An Open Marriage
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tomcatter
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Well, on topic. I havent found that an open relationship isnt as good as it sounds. Someone eventually gets jealous. However, a threesome can be stimulating to both patrners, 2 dudes or 2 chicas however you want to try it. you just have to remember in this situation that your spouse/significant other alawys needs to be the one to call the shots and boundarys need to be discussed before hand. Before you ask, yes my wife and I have been there, done that, and our relationship is just as strong as it ever has been. This is not something to try if your relationship is infirm or unstable. If you cannot seperate sex and love than I woudnt suggest it. No we arent some older couple that needs spice in our life. We are both under 30, 2 kids, and happily married for 7 years. I am by no means a psycologist or annything. Just speaking from personal experience. This country still needs to let go of our puritan values and catch up with the rest of the planet in many aspects beides sex.
kwillia
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Yuo ar speshul. Thanx for sharring.
lovinmaryland
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theArtistFormerlyKnownAs
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I thought that new cat made some good points :shrug: 
SingerLady
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TomCatter.....
welcome to the forums
welcome to the forums
jetmonkey
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make sure balls do not touch
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lovinmaryland
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tomcatter
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TomCatter.....
Thank you!
Yes I know my spelling sucks at times, sorry.
As far as balls touching. I havent met many women who are into that particular position in which they could touch. I am by no means gay but I am quite far from being a homophobe. If you did inadvertantly touch another man, well that comes with the territory I guess. Never had it happen to me.
notthatone
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I am married and have been for almost 12 years. My husband and I are still in love with each other,and physically are still on the same page,but over the years,he has become very hard to live with sometimes. He has bi-polar disorder and refuses meds or any treatment. So,although I do not have sex with this other person in my life - we might hold hands,snuggle,etc. - I do have a "friend" who is a guy,that I have known for a long time,who I spend a lot of time with. My husband is fine with this,as when his "cycles" begin,he wants to be alone,and we don't want to be anywhere near him. This other guy has been a wonderful friend to me and a great "sub" dad for my kids when theirs is not able. He treats us just as if we were his family,my kids love him and know they can count on him when Dad is not well.He is certainly interested in me romantically and at times I question whether I feel the same for him,but at the end of the day,I have a commitment. Until my husband really loses it and won't get help,I will cope and keep my family together. We are all happy,and although to most people this is a strange way to live,it works for us. To answer the question as to how this works..I know for us,my kids ahve their "real dad" around,when he is not well,they still have someone to show up for all the dad stuff at school,and I have someone to talk to,and help me around the house,and simply show me some affection(which we all need)when my husband cannot deal with day to day life. If it were not for this other person,we would be divorced and miserable. Sometimes the "extra person" makes a marriage tolerable. I am sure everyone will jump on the bandwagon and say that this is terrible,blah blah blah,but ultimately,we have to live our lives the best way we can..I made a mistake in marrying this person,and now,I have a way to keep my life stable,and my kids livesmand we are all happy. This has been the norm for us for many years now,and I think the key to it is the fact we all know what is going on,why,and our boundaries.
notthatone
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I tihnk when people say something is wrong it is because 1.They are not in a position to need/want what is in question 2.They think they can make judgements because they are under the delusion that it cannot happen to them
To say something between consenting adults is bad or wrong is a silly waste of time..marriage is not a slavery situation where someone is force into it - it is a choice between two people and if they are cool with whatever happens,so be it.
SingerLady
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theArtistFormerlyKnownAs
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Just to note... as much as you're right about some people judging because they aren't in a position to want what other people have, someone who is in that position and doing whatever is in question will usually try to justify it as ok, even if it isn't.
Do I think it's healthy to have a second "father/husband", who wants more from you than he has now, not at all...but I also won't judge you for it.
JULZ
BFJ
SHIAT............(can you talk to my hubby?)j/k
So based on your threads it sounds to me you don't have the desire for sex with your husband, but your more interested in cOckflocking.
http://forums.somd.com/dating-marriage/167307-sex-after-pregnancy.html
SingerLady
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JULZ
BFJ
Yep honey you are dead on
Not your honey and you seem like another real winner here on somd.com.
kvj21075
Meow
hey, can we not compare us winners to her? PervD and Kelb are my only lovers!!
itsbob
I bowl overhand
If his bi-polar is this bad that he has to hide from his family during his "cycles" (male menstruation) I think you'd want to get the hell out.. you and your kids.
If it's that bad I'd say he's not too far from snapping and gunning all of you down. But I'm just spitballing here, not a psychologist, but you should probably post your picture so we can help identify the body..
You ever hear the house say.. "GET OUT!!!"