Bachelorette Party Opinions

[dreamland]

I am in a wedding (which is my first wedding I have been in) and need your opinions.....

Do you think that all of the people in the bridal party should pay for their part, whether they are going to the bachelorette party or not?

I say yes because it's not fair for the rest of the party to pay additional, when everyone knows what the responsibilities are when being in a wedding from the beginning!

What do you think?

 

[suzeQ]

Why would anyone who is in the bridal party not go to the bachelorette party? If they are close enough to the bride to be asked to be an attendant, I would think they would make it a point to go to all the festivities. If they can't make it, I would hope they would still feel an obligation to help out with any costs. JMO

 

[workin hard]

Why would anyone who is in the bridal party not go to the bachelorette party? If they are close enough to the bride to be asked to be an attendant, I would think they would make it a point to go to all the festivities. If they can't make it, I would hope they would still feel an obligation to help out with any costs. JMO

I think it is only fair to help out with all costs regardless of if your going or not. When you say yes to be in a wedding you say yes to all financial obligations that go with it.

 

[aps45819]

You should bring your own bills to stuff in the strippers ... .
OK, what do male strippers use to collect tips? The gals wear a garter.

 

[suzeQ]

You should bring your own bills to stuff in the strippers ... .
OK, what do male strippers use to collect tips? The gals wear a garter.

The guys wear those tiny little speedo-like undies! It's tough to tuck bills in without touching some sensitive areas.

 

[K_Jo]

When you agree to be in a wedding, you are agreeing to give up half your life savings. That's all there is to it.

 

[workin hard]

When you agree to be in a wedding, you are agreeing to give up half your life savings. That's all there is to it.

Isn't that the truth. I felt bad because the shoes I picked out were like $60 but they were honestly one of the cheapest pairs in there and I knew they would never wear them again.

 

[Oz]

Like everything else, if you go, you pay.

If part of the wedding party is out of town, they should not be expected to pay. If they have other obligations, work, etc, then they should not be expected to pay.

Sounds like you're in over your head with party expenses. Have a party you can afford. Others shouldn't have to pay for your big ideas, unless they participate. Other folks might have circumstances where they can't afford it either. Scale down so everyone can enjoy.

 

[K_Jo]

Isn't that the truth. I felt bad because the shoes I picked out were like $60 but they were honestly one of the cheapest pairs in there and I knew they would never wear them again.

I had my girls pick their own shoes, but I did make them take me to Atlantic City!

 

[AllyCat]

I was having mixed feeling! This is my first wedding I am in too. Now I know what my obligations are.

 

[Stang Girl]

We are all new at this so we kind of don't know what we are doing. I just want every one to go and if somone can't go I will pay... I don't mind paying.

 

[AllyCat]

We are all new at this so we kind of don't know what we are doing. I just want every one to go and if somone can't go I will pay... I don't mind paying.

You shouldn't have to pay it's your party! Some of us just can't go if it's out of town. But nothing has been decided. We are going to talk about it later.

 

[Oz]

We are all new at this so we kind of don't know what we are doing. I just want every one to go and if somone can't go I will pay... I don't mind paying.

Problem solved - that's what I'd do too!

You're asking them to be in your wedding. But as a friend, you don't want that to present any kind of financial hardship. By picking up the slack, you are still able to have your friends present.

 

[Stang Girl]

Problem solved - that's what I'd do too!

You're asking them to be in your wedding. But as a friend, you don't want that to present any kind of financial hardship. By picking up the slack, you are still able to have your friends present.

But some people don't think I should pay? I guess we will have to deal with it once that time get's here.

 

[Mook]

If they don't go they don't pay no harm done.

 

[Ehesef]

I'm not in the wedding, but if I'm invited to the bachelorette party (hint, hint) I plan on paying my fair share. I wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[dreamland]

Thanks for the opinions.....just wanted to know how the everyone felt about it.

 

[aps45819]

But some people don't think I should pay? I guess we will have to deal with it once that time get's here.

Don't know about the etiquette for a bachlorette, but for a bachlor party, it's usually arranged by the best man and the groom is an invited guest whose tab is picked up by the participants.

 

[workin hard]

I'm not in the wedding, but if I'm invited to the bachelorette party (hint, hint) I plan on paying my fair share. I wouldn't have it any other way.

Real subtle there

 

[Stang Girl]

Don't know about the etiquette for a bachlorette, but for a bachlor party, it's usually arranged by the best man and the groom is an invited guest whose tab is picked up by the participants.

Thats sound like a good ideal.