baptism

[sockgirl77]

Thats just it though. I don't know what is the right answer. decisions, decisions

Then wait until you are 100% and you and your hubby agree with it. I would never make a decision like that without him agreeing.

 

[usagent]

Thats just it though. I don't know what is the right answer. decisions, decisions

May I suggest finding the answer in your Bible. That way It cant be subject to opinion or "religious" doctrine.

 

[sockgirl77]

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[hotmomma]

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[rraley]

because Im confused about it all. i was taught that every baby must be baptised. no one really knows what happens when we die but my family members believe that if you have not been baptised you will not be accepted into heaven (at any age). i feel like i would just do it for peace of mind. would i feel guilty if something bad were to happen (god forbid) and my daughter didnt get to spend eternity in heaven? my husband is being stubborn and will not allow god parents so i dont even know if baptism is an option

There may be a solution here for you. It is possible for the godparents of a child to also be the birth parents of the child. Perhaps that is an option your husband can accept.

 

[Bird Dog]

Then wait until you are 100% and you and your hubby agree with it. I would never make a decision like that without him agreeing.

WC Fields was a confirmed atheist. When he was on his deathbed he was caught reading the Bible. When asked why, he said he was looking for a "loophole". Start your child off in the right direction and let them decide later on what path they want to folllow. You shouldn't start them off without faith. JMHO

 

[hotmomma]

There may be a solution here for you. It is possible for the godparents of a child to also be the birth parents of the child. Perhaps that is an option your husband can accept.

Doubtful. godparents are there to raise your child if you should die. i don't know how many kids actually go to live with godparents in those situations. from what i have heard, kids usually go with grandparents.

 

[rraley]

Doubtful. godparents are there to raise your child if you should die. i don't know how many kids actually go to live with godparents in those situations. from what i have heard, kids usually go with grandparents.

I'm just talking about in terms of Catholic baptism. There is no stipulation within Church rules that godparents have to raise their godchild in teh case of her birth parents' deaths. Catholic rules state that you need grandparents - one of which must be a Catholic in good standing (i.e., just get a priest to sign something for you). Parents can fit this definition, though most priests counsel against it.

 

[ItalianScallion]

Thats just it though. I don't know what is the right answer. decisions, decisions

The right answer is NOT to listen to traditions even if it is your family. The right thing to do is NOT baptize her now. Let her grow up some, teach her about TRUE salvation, let her accept Jesus (get saved) then have her baptized shortly after. Infant baptism (in God's eyes) means nothing. Human traditions should never override God's Word. Nothing different will happen to her whether she is baptized or not. The problem is dealing with the family and, if you have this pressure/problem now, it will only get worse if you don't stop it here.

 

[kom526]

If you are not a practicing, go to church every Sunday Catholic (not just C & E) then why bother? You have to do what you feel is right for you and your family, and looking for an answer to this question on a message board is not the place to begin.

 

[Radiant1]

Doubtful. godparents are there to raise your child if you should die. i don't know how many kids actually go to live with godparents in those situations. from what i have heard, kids usually go with grandparents.

Sponsors don't raise your child in case of your death unless you want them to and it's stipulated in your will. Honestly, I don't even talk to my children's godfather anymore; however, I do know that if something were to happen to me that he would make sure they had a way to Mass and attend sacraments, etc. That's why I chose him to sponsor my kids, because I could trust him to do that. You don't have to have two sponsors, only one, and that can be a family member. HTH.

 

[Radiant1]

I was hoping for an explaination because I new the definition. I wanted to allow you an oppurtunity so I did not assume anything. The way the definition you gave me is written.
Salvation is:
1. dependent on circumstances beyond one's control; uncertain; unstable; insecure: a precarious livelihood.
2. dependent on the will or pleasure of another; liable to be withdrawn or lost at the will of another: He held a precarious tenure under an arbitrary administration.
3. exposed to or involving danger; dangerous; perilous; risky: the precarious life of an underseas diver.
4. having insufficient, little, or no foundation: a precarious assumption.

Change "another" to God and definition #2 fits. Catholics don't believe in "once saved always saved". All the scripture quotes you posted can be interpreted in various ways which is why it's important to refer back to Aposotlic authority, which you obviously don't do. To each his own. :shrug:

You know you could have just stated your POV without lamely picking on an adjective.

 

[usagent]

Change "another" to God and definition #2 fits. Catholics don't believe in "once saved always saved". All the scripture quotes you posted can be interpreted in various ways which is why it's important to refer back to Aposotlic authority, which you obviously don't do. To each his own. :shrug:

You know you could have just stated your POV without lamely picking on an adjective.

Thank you for explaining. I was curious not angry. I apologize.