No one could put up with me.
Plus no one would ever measure up. I like having friends I can see once in a while and thats about it. It does kind of suck not having someone to reminise with though.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
There is no loneliness like two people together who simply don't like or enjoy one another.
"If you were my husband, I'd feed you poison mushrooms!"
"If you were my wife, I'd eat 'em!"
:shrug:
"If you were my husband, I'd feed you poison mushrooms!"
"If you were my wife, I'd eat 'em!"
:shrug:
Dakota
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Roman
Active Member
I am married, but DO love my Alone-Time. My kids are grown, and have been out of the house for years. My Husband leaves for our place in Florida in the Winter, and stays about 1 to 2 months at a time. I am OK with that. It is nice streaking through the house, and enjoying doing things MY way. When I want, and what I want!! I do enjoy the companionship with others, but I really like being alone here & there too. If that is considered weird, well then...I'm weird. I deal with people all day long.........
I think they're just worried no one will be around to call 911 or find them dead before they stink up the house. :shrug:
I don't think it's weird at all. I'm happily married now but before I met hubby I was happily single after a crappy relationship. Honestly, I didn't miss the "companionship" because I was miserable for 6 long years. After I ended things I felt happier than ever and was in no rush to get involved with anyone else. I think it's important to have alone time as well as time with friends, whether you're in a relationship or not. To settle just so you're not single is crazy imo.
I dont think you're a freak at all. I actually have a good set up I think. I work days Mon. thru Fri. Hubby works nites Mon. thru Fri. We rarely see each other during the week. Saturday and Sundays we spend together but not every Saturday or Sunday. I go to my daughters to see the grandkids or he goes to a sporting event. We get along fine, been together 19 years now, the last 4 months as husband and wife. I have few friends, only because the ones that I do have turn out to be such a PIA, I dont really associate with them much anymore. I know that sounds terrible, but honestly, I'm very happy.The one thing I do miss is my dog. Got to look into getting another one as soon as my granddog and daughter move.
My hubby works a ton of hours, maybe that's why we get along so well!
GWguy
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My hubby works a ton of hours, maybe that's why we get along so well!
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ItalianScallion
Harley Rider
More women today (not all) are co-dependent so it is emotionally painful for them to be w/o a guy. They haven't had good role models for relationships from their parents. Rarely does a woman come to a bar or restaurant alone, although a few do. Lately I've met more women who have boyfriends, baby daddys, live ins, etc., with whom they are not happy but who they will not leave.
On the other side, guys have a tendancy to want to be with a woman AND still act single. Sadly, many of them just want a mommy...
Personally I'm in the middle right now. Most of the time I love my "singleness" but sometimes I miss being with a lady. I find it harder to really connect with strangers and become real friends today than I used to. Does anyone else?
On the other side, guys have a tendancy to want to be with a woman AND still act single. Sadly, many of them just want a mommy...
Personally I'm in the middle right now. Most of the time I love my "singleness" but sometimes I miss being with a lady. I find it harder to really connect with strangers and become real friends today than I used to. Does anyone else?
mitzi
Well-Known Member
[/I]See, that's the thing - the "I don't want to be alone" types that I'm referring to have tons of friends and active social lives. They just want someone there all the time - can't go out to dinner or to a party without a date. One of my guy buds frankly told me that the only thing he really likes about his live-in girlfriend is that she's always there. He doesn't have to coordinate plans with her, or schedule time to see her. Whenever he wants to do something, he doesn't have to worry about finding someone available to go with him - other than that, she annoys the piss out of him.
I know people like that too. From one relationship to another because they have to be with "someone". Not that I'm not open to the opportunity if it happens but I enjoy being by myself now. I was "lonely" in an unhappy marriage for years. I have good friends, good family and I'm comfortable with where I am now. I'm so used to doing what I want and when I want without answering to someone, I don't think I could even live with someone again (unless they swept me off my feet lol).
I'm a lot more cautious than I used to be, that's for sure. Once bitten, twice shy.
SoMD_Fun_Guy
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Same for me.
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Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
I like being married. I also like having my "girl time" with friends here and there. Hubby does his own thing with his buds as well. And, we're both confident enough that we can hang with the opposite sex and it not phase either of us. Pete and I have dates sometimes; he'll vouch for me!!
SoMDGirl42
Well-Known Member
I'm ok with where I'm at. I have other priorities than finding a man. If/when it happens, great. If it doesn't, great. I'm ok with that. It is what it is.
Hank
my war
Chasey_Lane said:I like being married. I also like having my "girl time" with friends here and there. Hubby does his own thing with his buds as well. And, we're both confident enough that we can hang with the opposite sex and it not phase either of us. Pete and I have dates sometimes; he'll vouch for me!!
Hard to find a chick like that! That's for sure! Kudos to you!
SamSpade
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No but there's still context. You've been married and raised a family. You've "been there, done that". Since I've known you the past 15 or so years, you always seem to have lots of friends who can make time to spend with you if need be. I have relatives who are "comfortable being alone". Not a single one isn't a parent or has never been married. They're not really ever alone.
When I was single and living on my own, I had only a few friends, and invariably when they found someone to be with or got married, my contact with them diminished. I had never been married before. I did live alone, for 12 years. So I was a little lonely - that's what led me to create that little movie-going group on here, many years ago.
Now, when I have plenty of time free and the kids are in school and the wife is working, I very much enjoy time to myself - but it's time I can choose to be alone. When I was living alone, a lot of my choices were already made for me unless I found someone to share it with.
I don't know who says this sort of thing to you. I know for me, in those many years by myself, my life was punctuated by occasional social interaction but almost all of it spent all by myself. Not to be a sad sack, but try staying home with very little human interaction and see how long you last.
AnthonyJames
R.I.P. My Brother Rick
My wife ran off with another man and then my cat died. I cried my eyes out over the cat.