B-Day Sleep over gone wrong!

[vraiblonde]

She had a short black and white sliky dress/uniform with a tutu underneath and her boobs hanging out.

Well, people have to work, so what the heck.

BUT you never ever ever...EVER leave a bunch of pre-teens unattended because lord only knows what they'll get up to. My son had a sleepover when he was around 12 and I, thinking they were all settled in with Nintendo, made the mistake of going to bed. The next day I get a call from one of the Moms whose son told her that as soon as I was asleep, the boys went on walkabout around the neighborhood.



Needless to say, my son was in trouble and I had to call all the other parents and let them know what happened so they didn't think I was some dirtbag who lets her kid roam the neighborhood at 1am.

 

[GWguy]

Well, people have to work, so what the heck.

BUT you never ever ever...EVER leave a bunch of pre-teens unattended because lord only knows what they'll get up to. My son had a sleepover when he was around 12 and I, thinking they were all settled in with Nintendo, made the mistake of going to bed. The next day I get a call from one of the Moms whose son told her that as soon as I was asleep, the boys went on walkabout around the neighborhood.



Needless to say, my son was in trouble and I had to call all the other parents and let them know what happened so they didn't think I was some dirtbag who lets her kid roam the neighborhood at 1am.

Been there..... the walkabout after they went to sleep, I mean....

 

[nachomama]

Been there..... the walkabout after they went to sleep, I mean....

My son had a sleepover a few months ago (he's 14) and the guys were all in the basement. My 19 year old woke up to go to the bathroom around 2:30 a.m. and they were watching Skinemax (or something). She stormed right upstairs to tell me.

When the parents came to get their sons, I made sure to say "oh yeah, why don't you tell your mom about that movie you watched last night..." They won't try that again at my house.

 

[camily]

Well, people have to work, so what the heck.

BUT you never ever ever...EVER leave a bunch of pre-teens unattended because lord only knows what they'll get up to. My son had a sleepover when he was around 12 and I, thinking they were all settled in with Nintendo, made the mistake of going to bed. The next day I get a call from one of the Moms whose son told her that as soon as I was asleep, the boys went on walkabout around the neighborhood.



Needless to say, my son was in trouble and I had to call all the other parents and let them know what happened so they didn't think I was some dirtbag who lets her kid roam the neighborhood at 1am.

Oh yeah, I know she had to work. Doesn't bother me now what she did it. I had never seen anything like that as a little kid. I just remember it so vividly.

 

[bresamil]

Good work City Sherry. People don't seem to realize - even if they have the most responsible 11 or 12 year old - that the pack mentality will lead to trouble. If another child is at my house I don't ever leave them alone.

 

[desertrat]

What movie did the bad parents go and watch?

Don't you have some gas to go burn?

 

[kwillia]

Don't you have some gas to go burn?

http://forums.somd.com/life-southern-maryland/161263-explosions.html

 

[Bann]

Chicklet (11 y/o) gets invited to Marissa’s (12 y/o) sleep over birthday party. We take chicklet to the sleep over and leave our emergency contact info with the parents - we know Marissa’s parents socially, we’ve had dinner out, etc. I’m back home and my phone rings...it’s chicklet. She says “Mom, I think you’re going to be mad at me.” I ask why...chicklet says “Marissa’s parents are gone, they went out to a movie.” I asked who was left in charge - her reply was “nobody, we’re alone in the house.” I told chicklet I would be right there. I get to Marissa’s house and both parents are gone! I call Marissa’s parents cell phone but it immediately goes to voice mail - I guess they turned it off during the movie. Now, if there was a true emergency exactly how were these girls suppose to get in touch with them? I’m mad now. The invitation didn’t say the girls would be left alone and unsupervised nor did either parent mention it when we dropped chicklet off. I asked the other girls for their parent’s phone numbers. I called them and told them what was going on - that their child had been left alone. Every parent said they were unaware that the girls would be left alone. I told them that I would stay at the house until Marissa’s parents returned home. A little after 11pm the parents finally return home....they were surprised to find me there. I told them I didn’t appreciate them not telling me of their plans to go out and leaving the girls unsupervised. They apologized to me but then they got very mad at me when they found out that I had called the parents of the other girls.

What would you have done? Just gone and gotten your own child and not worry about the other girls?

I would have done the same thing. The other parents have no right to be mad at you.

 

[LusbyMom]

I would have done the same thing. They are at the age that they are old enough to be left alone but I think a Group is asking for nothing but trouble!

 

[sunflower]

I would trust my 12 yr old with a couple of friends over. He knows better...

 

[Daddy-man]

You did the right thing. I would have had my wife stay at the house and gone to the theatre. Parenting is a priviledge that is taken to lightly.

 

[myjobismommy]

My first thought was why didn't anyone elses parents come to pick up their child. If I had gotten a phone call that my child had been left alone at a sleep over - I"d gone over and picked my child up and that would be the last time she went over to that friends house.

 

[camily]

I would trust my 12 yr old with a couple of friends over. He knows better...

Yours may know better but it's the others you have to watch. Also, you know how kids are when they get in groups. They lose their common sense.

 

[virgovictoria]

Don't you people watch The Cosby's? I mean really. Whose kid would really call? They're supposed to be getting Vanessa drunk off of the name game. Sheesh!



In all sincerety, 11/12 is the perfect trust-forming age. Had the parents made clear that the "tweens" would be unnattended for say, 2-3 hours while at a movie (and that the dumbazzes would leave their phone on vibrate), all would have been a responsibililty lifting/testing experience.

I know what dangerous is. And that doesn't sound too terribly dangerous, as the parents were coming home at 11:00, not leaving. The ratio of parents to get a hold of were a lot higher (and probably closer and more dependable) than the parents at the movies.

And it's your kids you're supposed to trust, right? And that's what won out??

Good job, CitysherryMomma!

 

[Masey]

My parents would leave us kids (7 of us) alone almost every Friday and/or Saturday night - the older kids were in charge. Some of my parent’s friends would leave their kids at our house also. I remember the crap we would do...and the “I’m braver than you are”...which resulted in one of the Holbert boy’s (9 of them, their dad was a marine drill sergeant) breaking his neck!! He jumped off the roof of the house using a bed sheet as a parachute - he spent the rest of the summer in one of those halo-type neck braces that screw into your forehead. I can remember standing on the ground looking up at him on the roof thinking how much fun he was going to have floating the ground - needless to say, he didn’t float! But that’s just one of many, many stupid things we did or didn’t stop from happening. I will never leave one of children at another persons house unsupervised.

 

[nana]

It is a shame more parents are not like you. As has been said what your daughter did in calling shows what a great job you have done in parenting that she could trust you not to get mad at her and take care of a situation that could have gotten outta hand. Do not remember reading did any other parents come and get their kids??

 

[citysherry]

To my personal knowledge, none of the other parents came to get their daughter, at least not while I was still there. I didn’t stay very long after the parents returned from the movie. They still don’t think that they did anything wrong leaving a group of 11/12 year olds alone for the evening. They believe that I overstepped some boundary with them by calling the other parents. I wanted to take my child and leave but I just couldn’t leave the rest of those girls alone unsupervised which is why I made the phone calls...some parents I could get a hold of but others I could not which is why I stayed until Marissa’s parents returned home. Unfortunately, my girl is the one suffering the repercussions my actions - middle school girls can be very mean.

 

[camily]

To my personal knowledge, none of the other parents came to get their daughter, at least not while I was still there. I didn’t stay very long after the parents returned from the movie. They still don’t think that they did anything wrong leaving a group of 11/12 year olds alone for the evening. They believe that I overstepped some boundary with them by calling the other parents. I wanted to take my child and leave but I just couldn’t leave the rest of those girls alone unsupervised which is why I made the phone calls...some parents I could get a hold of but others I could not which is why I stayed until Marissa’s parents returned home. Unfortunately, my girl is the one suffering the repercussions my actions - middle school girls can be very mean.

Don't worry about it. Think about what could have happened. Can you even imagine if there had been an accident or they invited someone else over etc. and something happened if you weren't there? In time your daughter will understand. Her friends will too.

 

[nana]

To my personal knowledge, none of the other parents came to get their daughter, at least not while I was still there. I didn’t stay very long after the parents returned from the movie. They still don’t think that they did anything wrong leaving a group of 11/12 year olds alone for the evening. They believe that I overstepped some boundary with them by calling the other parents. I wanted to take my child and leave but I just couldn’t leave the rest of those girls alone unsupervised which is why I made the phone calls...some parents I could get a hold of but others I could not which is why I stayed until Marissa’s parents returned home. Unfortunately, my girl is the one suffering the repercussions my actions - middle school girls can be very mean.

But remind her that her true friends will stand by no matter what you are still in the right and I am sure that she knows that too

Anyway next week there will be another victim to torture over some middle school girl infraction and she will be off the hook
Happy Holidays!!!!