Another dead baby in car...

[RoseRed]

Tragic. I can remember getting to my building at GSFC only to stop the car and find my little one in the back seat....happened a few times. It can happen.

I remember going to the store once and panicking when I didn't have Bug with me. Fortunately, I had left her home with her father.

 

[Tigerlily]

We know this family and may nobody ever judging what has happened ever have anything tragic happen to them. Not everyone is able to have their own children and this child was their world. Chase suffered a tragic and horrific death and his family and friends will suffer without him the rest of their lives. To blame his mother is vile. She was at work and got off a train to be told her child had died. A little compassion people and maybe kiss your own kids tonite. While you are at it, change your smoke detector batteries, make sure everything in your house is child proofed, watch them 24/7 and pray that nothing ever happens accidentally since all those condemning this family seem to have control over everything in their lives.

Look I have driven off wth the baby bottle on top of the car and thought "Oh snap" They may be your friends but if dad was supposed to drop bebe at daycare would the daycare not have called. Mine always called if she had not heard from me in an hour. This whole thing just does not sit well.

 

[cattitude]

Look I have driven off wth the baby bottle on top of the car and thought "Oh snap" They may be your friends but if dad was supposed to drop bebe at daycare would the daycare not have called. Mine always called if she had not heard from me in an hour. This whole thing just does not sit well.

Every situation is different.

 

[GAFriends]

Look I have driven off wth the baby bottle on top of the car and thought "Oh snap" They may be your friends but if dad was supposed to drop bebe at daycare would the daycare not have called. Mine always called if she had not heard from me in an hour. This whole thing just does not sit well.

My school doesn't call if my child is absent. Assumption is kid or parent is sick, has something to do, etc. I guess if you make arrangements, they will call. That was one of the recommendations on the Today show.

 

[itsbob]

I can understand this happening.. Doesn't make it any better, or more palatable, but I can understand.

Imagine wife takes the kid to daycare EVERYDAY.. ONE day she has to be at work early and you have to take him. Mom may even have been the one to put him in the car on her way out.

Dad, not used to taking the kid to daycare goes straight to work.. kids playing quietly in the backseat.. he goes in to the office thinking his wife, as is usual, took the child to daycare, and all is right in his world.

Now put yourself in those shoes. Tell me how you'd feel when you got out of work and realized you just killed the most important being in your life.

I REALLY don't think this was intentional, he went to work, not to a bar or to a drug house to shoot up heroin, and is no less devastating than the mom or dad that accidentally backs over their child in the driveway on their way to work.

I've got to take the empathetic route on this one.

 

[HowDareYou]

You make me sick. Do you think you're a Christian, judging them like that? You don't know anything about the mother. These people are suffering enough, why don't you try to show some compassion?

and a whole lot worse I'm praying the dad gets. Mom deserves to be held accountable also. He and the childs adoptive mother obviously, shouldn't have been given the worlds most precious gift of a child. Maybe that's why they had to do an out of country adoption????

sick mutherf**ker. Suffer in hell. The two of them.

 

[HowDareYou]

You're trash.

it was a yukon a smaller version of you suburban


WTF you know that MFer was working and thought he could just leave the kid in the car...

there is a reason he was not blessed with his own children. cause he is too fukin stupid to raise children. I guess with money you can buy what you want even if its a little russian baby

 

[SAB]

So sad . . .

 

[SamSpade]

it was a yukon a smaller version of you suburban


WTF you know that MFer was working and thought he could just leave the kid in the car...

there is a reason he was not blessed with his own children. cause he is too fukin stupid to raise children. I guess with money you can buy what you want even if its a little russian baby

I expect that people who know me were probably expecting this, but...

If I were you, I wouldn't expose my stupidity to the entire world so brazenly.

I adopted a little boy from Russia - last March, actually (a year ago).

Would you like to know what you have to go through to complete an adoption? From *RUSSIA*?

A few years back, a child adopted from Russia was killed by his adoptive parents. Russia cancelled the licenses of all adoption agencies, and very slowly reviewed every case since then.

We were given pages of records to complete. Dozens of hours of online courses to complete. Pages of things to write. Biographies. Recommendation letters from friends who also needed to be vetted. Several interviews one on one with social workers.

This was JUST to complete the home study, which is the equivalent of an application.

We had to have our home inspected by just about every person under the sun. We had to have a social worker inspect our home for safety, and withold approval until all safety requirements were met. We were fingerprinted at least three times, twice requiring a drive to Baltimore. Our criminal records had to be done, background checks, tax records for at least three years. We had to have full physicals along with a actual copy of our doctor's license. I had to switch doctors because many would refuse this procedure.

We had to have a full evaluation of our total assets done by an accounting firm. We had to have pictures taken of us, our home inside and out. We had to furnish veterinary records for our pets.

All of these documents had to be apostilled, not notarized. Apostilled means a trip to Annapolis so it can be notarized by the state of Maryland.

I could go on. THIS, was just to get to the referral stage. Once you get a referral, you have to go to Russia - just to see the child. Once it's approved, you have to repeat several of the previous mentioned steps, and arrange travel. Your second stay in Russia will last at least a month.

You go to see the child, and a state official watches to see what kind of parent you'll be, and they testify as to what they see in court. You wait ten days minimum because it can be contested at any time.

I can also tell you at length - any stay in Russia is neither cheap, nor is it a walk in the park. I won't elaborate on some of the more unpleasant occurences.

This was the MOST difficult thing I've ever done in my entire life - and I'm going to try it again in a year.

THIS - to be a parent of a Russian child.

Do you know what you have to do to be a natural parent? Wet your wick for ten seconds. Done.

Stick with something you actually know something about, IF there is ANYTHING you know about. Adopting from abroad is ESPECIALLY hard. Next to China, Russia is the hardest country to adopt from.

 

[SoMDGirl42]

When my two older kids were little I forgot about them, twice. Luckily I forgot to pick them up at daycare, I ony lived a few miles from the daycare. Each time as soon as I pulled into the driveway I remembered and immediately turned around. I wasn't even late picking them up.

I feel so bad for this little one. I'm sure he suffered. Prayers for him and his family.

 

[CalvertNewbie]

I can't for the life of me understand how a parent can forget that their child in the car. This isn't the first story of it's kind I've heard and unfortunately, I doubt it will be the last. I can't imagine what that poor child went through and how he felt. I just picture him crying and nobody was there to help him.

Having said that, my heart also breaks for the parents (and everyone else who knows the family). This guy made a horrific mistake. The guilt and emptiness would be too much for me to bear. I don't know how he'll be able live with what he's done but at the same time, it was a really stupid mistake. Part of me wants to crucify him but more of me wants to hug him. Either way, I'm getting teary eyed just thinking about it so I'll just say that I wish the family much luck getting through this difficult time. There is a woman who is now without her baby and her husband. Her life is now hell, and she did nothing to derserve any of it. This entire situation is heartbreaking.