Asking How Someone Died

[ICit]

And you know this how?

Her stating she is Wendy's voice is what gets me. I was willing to give her the benefit of that doubt in not thinking she was Kookoo before that. But that comment is WAY out of line.

 

[Caution]

I will be honest. I barely knew her. I once shared a desk and phone with a fellow forumite that Wendy was close too. This was 6-7 years ago I guess. Apparently he told her he worked with me so she called me one night. To be honest, I thought she was a kook, because I really did not know the woman and here she was calling me out of the blue for no reason but to chat.

We talked for a couple hours and I quickly realized she was just that kind of person. Extremely friendly. Was a pleasure talking to her.

But there is ONE forumite on here that knew her well enough to 'possibly' SPEAK for Wendy but that gentleman has enough class to not make that claim.

But the point is, with Wendy's outgoing personality, for anyone to make the claim that they speak for her is outrageous.

My father died years ago but I certainly never claimed to be his voice. His life did that for him.

Mamakk, sorry Hun but you are out of line on this one

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Mamakk, sorry Hun but you are out of line on this one

Anything to garner attention. But it's a shame -- and sad -- that it was done this way.

 

[mAlice]

I really don't think mamatutu meant that Wenchy is speaking to her. I don't know exactly what she did mean, but I don't think it's what people are perceiving.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

I really don't think mamatutu meant that Wenchy is speaking to her. I don't know exactly what she did mean, but I don't think it's what people are perceiving.

I don't think that's what people are getting at. Mamakk said she was the last person Wenchy spoke to on the phone.

 

[mAlice]

I don't think that's what people are getting at. Mamakk said she was the last person from the forums Wenchy spoke to on the phone.

:fixed:

Now, I don't know if that's true or not, but that is what she said.

 

[Caution]

I really don't think mamatutu meant that Wenchy is speaking to her. I don't know exactly what she did mean, but I don't think it's what people are perceiving.

I agree with you. But for her to even make that statement just irks me. Nobody here has that right.

Edited. Cause I am on forum runner and don't have my glasses on. LOL

 

[mAlice]

I agree with you. But for her to even make that statement just irks me. Nobody here has that right.

If it's okay to ask how a person died, why isn't it okay to say that?

 

[Railroad]

Grief often includes a degree of anger and illogical thinking. For a time, we say and do things we wouldn't say or do at other times. Tolerance is a good thing at this time, because it draws on what's best in us and shows how great we can truly be. Just sayin'.

 

[Dye Tied]

You are truly a harsh person. I was her last voice through this forum, as in, the last forumite that spoke to her before her death. You have no respect for the dead, either. Oh, the tales I could tell. Where did I put my voodoo doll? Thank you, Wendy, I love you. I will, forever, miss you.

Stop, Socki. You are being disrespectful, and you will never get to me.

I read it as she can speak for and about Wendy because she thinks that she was the last forumite to talk with her. :shrug:

 

[ICit]

I read it as she can speak for and about Wendy because she thinks that she was the last forumite to talk with her. :shrug:

.... thats how i took it.

 

[Caution]

If it's okay to ask how a person died, why isn't it okay to say that?

I only think it's ok depending on who you are, your relationship to the deceased, the people present etc. and then only privately if you honestly need to know for some unknown reason.

I think whether or not one should ask about that is not really something that IMHO, a blanket statement would apply to.

 

[mAlice]

I only think it's ok depending on who you are, your relationship to the deceased, the people present etc.

What was her relationship with the deceased?

 

[Caution]

What was her relationship with the deceased?

I would venture a guess very much the same as many other forumites. Even if it was something special, I don't think it was special enough for her to speak on Wendy's behalf.

 

[mAlice]

I would venture a guess very much the same as many other forumites. Even if it was something special, I don't think it was special enough for her to speak on Wendy's behalf.

So you don't really know what her relationship was. Thank you.

 

[Caution]

So you don't really know what her relationship was. Thank you.

Don't think it matters, I for one don't go around stating I speak for the deceased.

 

[ICit]

Don't think it matters, I for one don't go around stating I speak for the deceased.

I wouldnt even say that if it was my own parents, sibling, or my BFF....

 

[Caution]

I wouldnt even say that if it was my own parents, sibling, or my BFF....

Ya that is a bit much. IMHO

 

[mAlice]

Don't think it matters, I for one don't go around stating I speak for the deceased.

Again, I believe her statement was misunderstood.

mamatutu doesn't appear to be well liked on the forums, so I'm just guessing, but if she had a friendship with Wenchy, it probably meant a lot to her.

 

[ICit]

Ya that is a bit much. IMHO

you cant speak for anyone but yourself... even if the other person is still alive